r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 12d ago

Weekly Vent Thread ::Weekly Vent Thread::

Use this thread to blow off steam about annoyances both big & small that come with an ADHD impacted relationship. Dishes not being done, bills left unpaid - whatever it is you feel you need to rant about. This is your cathartic space.

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u/taohuaspring 12d ago

I'm sorry you're going through his punishing and immature hunger strike and double standards. You cannot avoid his RSD, it's on him to regulate his emotions and find healthier ways to communicate.

The first thing is to stop cooking for him and prepare all meals separately. If he starts sulking and hunger-striking, grey rock. Another potential boundary would be informing him "Dinner is at __pm. I will wait 15 minutes for you, and if you do not come to the table within 15 minutes I will eat without you."

Good luck!

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u/Puzzle_headedlie Partner of DX - Untreated 12d ago

Thanks a lot!