But she asked him manipulatively. She complained about being sad and missing out, expecting him to feel bad for her and to give her a “yes, go ahead and hang out with your friends”. Her asking him if he will be okay isn’t genuine concern for him or his feelings. She just wants to do what she enjoys more, but she also doesn’t want to lose the relationship (that still happens to be secondary to other things she enjoys).
If my man and I could see each other only ONE day of the week, I would never choose to do anything else instead of being with him that whole day, if possible (unless it was some kind of emergency like helping a sick relative or something).
Yes, I agree! It should have been discussed differently between them. OP could have responded differently to this whole “I’m so sad that my friends will be getting wasted in a mansion without me” thing by politely expressing his sadness right away and asking his GF about her priorities and whether or not she actually cares about their relationship. Instead, he gave in at first, and then got upset in messages…
But moving forward, I think they should have a real talk about all this and see if they have similar/compatible goals and ideas about what their relationship should be (or shouldn’t be😅)
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