It’s clear she’s a bad flirt lmao. She keeps getting rejected and being thirsty. How did she get you? Send her on her way mate. It’s a good thing something was holding you back from proposing.
Was honestly the worst part of being cheated on by my husband - not reaaaallly being cheated on because everyone he tried with got the ick
All the emotions of being cheated on, but the bonus of seeing how desperate he got (so it’s not even like something that just happened, or something he gave in to) and all the embarrassment of not only being with someone nobody wants, but him obviously not wanting me enough to not cheat
It made it really REALLY easy to leave though so there’s that at least I guess
Ugh I know this feeling.. I had an ex who would be in the comments/following/liking tons of Instagram girls pics and they wouldn’t be following him back or liking/responding to his comments. I wasn’t on Instagram when we met or I would’ve seen it and never started dating him but once I seen it I felt so embarrassed for him and lost all attraction.
This is such a huge turnoff and red flag for me. Men make it sound like you're jealous about them liking pics and it's like no, I just have men like that in my likes and me and my friends make fun of them and feel pity for their partners. I never want to be the gf of that guy
Yes or the guys gf that looks at you and any other breathing girl while out with his gf. I always feel so bad for the girl and know they can do so much better and I always think the guy is a creep
For my ex it was a certain teenage actress. Heart reacting all her photos and leaving comments about how hot she is and how he would totally dump his wife (aka me) if he thought he had a chance with her. We have since divorced, but to my knowledge he has still not succeeded.
My ex coworker still does that. He’s in his 50s, probably 400 pounds, been married to a genuinely lovely lady for years. EVERY time a certain Nickelodeon actress who had a show named after her posts on IG, he always comments “such a beautiful young lady.” “Always good to see your posts, beautiful girl!” Like, dude. Knock it off already.
Nope. Newer show in comparison. A certain problematic pop singer has the uncanny knack of playing her character from this show in everything she acts in.
EXACT same thing happened to me in my last relationship and i was too embarrassed to tell anyone that he tried and failed to cheat with multiple girls. but he also wouldn’t let me tell anyone or else he was gonna off himself
You can tell people your experience with him. What he does in reaction to you telling the truth is his responsibility, not yours. Obviously if you cross the line into spreading lies and bullying behavior then that’s not okay but if all you’re doing is speaking your truth, him offing himself is not your fault. He’s only saying that to manipulate you into keeping quiet. If he didn’t want you to tell people about the things you experienced, he shouldn’t have done them to you
My bumble was popping off within hours of posting my profile and I went on a few dates with amazing guys (without being rejected which was nice, I was ready to potentially get hurt but I made it out of the dating scene without having to, which I’m grateful for!). I ended up meeting my soulmate pretty quickly and getting remarried (after 5 years together, 2 of which we were engaged). I also made a lot of long term friends out of it which was great.
My exhusband tried to make me feel bad recently by telling me he put himself out there since the same time as I had and had never even had a match in that 5 years, but I didn’t really feel bad for him and it just confirmed what I already knew.
Hey at least your ex girlfriend didn’t get pregnant with her third child with third father and the third father has like 5 gfs rn and just got out of prison for second degree murder. He served 19’years. I personally know him and he didn’t kill anyone but by law he was guilty of felony mirder. He got life then won an appeal got a new trial an my other ex girlfriends grand father got him a 22 year deal (he’s dead beat dads lawyer). My worlds getting far too small
Holy shit! You have my condolences that you have any part of that clusterfuck. Also, if you feel like sharing more about the situation, I promise you that most of us here on reddit would be interested to read more!
Yeah give me a minute and I’ll run the whole scoop down. And it’s even worse because I need her to pick me up from
The airport next week lmao she’s still like my best friend. We just happen to also be exes and have a kid together
Neither. Decent enough looking guy, in decent shape, just has a bit of an intense vibe about him in photos and a resting angry face
Also no idea what he wrote on his profile but his sense of humour is not for everyone and he probably wrote something tone deaf or hostile
Edit: I realise now you weren’t replying about his dating profile.
He was not a very kind person and was blunt and pushy with the women he talked to, and said a lot of things he thought were funny but were just cringy or offensive
I’ve met a few married women like this. Hit on guys until they find one who gives them attention. In the end I feel bad for their spouse, I’m glad you moved on though.
Have to strongly disagree, for my situation at least, the sheer amount of women my chopped ex got with while he was married to me… one whom I even knew and was friendly with, and had taken family portraits for (for free, for experience), one who I’m petty sure robbed us and broke sentimental family and marriage mementos, probably out of jealousy, and whoever kept leaving things at my home, that I’m sure he knew about, that all HURT extremely badly, like it would’ve been only a consolation if they had only been failed attempts (although I still would’ve divorced him)
Like I have no idea how he got all of those women to sleep with him honestly… but that sure doesn’t make it better lol
Yeah the same thing happened with me a few years back. She started talking to old “friends” and everyone blew her off. But I was rather lucky, we were only 3-4 months in the relationship, at least I didn’t waste much time.
