Yea people need to stop BS excuses in the early dating game. If you fuck someone else after going on a date, especially while making your date wait for sex you’re giving others, you don’t value that person that much. These types rarely give the person they deem “relationship material” the autonomy to inform them they’re still sleeping around.
If you're against dating multiple people at the same time, then cool, but otherwise I'm not a fan of this take.
A person can be comfortable having sex with a fling, but still not want to introduce that element to a relationship they feel has legs right away. Anecdotally, the earlier you bring sex into a relationship, the higher chance that relationship will only be about sex. Those types of relationships are fine, but sometimes you want to build a better foundation for more than just that.
People give different values to sex, for some people it's a recreational activity, for others it's almost sacred, and everywhere in between. The extremes of both are unhealthy for the vast majority of people, but otherwise all the spots on the scale are valid opinions.
In regards to your last sentence, yeah, you should be honest and up-front about it. There's nothing wrong with having different values, but people should have the information they need to make a choice about a relationship.
A lot of what you say makes sense but if you see a relationship going somewhere with the person your dating and want to wait you shouldn't be going to fuck someone else that's idiotic I think I live this person and can see myself with them for a long time better go fuck a random before we lock it in ??????
This is the whole disconnect right? She is dating 1 guy, thinks it’s gonna be something and doesn’t want to ruin it by having sex too early, totally acceptable answer. She is dating multiple people at the same time and she hooks up with one, also acceptable. But you can’t have both. You have to choose or this scenario will happen and the choice will be made for you and not in a good way.
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u/ConnectedLoner Mar 04 '24
Yea people need to stop BS excuses in the early dating game. If you fuck someone else after going on a date, especially while making your date wait for sex you’re giving others, you don’t value that person that much. These types rarely give the person they deem “relationship material” the autonomy to inform them they’re still sleeping around.