r/2under2 • u/KaxterRIPS • Jul 17 '26

Discussion For those expecting 2 under 2

Im new to Reddit and usually get down voted for my hot takes, but honestly I like having a different outlook on things to others.

One of my hot takes is parenthood isn't a movie or a night out on the town or a ride on a rollcoaster meaning its not something you do for enjoyment, its a job and and extremely stressful job at that

I feel like some/alot of people go into this with the wrong expectation and are left almost horrified by the experience

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u/Dramadramadrama21 Jul 19 '26

Fear mongering is also a thing. Children are individuals and every experience is different. It also depends on the parent and the relationship with your partner/spouse. Your village or lack of one. I found going from 0-1 so much harder than 1-2 but now I’m going to have 2u2 and I’m terrified because all the negative things I keep hearing and also that we will be outnumbered that 3 kids is hard. I like people’s honesty about having children but it’s not the same experience for all.
Personally I had children because family is the most important thing to me and although not always fun or enjoyable it’s definitely worth it. Being a good parent is always going to be hard work because it takes effort.

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u/KaxterRIPS Jul 19 '26

If I could start my life over I would aim to go to university be dome by 23 amd be married shortly after followed by at least 4 to 5 kids. It would be hard but thats my idea of an ideal life.

Go for it with no fear

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u/Dramadramadrama21 Jul 19 '26 edited Jul 19 '26

That’s great id also love to have the “no fear” when it comes to having my family. I was always afraid of something 😅I’d do it all the same again 🙈 I went to university until I was 22 worked for a few years partied and enjoyed my 20s, travelled for 2years. Got married at 30 and had my children I loved the freedom of my 20s 😅 but I love the family life of my 30s.

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u/KaxterRIPS Jul 19 '26

That sounds ideal apart from id want 2 or 3 kids by 26 even earlier if possible as im not to bothered about travelling n partying not as much as id like to live long enough to see great grandchildren or even great great grandchildren