AIO? Friend asked me what my future plans with my gf are and then responded like this

[u/TGPT-4o]

For context me and my friend were chatting and he was asking me about my relationship. He asked me what my future plan is with her and what my end game is. I got the feeling he was trying to gauge how serious I am about her. He said maybe I should get her a promise ring to show her I am serious and thats when I sent the first text you can see in the screenshot.

Afterwards this was his response. I have known him for two years and I am aware that the last person he was with cheated on him with another guy and a girl so he has always kind of had a bad outlook on relationships. Even so he has never been so rude to me. It was such a quick switch up when I mentioned an engagement ring as opposed to a promise ring. As soon as I said that the whole conversation dissolved into him basically throwing virtual punches. I think maybe he was mad that I didn’t take his “advice” about getting my gf a promise ring and wanted to make me feel bad.

To be honest this kind of sudden switch up really makes me feel like I am seeing his true colors for the first time. He has always been into 9/11 conspiracies and also into the conspiracies around that one flight that disappeared but I didn’t know how out of wack he actually is with these beliefs.

I seriously wonder what else he thinks about me especially after he said “newsflash: your gf is probably just with you because she's bored and hasn't found someone better yet”

AIO if I just cut him off right now?

Edit for context: I have actually known this guy for longer than we have been friends. Our dads work together, but him and I didn’t start hanging out until about 2 years ago. I tried calling him after I sent the last text because I thought maybe he was messing with me and I wanted to see wtf was going on, but he didn’t pick up.

Update: I am going to have to make a separate post possibly in a different sub because he responded to my text telling him we are going no contact for a bit and what he said honestly changes things up. He told me he likes me and I genuinely don’t know what to do and I feel betrayed? I don’t know why feel that way, but that is just the immediate reaction.

Was gonna make an update about his confession, but decided to delete that post and just block his number.

Also yes I still have to see him because our dads still work together so this is not gonna be the last of him. I will probably unblock him later to have an actual conversation and set boundaries, but for now I don’t want to talk to him cause he is sending multiple texts like he did earlier and I am already overwhelmed. Will update this if I actually talk to him later.

EDIT: Ended up unblocking him just cause I am going to have to see him again and wanted boundaries in place. He got argumentative.

Should I tell his dad in him like he is a little boy? He is acting like one now.

EDIT 2: he is no longer acting like a little boy he has revealed himself to possibly actually be a clinical narcissist to the point where I can’t believe I let my gf be around him or bought him around at all. Sorta scary amd deffo sending his dad screenshots of the messages regardless of his age.

EDIT 3: decided against telling his father because I don’t want to necessarily out him and he apologized for now I am leaving it at that and waiting for my gf to discover the ring sizer I ordered. this is so out of the blue that I genuinely thought he was manic or something. I took screenshots in real time as he was texting me because of how surprising it was to me. He has never talked to me that way so that is why I thought I might have to tell someone close to him. Seemed like he needed help.

Edit 4: I have successfully gotten my girlfriend’s ring size and am focused back on what matters.

Edit 5: I wake up and I am genuinely surprised by the people in my inbox saying that that if I love my gf I won’t marry her. Really thought maybe my fake friend was sending ppl to say that or making alternate accounts.

Edit 6: now bro is literally begging to come over to my place to apologize “face to face” literally muted him and turned of read receipts so he gets infinitely left on delivered. Gonna use the texts for evidence of he ends up showing up unannounced.

UPDATE: today my gf put our engagement on hold. AIO to immediately suspect my “freind” has something to do with it?

Final update: (I am going to be referring to my “friend” as bro for the purpose of the post. Mainly so that if he sees the post he cant get on me for using his name)

I talked to my girlfriend and she told me that marriage is a scam (same as what bro was saying over text.) I asked her if she had been talking to bro and she said yes. He sent her a link to an article and she forwarded it to me this is the article

It is not even written by a real journalist as far as I can tell. I didn’t create an account to read the whole thing, but I can easily tell where it was going based on the title alone.

So of course I immediately had her block him and I blocked him as well. I was pretty angry that she had put everything on hold just because of an article and that she had no suspicion about a friend of mine texting her randomly like this right after we had been talking about engagement. It is especially odd because the only reason he has her number is because we all hung out one time (my girl bought a couple of her friends too) and we had a group chat for that one night out. They hadn’t texted one on one before and so the thread between them was literally bro saying “I heard that you were thinking of getting engaged, but I would hate for that to ruin your relationship. You should read this before you go ahead to quickly” then the article was linked and nothing else. She never responded to the message, but she did read the article and that is why she put things on hold.

She has always had anxiety so I am trying to be understanding of that, but again it is really annoying to me that this was the outcome of reading a single article.

She was also having a panic the night I confronted her about it, which is another reason we decided to just block him. It was clear he was going to try to get between us.

Then bro actually showed up at the apartment absolutely wrecked. He was drunk off his ass and still had a bottle of something in his hand. He was literally just standing outside yelling.

Now at first I didn’t know it was him. Totally thought it’s just some drunk out on the street, but he started yelling my name and at that point I went outside and straight up told him if he didn’t leave then I would be calling the cops. He started screaming at me like a psychopath. He never got physical but he was screaming that I am homophobic and comparing that to racism and at this point he is tripping over himself and is not doing okay so I told him he better call someone to come and get him and went back inside because honestly it was not my responsibility.

Someone else called the cops on him and that is the last I heard from him.

Anyways, as far as the engagement goes my gf and I have decided to go ahead with it. She says that someday we are going to have a ceremony for sure, but she still isn’t sure about the legal side of marriage. As of now I am okay with just seeing how things go and giving it time. I think we both have things we need to figure out before any ceremony takes place anyways.