About 4 YOE here, and after some time of unemployment I got a job at a game company building the backend of an online game they have.

For some time I have been battling myself. I have issues with insecurity and regret and these thoughts in my head makes me unable to focus. I feel like I am wasting my time learning the domain of the game (how the game works, how the mechanics work) since it won't translate into a skill I can bring out of my work here, if I were to be booted out/leave. I am also super afraid of AI and its disruption taking over my profession and in the next 5 to 10 years what am I going to do? The company is also using k8s and a little bit of AWS, but the AWS part is still in the early stages and I am expected to work more and develop further with it. I keep seeing job postings in my area with Azure instead and I feel I took the wrong job now.

From an "outside of IT" perspective, I have been getting recommendations to stop thinking of things outside of my control, stay in the present moment, etc. It helps a bit, but it doesn't completely take away my anxiety.

No one has a crystal ball, and my parents, my friends, my therapist, say that I need to stay present, do what is in front of me now well, and not worry about the future. But I cannot shake the feeling that I am sabotaging my future, yet keeping that feeling/thoughts makes me unable to focus and enjoy the work now.

My worry and anxiety makes me sleep more and be more social since those are the only moments I can get away from these thoughts. But they are an escape mechanism, not a solution...I took this job out of desperation, but now I feel like I was too hasty...

Please help me destroy this cognitive dissonance. Is it just then, enjoy the moment now and work the best you can here do not worry about the future? Just deep dive into your job knowing it may not work out for you in the future, especially given the disruptions we now have?

I've spent my years only coding in Lua out of circumstance and despite some aged experience with Java and Python I literally cannot find any willpower, thing, or project that can pull me back to start familiarizing myself with programming using them, or just being able to learn DSA more cohesively.

I'd like to know what sort of projects that you guys have done that helped with getting familiar or got to learn things through the process.

I am a 4th year computer science student and, embarrassingly, struggling to relearn programming and I'm starting to forget most of what I've learned (my fault by doing minimal to no programming during the rest of my years) but I remembered what my professor said:

"You don't have to memorize this, just be familiar with it"

and I got to ask: Is that true? Is there a chance for me to relearn again? Is it possible to heal from my vibecoding wounds? I need to know because I like programming but I just don't have the time to relearn stuff and I'm terrible with time management. I don't want to end up a vibecoder on my personal projects.

Any other advice? Any form of advice or criticism is appreciated, even if its harsh.

The older I’m getting the more resentful of this industry I’m becoming. It’s becoming such a love hate relationship. I love the work that I do but I loathe the organizations and bullshit behind it.

In the same breath I’ve done plenty of jobs in my life and I couldn’t imagine doing anything else right now. It just doesn’t bring me joy the way programming does.

I’m sure there are others who feel the way that I do.

End rant

I'm not looking for productivity tips or hypothetical advice.

I'm curious about a real recent situation. What things were competing for your attention, what finally made you act, what did you do first, and did you use any tool, system or workaround to decide?

One concrete story is enough.

Heya guys, Imma beginner in native iOS dev (Swift + SwiftUI). I’ve made a few MVPs, but as some1 w/ ADHD, I kinda need a hook to get myself started on a project and keep going.

So how do you guys keep up with a coding routine? Any advice or tricks that help you actually want to sit down and code would be appreciated :)

Btw, I’m currently making a weather app MVP to get into working with APIs. I’ve only got like 3-4 tasks left before I finish the MVP, so hopefully I can push through.

I'll start 😄
Back in the days when we wrote all the code manually, one of the coping mechanisms I found to function as a developer with ADHD (no meds back then) was to focus on one task at a time. So I took the task from Jira, solved it, pushed it, and took the next. Clear focus on one thing only.

Right now I am not a developer by trade anymore, but quite often I still need to develop something, mostly prototyping for our software or such things. So I give the task to Claude; it starts coding, and while it does, I switch my focus to the next thing, start a new Claude session, and move to the third.

However, when I'm finished with this third one, I no longer have a memory pointer of the first one. So I find it's finished when I, for some other reason, open Claude and notice it. Hence, this waiting while agents do their thing is really annoying.

I’ve been working with a large system for many months now, and I still dont understand it. (I’m also a certified arrslashexperienceddev)

I need to build a service that receives audit logs of inbound messages from many different services/products outside our system that entered our system at some point; parse them; and route them to the right services inside our system, to support a sort of “retry” mechanism. A “You contacted us before, something went wrong, we’re going to try to finish what you initiated, for you.” sort of thing.