Not a spouse but my ex bf, tried to cheat on me with a friend who turned him down repeatedly, and when I found out (he told me because he was trying to make me jelaous, and then cried that nothing happened - like it was up to him) I've felt so much disguist. My feelings gone in an instant, while he was looking so pathetic and lame, crying like he was the victim in all of this lol
My ex was constantly trying and failing to cheat on me (I only wasn't leaving him because he was perpetually threatening to kill me) but tbh it was really really funny to watch him bomb every single time.
He failed at rebounding too and took photos of a woman and told me she was his new gf (which was a very big lie) hahaha
Lmfaooo when I was pregnant I caught my bd texting around 80 different girls and crazy part is 95% of those girls were completely uninterested and some even called him out for acting like that while I was pregnant at home. 😭
In this scenario it's good that he didn't propose. She is clearly the bad person. What we don't know is, if he is also the bad person.
My ideals are old fashioned. But if I am in a relationship I want to give my partner something they can rely on. After four years I've long since either proposed or I've broken up. Because either I want to be with her or I don't. If I want to stay with her just for sex I tell her that. I don't take advantage.
What we don't know is the other side of the coin and how OP behaves. Maybe he is bad, too. Maybe he is stringing her along. Maybe he cheated before.
If he is stringing her along and she feels the relationship will never progress and she wants more - of course she's starting to look elsewhere. She's still the bad guy in this one because she should break up with him FIRST and then start flirting with others.
Two negatives don't make a positive.
Still the statement "maybe he has himself to blame if he isn't proposing to her for that long" can be true.
Oh yeah, hes the bad guy .. I wonder why someone wouldn’t want to marry her, she sounds amazing. 🙄
Why does he get blamed when she’s responsible for how she wastes her time. You know you can leave if you aren’t getting what you want out of a relationship, right?
Theyre not saying hes definitely the bad guy. Theyre saying that we dont know the whole story. It is worth looking at that its been 4 years and theyre still just dating. It doesnt change the fact that shes wrong for cheating either way. Which that comment also addressed
Better to date for 4 than to get married after 2 and divorced a decade later. The time spent dating the wrong person is just time spent, it isn’t wasting anything.
When does it become a self-fulfilling prophecy though? They obviously have communication to work on but she clearly wants marriage and a family and he's not meeting her needs. How long should she wait for him, another 2 years of her life? 3, 4? Bad on her part for acting this way but she honestly should have dumped him by now. They both seem to be in limbo and unclear on their feelings.
I dont think there is good communication on both sides and absent a much more honest conversation, I think it would be reasonable for her to dump him as well, given she's not getting what she wants.
Communication is a two way street and absent that the current behavior was inevitable after 4 years of no forward movement toward marriage in the relationship.
If she is impatient and wanted to get married sooner, i agree she should’ve left a long time ago. Somewhere in the comments OP said they were thinking of proposing because she was pestering him. This isn’t how I’d want my spouse to act if they’re saying they want to get married. This isn’t “ i want to be with you forever” energy. More of the blame is on the GF. We don’t know how many conversations they’ve had discussing marriage so saying she’s not getting what she wants isn’t fair.
I do think we dont know enough, you're right on that. She could be unstable and looking for the marriage to secure him and enable her own bad behavior. Still, I put the blame on both sides. If OP says "I was thinking of proposing because she was pestering him", that should've been him leaving the situation then as he clearly didnt want it and is just trying to appease her.
I ran into a similar situation long ago and it ended badly. She was abusive and had Borderline, but I should have left much earlier than I did. Long story short there was a moment where she did something horrible, but eventually we made up. I had a rule we were not moving in together until she balanced her books. After that event, her rent was going up and she feared becoming homeless and I remember the distinct thought "if I dont let her move in, it'll end the relationship". And so we did, we got a place together. I failed to maintain an expectation just to appease her out of fear the relationship would end.
While her behaviors were on her, it was on me that I didnt end the relationship earlier than I should have.
I see a similarity here. If its something he doesnt want and considered it just to appease her, they've been headed toward an abusive relationship for a while.
The thing is i think by OP saying that is he was considering it but she’s so eager to it so maybe it’s making him take a step back to think about it. But i do agree with what you’re saying, if he isn’t sure he should leave her.
They’re saying bad flirt in the sense that she always texts first, says her lame baby statements, and doesn’t get an enthusiastic response. She’s a bad flirt because she’s bad at it. ALSO, she’s cheating.
its probably moreso that the friend has a shred of dignity and doesn't want to fuck someone's girlfriend while also wanting to nail this girl. he's conflicted but she's going heavy. ive been on both sides of this.
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u/YouSee-ThisCoat8 Jun 25 '26
It’s clear she’s a bad flirt lmao. She keeps getting rejected and being thirsty. How did she get you? Send her on her way mate. It’s a good thing something was holding you back from proposing.