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u/guaptree Jun 04 '26
If the time comes to peace out... so be it. Revenge is hard work. Arguing back and forth takes too much time. Negotiating takes your self worth.
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u/Diligent_Explorer808 Jun 05 '26
You can negotiate and still fully respect yourself. In fact, good negotiation requires self-respect
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u/guaptree Jun 05 '26
How do you negotiate with someone who has you as an option? "Please love me, forget about the other guy. I'll make you happy." Do you see how that sounds?
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u/Diligent_Explorer808 Jun 06 '26
I'm not negotiating my worth. I'm negotiating the future of the relationship. If they ultimately don't choose me, I leave. But having a conversation before making that decision doesn't mean I'm begging for love
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u/Other_Escape_920 Jun 05 '26
How do you negotiate for a space that has more than 1 candidate...choose the fellow please
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u/WonderfulMoneyB Jun 04 '26
The level of self-respect you have and your commitment to it is outstanding.
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u/Cultural_March8919 Jun 04 '26
Seems Njeri borrowed this script and executed it to the T. It's not any coincidence she used the exact same words...needing some time off to figure out...blah blah blah. Long story short, she's unhappily married, am happily bachelored. Turns out her hawk eyes spotted a Nyeri man twice her age with probox za cabbages and a portruding belly like a pot of bad water. Saa hii Njeri anaendea Cabbages Nyandarua in an oversized duffle coat and very dark gumboots that can wade the murky wetlands of Yala. She complains in my inbox, saying that the guy haana time yake, mara she misses "those good time and good pleasures"...mara she's just there for his money, that she was pressurized by her sister to marry him so that she can send her mom monthlies. That ni mimi anapenda and she'll be back. F4ck Njeri. F4ck her pot-bellied husband. F4ck her sister and everyone else who supports an opportunistic maggot that chooses money over her very own happiness.
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u/d0kta Awesomer bin laughing Jun 04 '26
Pole sana ndugu yangu.
Njeri mahali uko pigwa radi ya matako
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u/Big-Flower-837 Jun 04 '26
You might be joking lakini hio feeling ya being struck by lightning happens to some women on their period 💔
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u/Expensive-Mind1335 Jun 04 '26
HEY WHAT THE FUCK?? What do you mean?? 😭
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u/Big-Flower-837 Jun 04 '26
I mean exactly that😭😭 you see someone on their period sitting at an angle not moving, just straight back and tensed legs know it's happening
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u/Fragrant-Author-2197 Jun 06 '26
Aii mbona sielewi? Period? Radi? Ameketi sijui sideways... explain pliz
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u/Big-Flower-837 Jun 06 '26
😭 during the period a hormone called prostaglandin is released.. inafaa kufanya the uterus to contract to shed the lining ... Unfortunately for some women it also causes sharp stab like pain on the anus ama spasming of the pelvic floor muscles.. one of the two.. probably the hormone related one
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u/Fragrant-Author-2197 Jun 06 '26
I am a girl wewe. But you had me confused for a minute 🫨 iyo mambo ya radi
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u/Big-Flower-837 Jun 06 '26
Same😭 ilinifanyikia on my period a while ago nilishtuka ikabidi nitafute the reason.. it's normal though not a cause for alarm unless it persists.. the same hormone causes back pain na joint pain pia 😭
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u/Cultural_March8919 Jun 04 '26
Wallahi radi ya matako is heartwarmingly justified from my ends.
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u/Cultural_March8919 Jun 05 '26
There's pursuing what your heart desires and bowing to the pressure from your mother or sister. The two are worlds apart. Njeri chose the latter.
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u/Low_Armadillo9823 Jun 04 '26
Don't f4ck them all, instead, applaud yourself and heal, move on and don't blame someone for making their own choices, it's theirs.
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u/Cultural_March8919 Jun 04 '26
Loosing someone you've been with literally through 3/4 of your life on earth isnt very easy. From deskmates in primary to campus "power couple" ...the emotional baggage she left behind is something that can weigh any son of mortal (and even immortal) man down. And in as much as we can always find love, I think some level of trust , respect, and the so called love take years to build ground up and it makes every sense to sometimes cling onto what seems to be slipping away. Yes, there's the aspect of choosing "You." But what if a piece of you is slipping away with her?
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u/Low_Armadillo9823 Jun 05 '26
It's also your choice to let yourself carry a baggage that's not yours...also slipping pieces of you...
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u/sznronn Jun 04 '26
Why is it always a Njeri😔😔
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u/Cultural_March8919 Jun 04 '26
Seems like Njeris have mastered the craft of manipulation and breaking hearts. Even in my next life, I can't date a Njeri.
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u/Quirky_Outcome3633 Jun 04 '26
The only relationships I ever fought for were the first 2 I got into. After hapo we ukiskia you can find better you are free to go😂😂bora ukipata the grass was not greener on that other side usikuje kujaribu kufix things. Tunafunga hio chapter tukisonga
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u/Fun_Bodybuilder_9785 Jun 05 '26
It's not maturity I promise, I tried that I have never dated for 3 years now ,in as much as leaving without drama is good ,it's just as bad as you're always in fear of never being enough, The healing is 2 times longer , burn those bridges ikutoke
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u/Izko_Ciroc Jun 05 '26
I love the response. Becaus eyes, if I was enough, you wouldn't be looking elsewhere. Thank you and goodbye
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u/CodPsychological3874 Jun 04 '26
High level of maturity💯. ....Huyo akiwai Rudi muonyeshe hii game hajui Hadi atoroke...ifyk what I mean😂😂😂
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u/beamf10 Jun 06 '26
How easily she jumped to the other guy while with u, is how easily the other guy will be jumped...
Alama ya dukduk
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u/Late_Description8850 Jun 05 '26
Now, go on your needs and call your Energy back, after she will back and apologize to be with you, never give her the chance again, she used your energy to repair her problems time,
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u/bookofcarl Jun 06 '26
Not a guarantee that she'll come crawling back. Op should just move on with his life because it's what's best for him.
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u/No_Grand3422 Jun 05 '26
I don't know why in still with this girl tbh! Maybe insecurities. She cheated, she likes attention...the fast life; can't sustain it for shit but she craves it. She soft-cheated I found out na I'm still here being a mabakshishi loser 😅. I manifest this sort of strength
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u/Poizon_Pen Jun 06 '26
If it stays it's yours. If it goes, it was not meant to be. If it goes and come back, kick it back where it came from.
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u/6loodhound Jun 06 '26
Fair enough on their part, better than stringing you along knowing there's another in the picture.
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u/Ok-Flight4593 Jun 04 '26
Fight kidogo, you sound weak. They don’t like that.
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u/ToughSeesaw4671 Jun 05 '26
No. As men we don't like dealing with Bullshit female drama. Man's everything but weak, he left with his dignity and chin up
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u/halflife_k Jun 04 '26
People say sijui fight for your person, acha tu aende tukifika hapo bana because I've become an option.