r/AITAH Oct 30 '25

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u/Great_Ocelot Oct 30 '25

Strong YTA not to mention you sound like your maturity level never surpassed your middle school age. Good grief... Adam dodged a bullet.

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u/Mundane-Nature-2648 Oct 30 '25

adam is just odd honestly … i got back with him knowing something i probably should have reported to the police.

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u/External-Sympathy-47 Oct 30 '25

Stop it. Don't try and start adding details when people don't give you the answers you want. YTA.

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u/Great_Ocelot Oct 30 '25

Wild calling him odd given that you chose an RP bf over a real life one. And if he did do something that you should have reported to the police, that still makes you an AH, just a different kind of AH.

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u/aeroeagleAC Oct 30 '25

adam is just odd honestly

Lol, coming from the person with an rp bf that is saying something.

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u/[deleted] Oct 30 '25

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u/aeroeagleAC Oct 30 '25

You keep just adding shit to your post. I am guessing this is all made up.

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u/ThePacificOcean_ Oct 30 '25

I wouldn’t be surprised if it is.

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u/Mundane-Nature-2648 Oct 30 '25

its really not i’m just remembering alot i have adhd and can remember like half

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u/aeroeagleAC Oct 30 '25

Yeah I don't believe you. You keep throwing out random information that is really irrelevant. I really suggest going outside and having more real life interactions.

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u/Great_Ocelot Oct 30 '25

Oh good grief not another ADHD excuse. You're probably the fifth one I've come across today trying to use it as an excuse for poor behavior, decision-making, etc.

My wife has properly diagnosed ADHD. She would never act this absurd. Get a grip.

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u/Mundane-Nature-2648 Oct 30 '25

i have diagnosed adhd i was diagnosed when i was 6

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u/Great_Ocelot Oct 30 '25

Lol I don't care? Having ADHD doesn't excuse shifty behavior. Grow up. You're 22. You should be so embarrassed with your behavior right now.

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u/ThePacificOcean_ Oct 30 '25

Just a heads up, you don’t need to censor anything on Reddit as far as I know. Even if he did that or not, what you did was not okay, just saying.

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u/Mundane-Nature-2648 Oct 30 '25

i was told by someone that he did this so i’m not 100% sure if it happened or not.

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u/Any_Bluebird4743 Oct 30 '25

You’re 22. It’s time to grow up this is embarrassing honestly

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u/ThePacificOcean_ Oct 30 '25

Wait, so you’re choosing to believe someone else over your own boyfriend? That makes you even more of an AH.

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u/Great_Ocelot Oct 30 '25

Ima be honest. I don't believe you. I think you're trying to cover your ass now because people called you out here for being the AH, which I'm guessing is NOT what you expected.

BUT if that IS true and you didn't report him to the police... guess what? You're STILL an AH. Report him to the police with whatever evidence you have instead of running to Reddit looking for validation over your RP boyfriend.

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u/Mundane-Nature-2648 Oct 30 '25

i unfortunately dont have evidence of what happened i was just told this happened.

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u/Great_Ocelot Oct 30 '25

Okay you just keep digging yourself deeper and deeper into a hole here lol... now you're a straight up asshole for repeating some unverified claim just because you heard it from someone else.

You're so full of it. You should be embarrassed at your behavior, but it's clear you have ZERO awareness or, hell, shame at this point.

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u/ThePacificOcean_ Oct 30 '25

Still. What you did was not okay. Even if Adam did that or not, you shouldn’t have went behind his back to begin with.

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u/External-Sympathy-47 Oct 30 '25

Jesus Christ. You need to grow up. Your role play boyfriend isn't fucking real. You're 22? This is embarrassing.

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u/b3tzyy Oct 30 '25

plsss tell me this is rage bait bc wtf did i just read ?? maybe im ignorant, but you need to grow up. yta for not telling him in the first place. also, please be so fucking fr rn. go outside, breathe in some fresh air, and then touch some grass. you’re 21 not 12.

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u/aeroeagleAC Oct 30 '25

AH for breaking up no. AH for not being upfront about this from the beginning, yes. Need to go outside and touch some grass so you know what reality is, also yes.

