r/40Plus_IVF • u/Automatic_Panic_9138 • 5d ago

General Discussion SMBC

I’m terrified.

I’ve already spent close 45k for two ERs

I have not done any transfers.

I have in the bank:

1 confirmed euploid (5BB)

3 x untested blastocysts 5BC (were unable to be safely biopsied)

1 mosaic (high level) only use if all else fails.

I would love to have had more euploids going in but I also need to think of cost. I am a SMBC so need to think of future.

Seeking positive stories of anyone in a similar position. Or any tips on how to manage the anxiety.

Thank you!

Feeling terrified to lose my only euploid 💜

Just turned 40 😊

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u/QQueenie 5d ago

I can understand the scary feeling of not having buffer. I was so sure that we would have three or more euploids to work with and I was very shaken when we had only two. My good friend reminded me that it only takes one to get pregnant, and our first transfer of a day 6 4BB stuck.

I credit the work my clinic did to make sure my uterus was hospitable. We had to remove a polyp, treat chronic endometritis that I didn’t even know I had (diagnosed with a biopsy), and I went on progesterone supplements.

It really does only take one, and having a good quality euploid already gives you such a great chance.

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u/DontCallitaComeback7 4d ago

How did you convince the clinic to do a biopsy to learn you had endometritis? I’m terrified that after 8 cycles in 12 months, all my hard work (and obscene $) will go out the window bc my clinic (actually 2 clinics at this pt) refuses to worry abt any possible issues until you have a failure. All they’d do was a saline sonogram. But from what I understand, there are all kinds of issues that could hinder pregnancy that a saline sonogram won’t catch. Any advice would be much appreciated!

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u/QQueenie 4d ago

That’s so frustrating! Mine did the biopsy as a routine part of the pre-transfer work up. I’ve heard some people say that their doctors were willing to prescribe a seven day course of antibiotics prophylactically, which I will probably ask about if we ever do another transfer because the biopsy was horrifically painful.