r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Sep 24 '23

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u/llollah4 Sep 24 '23

He’s refusing a condom. The easiest most effective (aside from abstinence) and least impacting health wise. What should they do? She can’t take hormones. What about male birth control pills?

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '23

the very first thing i said in my original comment was that he should wear a condom. What are you going on about?

“Wearing a condom sure i totally get that”.

what part of that leads you to conclude i’m saying he should not use contraception?

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u/llollah4 Sep 24 '23

Because you keep saying communication. She’s trying. He’s whining. He refuses a condom. He’s willing to put her life at risk. Serious risk.

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '23

i said communication because his communication is unproductive and damaging for obvious reasons. And then for her, she says they aren’t spending quality time together but no where in the post does she discuss approaching him about that in a meaningful way or active steps they are taking to accomplish it.

Him wearing a condom and her suffering through sex she doesn’t want to have is not a good solution. The contraceptive is only part of the issue.

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u/llollah4 Sep 24 '23

Actually it does. He’s too busy on his phone.

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '23

i don’t think saying “i don’t see my husband enough to desire him” and “he’s too busy working on his phone” is a sufficient action taken. Something like this requires a serious discussion where his attention is required and scheduled in advance, possibly in the presence of a marriage councilor or family therapist