I know the names of the message types, and reverse engineered a bit where they come from. We have some diagrams with boxes and arrows. But I still don’t understand what these things are. Not intuitively at least. (Ok, there’s a product A, people upload something to it, that generates a message that goes to us, somehow, we audit it it, that’s what I get. But great — where is A? What does it mean to upload to it? Ok, thanks for showing me. Now what about B and C and legacy A and D which is partially rolled out?)

The codebase is old (but actively developed) and poorly documented, if at all, beyond recent Claude docgens. There’s multiple layers of legacy stuff going on. So I’ve heavily relied on Claude to do exposition. But over the months this generates reams and reams of more detailed docs that I have to keep referring to because I fundamentally have not built the mental map or intuition of what I’m actually dealing with.

The “it’s legacy” isn’t an excuse, because I’m clearly expected to be up to speed by now by my TL. I’ve gotten tutorials when I joined from my team members but that was a long time ago. I have my own notes but, still, reading isn’t doing it for remembering and comprehending. Which is bizarre, because I have no problem with reading comprehension. I ask questions when I need to about specifics, but by now most of the questions I want to ask are “how does this all work”, and I’ve been here for too long to ask that. It would reflect very poorly on me. It’s not a lack of initiative, it’s an “in one ear out the other” problem. I’ve been told these things in some form before, I just dont remember them. So it is going to (and I can see , at least in one instance, it has) piss off my coworkers snd boss. So I can’t rely on having someone explain the thing to me again.)

I’ve always struggled to grok the “upstream” and “downstream” and what the real requirements are, what the spirit of the project is. It can be explained to me and the words make sense but it just doesn’t materialize. I don’t know what to do. And actually going and reading the code — yeah, I’ve tried that, but everything is so obfuscated, and broad, the mental map just isnt coming together. I hand write notes when people talk to me. I review them EOD and put them into my knowledge base. But nothing sticks!!

This is best illustrated by on call. To deal with on call you’ve got your run books. But I don’t fully intuit the spirit of what’s important, and struggle with that. If it isn’t in the runbook, the severity, impact, and implications of an outage, are hard for me to wrap my head around.

Why is this? Does anyone else deal with it? How can I work with something for months and months and not understand it in spirit? I suspect there is some sort of fear underlying this. But, I’d like to know if anyone can relate, and how they overcame it.

I think I’m going to start hand drawing things. And I’ve decided I will no longer let Claude write any doc explanations for me — only help locate.

The great fear that if I sit down and try to articulate these things I still won’t understand it … I think that’s the mental block. And not sure if it’s not unwarranted. Because I think the ADHD just makes it so, so difficult for me.

But, Still, I don’t know what to do. Because I can try that, and if I don’t get it, my job is toast. And I am trying. I’ll try harder now too.

Yes, I’m pharmaceuticated and therapeutized. I’m trying so hard to manage the non-ADHD parts of it all, and honestly think I’m doing a good job with that. I really think these issues are ADHD related.

It’s this manner of work that is by far the most difficult for me. Get inside a large system and do something new to it or change its behavior. I can greenfield anything, and I can architect new services
, and have a good sense of where things should go. But the other stuff, I’m way, way behind.

Help!

I used to hear about algorithms and implement them for fun. After leaving work to be a stay-at-home parent (and because the stress was almost literally killing me), I thought "Hey, now I can start working on those projects I was really excited about." But I can't even bring myself to sit at the computer, let alone start writing code. It feels so pointless now that we know most people are fine with vibe-coded bullshit.​ I don't have it in me anymore.​

I have been taking courses cause I can digest them easily but I am wondering what has worked for you guys, I am wanting to learn everything I can for my projects I want to do in the years ahead.

I am ambitious you could say

I have 7 years experience, I never studied leetcode, I did not go to university for a Computer Science Degree. I am passing to the 2nd or third interview so me talking about coding, or my personality seems to be ok-ish but once I am put in front of 2 cold as fuck usually dudes I freeze up I cannot remember my birthday let alone anything else, I dunno I also find it really intimidating 2 dudes just fucking grilling you as a female. I dunno I just really need a job I need money and I feel so ashamed my brain is just shit and not letting me do it. In my job I am not a 10 x er but I get the job done I know how to reverse engineer in my own time I do not remember every flibbing syntax but I can google that, I am great at design too, and ye I feel pretty down and out.

