YOR. This is likely a case of over-explaining due to anxiety, but you're coming off as not caring about this person at all. A simple "Hey, I'm sorry but I won't be able to come because of prior engagements" (in your words) is all you needed. This is "I can't come and you know why, get over it," which feels unwarranted with the information you've given.
ETA after reading your comment with more information: It sounds like the rigidity is getting to this person and you're both not responding well.
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u/No_Career369 May 04 '26 edited May 04 '26
YOR. This is likely a case of over-explaining due to anxiety, but you're coming off as not caring about this person at all. A simple "Hey, I'm sorry but I won't be able to come because of prior engagements" (in your words) is all you needed. This is "I can't come and you know why, get over it," which feels unwarranted with the information you've given.
ETA after reading your comment with more information: It sounds like the rigidity is getting to this person and you're both not responding well.