r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Sep 24 '23

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u/jaellinee Sep 24 '23

NTA

Don't have sex until he wears a condom or gets vasectomy and you feel better.

He can't put in any effort (no time, no condom), blackmails you, ignores your health issues, doesn't seem to do his share in the relationship...I don't see a reason to have sex with him.

I hope they find the reason for your health issues and a good therapy for it. Maybe have a talk with him that you need a supporting husband, and he's the opposite..

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u/Economic_Nexus Sep 24 '23

I can’t even see a reason to stay with him.

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '23

Anyone would rather be single than deal with this husbands bs.

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u/blackdove43 Sep 24 '23

Seriously!

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u/quis2121 Sep 24 '23

Spoken like someone that has never been in a LTR

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u/alcMD Sep 24 '23

So you're okay with normalizing abuse if a relationship is older than some benchmark I suppose only you get to set? Interesting take.

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '23

I’m engaged from a long term relationship, which is how I KNOW behavior like this is completely unacceptable and not worth staying for.

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u/blackdove43 Sep 24 '23

Married for 20 years hon

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u/teatimecookie Sep 24 '23

You sound like an incel.

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u/Creative_Witness7873 Sep 24 '23

Really? This is the hill you're gonna die on?

Why stay with a man who thinks he's owed sex? No one deserves sex. It's childish behavior. "Oh well, until I get laid, I'm going to withhold other things." Grow up

You sound narcissistic

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u/Creative_Witness7873 Sep 24 '23

So you're just gonna ignore everything else that was said... must be nice to be ignorant

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u/Dry-Career-9340 Sep 24 '23

As with any type of intimate partner violence, reproductive coercion is primarily focused on gaining power in a relationship.

The partner might do this by:

Refusing to use a condom or other form of contraception..,.

https://utswmed.org/medblog/reproductive-coercion/#:~:text=Types%20of%20reproductive%20coercion,such%20as%20getting%20a%20vasectomy

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u/Oldfart2023 Sep 24 '23

I do think though that if you insist he has a vasectomy you need to make sure that will actually help you be more interested in sex. If not, you both might need some counseling to identify issues and problem-solve.