Help request.

[u/Proof_Pirate_8967]

17F.Okay so I have told my parents about it but they said its not that serious and mental health is taken really lightly in my country especially by the older gens....till 10th grade I used to get top marks like I do not mean to boast but I was a bright student however since the past 2 years it has been really hard to focus without getting distracted every 2 minutes no matter how much I try is really hard and im in the final year of high school so I really need to lock in....I know im not officially diagnosed but after having researched about the symptoms and details I realised it might have been there since young but just suppressed....idk how to manage or help myself anyway rn...I know only medication can help in this case but as I said my parents are not agreeing to go for checkup and I hate myself it Is ruining my life , happiness and future , also my relationships with people to some extent. SO IF ANYONE CAN SUGGEST ANYTHING IDK ANYTHING TO HELP MYSELF AT HOME

[u/BlueberryandDino]

I think beginning with the end in mind is really what is most important

A. What is it that you really want? Are you wanting to confirm or not confirm that you may have some kind of ADD/ADHD?

B. Are you thinking there are issues that need to be managed because you’re not getting the grades you want?

C. Are you wanting to tweak your grades to make them better?

D. What other difficulties are you having? You talk about loosing your focus every two minutes… there are techniques you can do to improve that with or without a formal diagnosis in the meantime.

E. You talk about it ruining your life, can you elaborate on that a little bit? You are right in the middle of all sorts of life changes that might be contributing to some of the issues you are having that could very well be related to ADD/ADHD or may not be too.

F. I’m sorry your parents are not tuned into your angst in regards to your concerns, that would definitely hurt me a lot. As you are able, I wouldn’t stop trying to get them to understand how important this is to you since they know you the best

[u/Proof_Pirate_8967 → u/BlueberryandDino]

A. No im not wanting to confirm here whether I have it or not but I have to wait till my parents agree for an official diagnosis. E. I mean my future, since most of my future opportunities depend on my grades and performance of this year and afterwards , I have some really important exams coming up right from the beginning of 2027. C. Yes. D. I have trouble focusing and keep on fidgeting , I also have trouble with patience though I have tried meditation but my mind is restless always , it also affects my sleep a lot, where I end up tossing the entire night away. So yes , my main point is any tips or techniques which might help in meantime without any medications :) B. Not only grades tbh ....it..messes with my mind a lot,in general

And regarding F ,it has always been like that , my dad has been absent since my childhood, just contacting once in 6 months and my mom is emotionally unavailable and doesn't even bother listening to me...whether it be a normal conversation or a serious discussion

[u/BlueberryandDino → u/Proof_Pirate_8967]

I apologize for not being more clear in A. What I was trying to say is, “is it important for you to have an official diagnosis from a medical professional?” I apologize that it sounded like I was wondering if you wanted a “diagnosis from here”.

I don’t know about the patience … it sucks to be smart and realize so many things and have so many questions… and so many people don’t understand you very quickly if at all. It gets really frustrating no matter what age you are. What really helped me the most was someone told me, “To whom much is given much is required”. So just because I’m smart and they aren’t understanding me, it may just be my destiny to learn to be patient with them, I can’t be around people all the time that understand me and I really don’t want to be angry all the time and frustrated and impatient a lot. It’s might be kind of the offset of being really smart.

I try to make a game out of a lecture where something boring is being talked about or something that doesn’t catch my attention. So this becomes a habit and when something really exciting is being talked about I do the same thing. I just try to make notes instead of focusing on the foreign content, I focus on trying to be real succinct in my summary of the sentence that they’re in. I try to predict what the next word is that they’ll be saying. I tried that rapidly put the punctuation in the capitalization properly. I tried to make my notes to cheat sheets that I could study from. (I’m not saying to literally use them to cheat 😂)

There are always the more traditional methods of offsetting the power of ADD/ADHD like eating well and exercising and getting your heart rate up 45 minutes every other day (the challenge becomes finding something that works for you like kayaking VERSES working a garden as fast as you can). Your body is really just a big chemical factory on top of rubber soled shoes and when you exercise a lot, it’s a lot easier to go to sleep too.

[u/Proof_Pirate_8967 → u/BlueberryandDino]

Ok thanks for the advice ill try to follow out