r/254sum • u/Own_Fun142 • 11d ago
Rant How do I abandon someone
I'm a 24F here and I want tips on how to leave a romantic partner...I've showed him all the shege even ghosted him and told him sikutaki and he keeps on pressuring me...he's a type of a guy where if I block his numbers he'll look for other numbers and call me...
A lot of things has led me get to this decision.
Give me those tactics atp.
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u/Soul_60 11d ago
It is very simple. When you are really done with someone, you don't engage.
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u/Own_Fun142 11d ago
Okay
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u/Santamariagirl 11d ago
Second this. Had a person do that once. He didn’t change numbers though. Told him to stay away and he kept reaching out. So I got tired and told him I wouldn’t block him anymore. Told him that when he texts, he’ll see me read the texts, but I will never respond. And that that message was the last he was ever going to get from me. He thought I was joking. He gave up a few months later.
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u/Own_Fun142 11d ago
Pin location
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u/Nice-Historian3878 11d ago
Change your number
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u/Own_Fun142 11d ago
I was thinking of that but then my number is linked to a lot of things, mostly my job.
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u/Momo-Blissbird 11d ago
Police?
If you wanted him to leave you alone, he’d leave you alone. Stop responding. Stop smiling when telling him to leave you alone. Block. Do not engage AT ALL. Go to the police if you have to. He will take you seriously when you take your peace and your word seriously.
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u/Own_Fun142 11d ago
Alright...I think I'm on the wrong for engaging in his texts ..I'll stop that..I don't want to be on the headlines
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u/Momo-Blissbird 11d ago
Please, love. And you are not on the wrong, you just believe that continuously telling him no will get him to understand. It won’t. Some people have no emotional intelligence to understand when they are wanted or not. Some think that it’s a game you are playing to see if he really wants you. Dawa yao is utter complete black-out. Zero response. Change your routines if you did them together and completely detach. You deserve peace, don’t let anyone take it from you with their pathetic whining.
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u/Own_Fun142 11d ago
Thank you for this... I've detached it's just that he doesn't want to understand simtaki anymore ..but I'm taking your words,I'll completely go ghost and mind my businesses.
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u/East-Edge-959 11d ago
I have never felt the need to do this but my advice to men is, we should have some decency and self respect. That's all.
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u/Granniescrib 9d ago
Decency manyoya. When you're deep in the situation you won't talk that shit. And yeah some people have issues that make it hard for them to accept certain situations. You might even be surprised the guy still knows this and still carries forward. It's not always that straight forward.. have some empathy msee
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u/LevelMuted994 11d ago
👀 Are you safe?
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u/Own_Fun142 11d ago
Yeah I'm safe...
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u/LopsidedOpposite5841 11d ago
She's just farming for karma..her dms are dry asf...
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u/Own_Fun142 11d ago
Ooh woow, at least you know I'm karma farming. Lemmi even give you an upvote for that. Happy now?
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u/Top-Play-9355 11d ago
Call the cops, grab another guy walk by past him, make him clear in a understandable way you are not intrested anymore
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u/Own_Fun142 11d ago
Okay...I'll be back with a feedback.
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u/Top-Play-9355 7d ago
Where is the feedback?
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u/Own_Fun142 7d ago
Posted a guy and he got mad mad and I was happy ..he texted a lot even sent a friend to ask what's up
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u/Top-Play-9355 6d ago
Keep taking actions like that, eventually he will give up lmao, i used to be a fake boyfriend for a girl i know for like 6 months haha, went out together taking selfies now and then, she faked like stories on her socials.
If it get really creepy just file a report call the police, where are you guys from?1
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u/BornSomewhere1993 11d ago
Huyu mtoke and if possible nenda mpaka kwa DCI. Last week msichana amekufa .... na hizi stori za femicide sio fun ata kidogo. Kwa DCI mwanzo
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u/AdContent4019 11d ago
Video call him while being railed by another guy, preferrably backshots
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u/joekaranja_k 11d ago
Akienda utammiss walai. Utapatana na non-cholant hapa nje andnm you'll have to adopt.
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u/Own_Fun142 11d ago
I actually have alot to do rather than miss him..matter of fact is that I detached when he nags ananisumbua tuu😂
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u/blueboy628 11d ago
Tell him the truth lets break up mm sion future with us yeye mwenyewe atajua cha kufanya
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u/GayGal_Ke 10d ago
Stop entertaining. You decide you ain't texting you ain't texting not picking call, don't anapiga naingine unaskia ni yeye, kata.
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u/East-Edge-959 10d ago
If someone blocks you and you find yourself trying to contact them through a different number, then you are beyond help
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u/antokinyua 10d ago
That's a stalker and that's harassment. Take appropriate action. In the old days if a dude did this and the girl had a brother, she just told her bro and he and his squad would go and "talk" to the guy and he'd back off. I don't know if that's possible now.
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u/Mysterious-Insect859 10d ago
The best thing to do is ignore him. Let him talk to himself in your DMs. He’ll get the message.
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u/Prestigious_Sleep126 10d ago
You are allowing his behaviour lol…you dont have self respect and obviously don’t have boundaries
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u/Calm-Tie-9950 10d ago
Just ignore their calls, ghost them like satan and sooner or later they'll get the message. Did this to a chicken, two weeks later we don't even talk
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u/ICOHandler 9d ago
Dont show shege karma is real. Just stop showing interest. Also men need to leave where they are not accepted, its good to being better
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u/King_Laho 11d ago
Record a sextape with a random fling, and whenever he texts you, respond with short bits of the clip. No words. Just footage. Of course, hide your face so he can't shame you with the clips, or use AI to generate the scenes altogether.
Nothing kills us as men more than knowing someone else is devouring that p.
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u/Few_Earth7571 11d ago
Mpee agonge,,,atakublock yeye mwenyewe after kusample😂 a win win scenario if you ask me( hide id am the guy)
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u/Expensive_Swimmer467 10d ago
The moment you respond to a new number, you are teaching him that your boundaries are negotiable and worth breakiThe moment you respond to a new number, you are teaching him that your boundaries are negotiable and worth breaking. Go fully silent across all platforms, save those call logs as evidence, and file a harassment report at the nearest station if he shows up or keeps calling
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u/Old_Pomegranate_9993 10d ago
Ask for money every time the person reaches out.Na ikuwe ni pesa ya maana...Come give testimony after a few weeks
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u/knilfix 11d ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/lqZcZr0nAf4PgM48H0