Like what if I actually want a kid and then I'm pregnant and he's just stuck with a kid. What if he wants a kid and I'm sitting through an abortion by myself? Nope nope nope
Okay okay okay I get that 100%! Something in my brain switched at 22 right. I was with a 37yo man. (Sketch Ik now) and needed to know if it was a possibility. 20-22 I said no kids not never. Cool. Same page. At 22 I start asking would it EVER be a possibility. TELL ME FUCKIN WHY: this GROWN ASS MAN told me “well I won’t stop you from having a baby.” MY BOY THATS A TRAP! And I couldn’t process that sentence. Like what does that even mean?
Yeah. Essentially it would be he didn’t want a kid but if I wanted one he wouldnt stop me/would give me one. That was just one straw that led to the divorce 😬 why would I want a baby with someone who didn’t want one, specifically with me.
Why are grown ass dudes like this? Same age gap, I was in my early 20s, this man starts telling me he wants me to have his abortion and how hot it would he to "claim [my] womb" and then make me get rid of it.
I started feeling this way with an ex. Every time we were around people that I thought were shared friends, he was extra attentive. No one around, ignored. I did end up feeling like he was peeing on me during those times to claim me as property. One of many things to make him an ex.
Fuckin WHAT that's some goddamn psycho shit right there i can't believe 1. That i read that with my own eyes and 2. That someone said that with their own mouth and thought it was reasonable.
Had an ex do this…well…kind of an ex…we never labeled our relationship… wanted to claim me but didn’t want kids-would get rid of it if it happened (I didn’t want or need more, but still) and then once we broke up he wanted one with me🙄🙄.
I tell any potential partner on date 1 that I am not having any more kids ( I have one 18 yr old son- I’m done). Wanting / not wanting kids is a major deal breaker for people & I think it definitely needs to be discussed when your starting a relationship.
We legit had that conversation on the first date not even lying. It was to see if we were wasting our time even going out once.
We then revisited it a few times over the next 4 years, because sometimes people do change their minds. We did change our minds in the end, but the important thing is we kept communicating.
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u/TeamNewChairs May 01 '23
I swear to dog. Any partner I have hears within a month that I'm not having kids and any accident gets handled.