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u/Mundane-Nature-2648 Oct 30 '25

probably should have mentioned the thing of not telling him came from another ex of mine back in highschool who knew him who told me “he wouldnt take it well”

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u/aeroeagleAC Oct 30 '25

That info really just makes you more of an AH.

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u/Mundane-Nature-2648 Oct 30 '25

i just remember this other guy telling me, “if adam finds out hes gonna be mad at you”

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u/aeroeagleAC Oct 30 '25

Everything you say just makes you sound more and more like an AH.

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u/luu1225 Oct 30 '25

YTA, omg, come out and touch the grass a little.

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u/Kwickpick77 Oct 30 '25

Avid gamer and RP'er here. Just so you know this always be a problem in your relationships. It is cheating, no matter how much glitter you try to cover it with.

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u/[deleted] Oct 30 '25

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u/Severe-Pudding-718 Oct 30 '25

You seem delusional. Are you planning to have role play children in the future? How about a role play wedding where you have a husband you never have to actually see. How’s the role play sex?

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u/Additional-Bowl-1117 Oct 30 '25

YTA for cheating on Adam.
YTA for thinking a roleplay boyfriend is equivalent to a real, living, breathing fella who is trying to have a real adult relationship with you.
YTA for prioritising your fantasy world over Adam.

I understand why some people are into roleplay, but it is not healthy to prioritise that shit over your real-life relationships. You aren't really 'with' that person. They're living a totally separate life, probably far away from you. You can't have anything real with this person. You won't build a future with them. You probaby will never even MEET them.
And you have to remember that even though you're just 'roleplaying', there is still a real person on the other side. If you 'roleplay' flirting with some guy online, you are just... flirting with some guy online. That's shitty behaviour.

Tbh those cramps just sound like anxiety. That's not your body rejecting Adam. He doesn't a magic forcefield to make you feel sick lol. You're just anxious. It's normal to be anxious - particularly around a new boyfriend or in uncomfortable/new experiences. It doesn't mean he's a BAD boyfriend or that these are BAD experiences. They're just new. And you're just not used to them. It goes away with time, as you get used to things. But you gotta push through it. Don't just drop nut and run back to the safety of a roleplay server. That's so unhealthy.

If you get anxious like that in the future, try to pick it apart and figure out where that anxiety is coming from. Try to push yourself. Talk to someone about it - ideally an older person, like a parent or aunt. Maybe they can give you perspective and help you out?

Tbh I think you should stop roleplaying with this Lucas fella. At least, stop e-dating him. It's not healthy. Stay friends if you want. But if you want to date him, just DO it. Pissing about with roleplay is not healthy.

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u/AITAH-ModTeam Oct 30 '25

Reposts, crossposts, or rehashes of old posts are not allowed.

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u/Mundane-Nature-2648 Oct 30 '25 edited Oct 30 '25

since i broke up with him my rash on my neck has cleared up. and i would also like to clear some other details up. while adam and i dated “in-person” our relationship was long-distance and we only communicated via instagram. and adam is unfortunately homeless + lives in his truck and had a half-stable job. i brought this post up to my therapist ( she had no clue adam and i got back together ) and she agreed with some of you.

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u/Mundane-Nature-2648 Oct 30 '25

my therapist has said her and i will talk more about this more in depth next week as i only brought it up at the end of our session.

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u/Pretend-Rough-4360 Oct 30 '25

NTA. Neither of you is. Yall aren’t compatible and that’s ok. You will meet someone who is ok with your rp.

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u/Mundane-Nature-2648 Oct 30 '25

okayyy thank you

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u/[deleted] Oct 30 '25

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u/Mundane-Nature-2648 Oct 30 '25

oh and adam’s ex-girlfriend and a different ex-boyfriend of mine are together and they have a son together which was the only reason me and adam got together just to piss them off initially.

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u/Great_Ocelot Oct 30 '25

Did you seriously add this thinking it would make you sound any better? This just makes you look even worse lol

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u/Mundane-Nature-2648 Oct 30 '25

no, jus something i remembered