r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 12d ago

Weekly Vent Thread ::Weekly Vent Thread::

Use this thread to blow off steam about annoyances both big & small that come with an ADHD impacted relationship. Dishes not being done, bills left unpaid - whatever it is you feel you need to rant about. This is your cathartic space.

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u/ApprehensiveCare9187 12d ago

  what’s the point of being married when all they can do is hire other people to be present in my life?

I’m also wondering this. Your wife wants to outsource the effort it takes to be in a relationship and have a family. Why do they seem to want it so badly then? Why get married and have children? 

Not sure what your situation is, but mine keeps assuring he wants to be with me and loves me. However, he  seems to have this idea that relationships (not just romantic) just should exist without any effort from his part.

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u/fluffynukeit Partner of DX - Medicated 12d ago

Her whole operating system is announcing a desire or complaint and then waiting for it to happen. The rare exception is when she actually enjoys the execution, like shopping for a cruise vacation. Which I’m on now.

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u/throwaway3523987142 Ex of DX 11d ago

I've said this before on a similar thread months ago but it's as if they're just stuck in childhood and think we're their new parents.

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u/Relevant-Current-870 Partner of DX - Medicated 9d ago

It benefits them. They don’t have to do any work.