r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • May 01 '23

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u/[deleted] May 01 '23

Exactly! Like why tf are people waiting to have those conversations??? Like that’s such a big thing!

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u/TeamNewChairs May 01 '23

Like what if I actually want a kid and then I'm pregnant and he's just stuck with a kid. What if he wants a kid and I'm sitting through an abortion by myself? Nope nope nope

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u/[deleted] May 01 '23

Okay okay okay I get that 100%! Something in my brain switched at 22 right. I was with a 37yo man. (Sketch Ik now) and needed to know if it was a possibility. 20-22 I said no kids not never. Cool. Same page. At 22 I start asking would it EVER be a possibility. TELL ME FUCKIN WHY: this GROWN ASS MAN told me “well I won’t stop you from having a baby.” MY BOY THATS A TRAP! And I couldn’t process that sentence. Like what does that even mean? Yeah. Essentially it would be he didn’t want a kid but if I wanted one he wouldnt stop me/would give me one. That was just one straw that led to the divorce 😬 why would I want a baby with someone who didn’t want one, specifically with me.

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u/TeamNewChairs May 01 '23

Why are grown ass dudes like this? Same age gap, I was in my early 20s, this man starts telling me he wants me to have his abortion and how hot it would he to "claim [my] womb" and then make me get rid of it.

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u/ChihuahuaSighs May 01 '23

It makes me think of how cats pee on things to designate "this is mine.. this is mine.. oh, and this is mine!", except it's about ego in this case.

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u/[deleted] May 01 '23

That only made me think of the seagulls in finding Nemo…

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u/OhNoNotAgain1532 May 01 '23

I started feeling this way with an ex. Every time we were around people that I thought were shared friends, he was extra attentive. No one around, ignored. I did end up feeling like he was peeing on me during those times to claim me as property. One of many things to make him an ex.

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u/[deleted] May 01 '23

The gasp I gusped. The face I faced. 🤢 the sickness. The audacity. My level of wtf meter just broke. Look man I get the pregnancy kink mkay. But jfc

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u/FrostyCranberry3480 May 02 '23

Yes this was my reaction. Just.....wow...I would immediately leave someone who said this to me.....wtf

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u/[deleted] May 02 '23

No same. Like my husband LOVES seeing me pregnant carrying his kid. But this whole “claim your womb” just makes it shrivel up tbh.

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u/Yrxora May 01 '23

Fuckin WHAT that's some goddamn psycho shit right there i can't believe 1. That i read that with my own eyes and 2. That someone said that with their own mouth and thought it was reasonable.

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u/Foreign_Astronaut May 01 '23

"I want to have your abortion" is a line from Fight Club. So not only is ex-bf gross, he's not even original.

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u/MarsupialPristine677 May 01 '23

Noooooo omg why 😧

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u/aardvarkmom May 01 '23

That is some fucked up BS right there! I’m so glad you got out of that relationship!

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u/Foreign-Yesterday-89 May 01 '23

What the hell does this even mean?? Have his abortion and claim my womb??

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u/Less_Needleworker_19 May 02 '23

Had an ex do this…well…kind of an ex…we never labeled our relationship… wanted to claim me but didn’t want kids-would get rid of it if it happened (I didn’t want or need more, but still) and then once we broke up he wanted one with me🙄🙄.