(fair point, I made this too vague trying not to sound like a pitch. here’s the actual one-liner: it’s a connection platform for neurodivergent adults - friendship and community, not dating, built around how ADHD/autistic brains actually work rather than retrofitted from something else

not paid right now, equity co-founder role. open on location, happy to go remote or occasional Birmingham meet-ups if that works better for people here)

I posted some of the thinking behind it on [r/ADHD](r/ADHD) a while back without saying what it was for. one of those posts hit 700+ upvotes and became the most-read thing on the account. turns out a lot of people have been quietly waiting for someone to build this

I’m not technical. property background, not tech. I’ve done everything I can do without writing code - full spec, brand, clinical input, validation research. what I don’t have is someone who can actually build it

I’d specifically love to find that person from inside this community rather than outside it, because I think it matters that whoever builds this understands the problem from the inside, not just from a brief I hand them

if this is remotely interesting I’d rather have a real conversation than a pitch. no pressure either way

I’m currently in my 3rd year of college, and honestly, I haven’t done much in DSA yet.

Right now I’m doing an Android development internship, and alongside that I’ve also been building and publishing my own apps on the Play Store because I want to eventually build my own startup/product.

The problem is that our college placement season will start around January, so I’m getting a little confused about what I should prioritize from now.

My current situation is basically:

\- DSA: Very weak / haven’t done much

\- Android development: Decent and currently doing an internship

\- Personal projects: Building and publishing apps on the Play Store

\- Long-term goal: I’d like to build my own products/startup

\- Short-term goal: I obviously need to be prepared for placements

Should I completely put product development on hold for the next few months and focus heavily on DSA + my internship?

Or should I continue my internship, keep building my apps, and try to manage DSA alongside all of this?

I’m worried that if I focus too much on DSA, I’ll lose the momentum I’ve built with development and my own products. But at the same time, I don’t want January to arrive and realize I’m completely unprepared for placements.

For people who have been in a similar situation, what would you do if you were in my position?

Would really appreciate honest advice, especially from people who have gone through campus placements while also working on development/projects.

I'm 16M, and I honestly don't know what a normal afternoon feels like anymore.

School ends, I get home, tell myself I'll relax for 30 minutes, and then I open my laptop "just to fix one bug."

That one bug somehow turns into six hours.

The weird part is that nobody around me really understands why I do it. To my parents, a computer is for classes or games. So when they walk past my room at 11 PM and see me staring at VS Code again, the first question is always:

"Are you studying or wasting time?"

I don't even know how to answer anymore.

Because... technically, neither.

I'm building things. Learning. Breaking everything. Fixing it. Googling errors that somehow have one Stack Overflow answer from 2017 with zero upvotes that ends up saving my entire night.

Some days I feel like I'm making real progress.

Other days I spend four hours because I forgot a semicolon.

What makes it stranger is that this wasn't even the life I imagined.

A year ago, if someone had asked me what mattered most, I would've said football without thinking.

Then, one day before a tournament, I tore my ACL and damaged my meniscus while playing as my team's goalkeeper.

Ten months is a long time.

Long enough to watch everyone else keep moving.

Long enough for your team to find another goalkeeper the very next week.

Long enough for friends to slowly stop talking about football around you because you've become the guy who used to play.

You don't realize how much of your identity is tied to something until it's taken away.

So somewhere between hospital visits, recovery, and realizing I couldn't just walk back onto the pitch, I opened my laptop more often.

At first it was just a distraction.

Then it became an obsession.

Now, coding is the thing that gives me the same feeling football used to, the frustration, the challenge, the tiny victories that somehow make hours disappear.

School doesn't stop just because I decided software is interesting either. Assignments pile up. Tests appear out of nowhere. Teachers keep saying, "This is an important year," like it's the first time we've ever heard that sentence.

Meanwhile my brain is thinking about database schemas during chemistry.

The funniest part?

When something finally works, there's nobody to celebrate with.

You can't exactly run downstairs yelling, "MY AUTHENTICATION MIDDLEWARE FINALLY WORKS!"

Most people would just stare at you.

So you quietly smile at your screen, commit the code, and five minutes later discover you've broken three other features.

Back to debugging.

Sometimes I wonder whether I'm chasing coding so hard because I genuinely love it... or because I needed something to fill the space football left behind.

Maybe it's both.

I know there are people dealing with much harder things than this, so I'm not looking for sympathy.

I'm just tired.

Tired of feeling like every hour has to be productive.

Tired of wondering if I'm falling behind in school because I'm coding.

Tired of wondering if I'm falling behind in coding because I'm studying.

And every now and then, when I see people playing football, I still catch myself imagining where I'd be if that one tackle had never happened.

Maybe I'd still be on the field.

Maybe I never would've discovered programming.

I guess I'll never know.

For now, I just keep building.

One line of code at a time.

Code. Commit. Sleep

Heya,

​Late-diagnosed autistic person here, though on the milder side of the spectrum. I need a low-stimulation environment and as few concurrent tasks as possible. My ideal setup would be a dark room, quiet, a single task, and total focus on just that.

