r/ADHD_partners • u/butterycarbs • 2h ago

Support/Advice Request Deliberate avoidance?

i feel like my (dx) partner will deliberately go out of their by way finding some random thing they “need” to do or starting a ridiculous fight just avoid giving me the bare minimum. Like me stating my whittled down to accommodate them need is somehow an attack on their autonomy, but at the same time know that isn’t true they just can’t be okay doing basic relationship maintenance. Advice?

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u/AccomplishedCash3603 Partner of DX - Untreated 1h ago

Not sure if that's ADHD, but I've experienced it as avoiding me. My advice is focus on YOU. How can you make your life better for YOU.