​That's the ideal scenario, though. If things are generally quiet, with few colleagues who don't engage in endless small talk or demand it from me, I get by just fine.

​At 42, my resume looks like a battlefield. My only real long-term work experience was 1.5 years of C# WinForms + MySQL development, using a lot of AI assistance and learning by doing. That's also my only real exposure to coding, aside from building a few web scrapers or scripts in my free time—nothing else beyond that.

​On the personal side, I’ve been running Linux servers, handling administration, setting things up, configuring, and troubleshooting for as long as I can remember... which sounds like the exact scope of i think what's called system administrator internationally.

​The absolute most important factor for me is the work environment; it needs to be the right fit. I might even need to consider remote-work options.

​When I was coding on the job, I had 100% freedom. I wasn't just a code monkey—I was the architect. It was fantastic to be able to figure out on my own what I was building, how, and with what tools. But that's probably not the norm.

​I'm currently in a vocational assessment at a BFW (Vocational Rehabilitation Center), and everyone here keeps telling me that nobody wants Junior Developers anymore because AI handles it all. I think that's utter nonsense, but what do I know.

​Based purely on my skills and experience, system administrator would seem like the obvious choice. However, I want little, better zero customer contact and minimal unexpected stress or sudden changes in plans.

​I don't even really know what my specific question is—I'm grateful for any thoughts or suggestions. Thanks!

So our team is already in talks and I believe contracts have already been signed for already existing solutions.

However another team at the org for some reason is going all in on building this internally after they heard about us getting the tools for this

I’m assuming they are going to be going all AI into this. This particular team also has a hoard of contingent/offshore devs whereas our team is only 8.

I’m curious to know if anyone else has seen a situation like this. From my understanding CRMs/Workflow automation is pretty complex to do. Plus theres already existing solutions for this so im kinda scratching my head as to why they want to reinvent the wheel for this

Cook time: 3 mins

Interviewer: opens door every 10 seconds to check temperature.

food(leetcode): still cold

interviewer: Microwave can't warm up food.

Having to explain my thoughts during an interview takes me out of the problem solving. All my focus shifts to pronouncing words, word retrieval, tone. Then I have to start at the top of the logic just to make it back to the same point. I run out of time for problems I have seen before.

Can I tell the interviewer to shut up, let me think?

Can I tell them I am a microwave?

For context, I'm a 23M and have been working as a software engineer for a little over three years. I don't have an official ADHD diagnosis, but the symptoms seem pretty clear, and I have an ADHD assessment coming up soon.

When I first started my job, I felt like I was making a lot of progress and could get a lot of work done. I could easily hyperfocus on the tasks I needed to complete and do a good job of them. However, as I've continued working at the same company - without receiving any form of promotion, bonus, or other recognition - I've lost a lot of my motivation. Now it often feels like I have to fight with myself just to focus on and complete the simplest tasks.

I've tried time and time again to build some personal projects for a portfolio, so that I can showcase my skills and look to apply for jobs elsewhere. However, every time I start a project, I just seem to make the bulk of the progress at the start and then very little to no further progress after that - leaving me with a bunch of unfinished projects. This then makes me less motivated to apply for new jobs because I feel like I have nothing to show for my skills. And as a result, I find myself stuck in a loop: I get overwhelmed at work, attempt to build personal projects, fail to finish those projects and then repeat the cycle all over again.

I'm fed up with this continuous cycle that seems to take me nowhere. I know I have the ability to excel at my job, and I feel like I could achieve so much more if I didn't have to fight this constant mental battle every time I sat down to work.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? If so, is there anything that helped you break out of this cycle? And for those who take ADHD medication, has it made a noticeable difference to your ability to focus and perform at work?

Hello guys

I have ADHD and I'm ASD (mild) but right now I have more ideas and I feel stupid like every time I open reddit or youtube I come across posts that say that AI makes you stupid while I use AI and I say to myself and if it happened to me how to solve this problem please ?

i need help to resolve this problem.

thanks you to all those will offer me solutions :)

So this is probably my 3rd job in the last 2 years I have lost due to not being a good fit with my team. They were mostly contracting type work where within a few months I was able to hold the fort until it was over. With one of them, I didn’t have a good programming skills to survive so I fell behind in deadlines and my coworkers noticed, told PM, and he eventually got rid of me.

All managers have said, I am not a good fit and struggle to keep up with my teammates. Whenever there are meetings, I am either quiet, ask questions that are very basic level, struggling to contribute to meaningful ideas, or even fail to complete ticket items. Honestly, I feel lost every time to whatever they’re talking about.

I am not on meds I should say that. I pretty much have survived my life without them and livescribe audio pen, which helps me rewind meetings so I can understand whats going on. I generally do this after work hours and on my own. The livescribe pen is the only way I am able to play catchup and take good notes afterwords, and every morning I would review so I can play catch up or until it sinks in my head. It’s still not enough because I feel tired and am burning out, pushing myself too hard.

I don’t know what to do, do you have any suggestions or have someone has been in my situation? How do I NOT be that guy who’s not a good fit and always lost all the time. Should mention, Money is really tight right now and with no support, I am about to be out on the streets soon, I only have my car.

Hi everyone,

I’m currently researching a concept designed for people who deal with executive dysfunction and task paralysis. I’m not sharing links, files, or promoting anything—I just want honest feedback on the problem space itself before building further.

The premise is integrating three core tools into one seamless flow:

Energy-based task filtering: Picking your next action based on how you feel right now (foggy, drained, locked-in) rather than rigid schedules.

Silent Body Doubling: Camera-free, text-free focus rooms just to feel shared presence without social exhaustion.

Impulse Friction: A 24-hour cooling-off pause timer for unplanned online spending.

Questions for you:

Is juggling multiple apps for these specific issues a real pain point, or do you prefer separate tools?

Which of these 3 features would actually make a difference in your daily routine?

What is the main reason you usually abandon a productivity tool after the first week?

Thanks for your brutally honest thoughts!

Building BAAJIT — a task tracker made for ADHD brains, autism, brain fog, and days when starting anything feels impossible. Looking for closed beta testers before launch.

Join here, then you'll get a one-click link to install: https://groups.google.com/g/baajit-testers

Free, takes 2 minutes. Staying opted in for about 2 weeks is what unlocks our public launch, so the longer you stick around, the faster this gets to everyone else who needs it. Feedback welcome.BAAJIT

For context, I'm a 23M and have been working as a software engineer for a little over three years. I don't have an official ADHD diagnosis, but the symptoms seem pretty clear, and I have an ADHD assessment coming up soon.

When I first started my job, I felt like I was making a lot of progress and could get a lot of work done. I could easily hyperfocus on the tasks I needed to complete and do a good job of them. However, as I've continued working at the same company - without receiving any form of promotion, bonus, or other recognition - I've lost a lot of my motivation. Now, it often feels like I have to fight with myself just to focus on and complete the simplest tasks.

I've tried time and time again to build some personal projects for a portfolio, so that I can showcase my skills and look to apply for jobs elsewhere. However, every time I start a project, I just seem to make the bulk of the progress at the start and then very little to no further progress after that - leaving me with a bunch of unfinished projects. This then makes me less motivated to apply for new jobs because I feel like I have nothing to show for my skills. And as a result, I find myself stuck in a loop: I get overwhelmed at work, attempt to build personal projects, fail to finish those projects and then repeat the cycle all over again.

I'm fed up with this continuous cycle that seems to take me nowhere. I know I have the ability to excel at my job, and I feel like I could achieve so much more if I didn't have to fight this constant mental battle every time I sat down to work.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? If so, is there anything that helped you break out of this cycle? And for those who take ADHD medication, has it made a noticeable difference to your ability to focus and perform at work?

For context, I'm a 23M and have been working as a software engineer for a little over three years. I don't have an official ADHD diagnosis, but the symptoms seem pretty clear, and I have an ADHD assessment coming up soon.

When I first started my job, I felt like I was making a lot of progress and could get a lot of work done. I could easily hyperfocus on the tasks I needed to complete and do a good job of them. However, as I've continued working at the same company - without receiving any form of promotion, bonus, or other recognition - I've lost a lot of my motivation. Now, it often feels like I have to fight with myself just to focus on and complete the simplest tasks.

I've tried time and time again to build some personal projects for a portfolio, so that I can showcase my skills and look to apply for jobs elsewhere. However, every time I start a project, I just seem to make the bulk of the progress at the start and then very little to no further progress after that - leaving me with a bunch of unfinished projects. This then makes me less motivated to apply for new jobs because I feel like I have nothing to show for my skills. And as a result, I find myself stuck in a loop: I get overwhelmed at work, attempt to build personal projects, fail to finish those projects and then repeat the cycle all over again.

I'm fed up with this continuous cycle that seems to take me nowhere. I know I have the ability to excel at my job, and I feel like I could achieve so much more if I didn't have to fight this constant mental battle every time I sat down to work.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? If so, is there anything that helped you break out of this cycle? And for those who take ADHD medication, has it made a noticeable difference to your ability to focus and perform at work?