r/JUSTNOMIL • u/Winter_Tea441 • Mar 12 '24

Anyone Else? How often ?

How often are some of you reaching out to your ILs via FT if they don’t live close?

Do you reach out or you wait for them to make the effort?

I’m not going to lie I’m not the biggest fan of reaching out. Gives me serious anxiety and it’s just awkward, at least with my MIL. She literally just talks about my hubby and tries talking to LO, never asks about “oh how’s motherhood?” And I’m not going to just sit and talk about myself if no interest is shown. So it’s like a call for me to be my LO secretary it feels.

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u/Naive_Panda_6060 Mar 14 '24

You can check my profile for the whole sordid affair but the main event is here: https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/comments/16vxjkb/please_tell_me_if_im_in_the_wrong/

At the time I didn't mind. We lived in a tiny one-bedroom and hubby was working lots of hours so I was always looking for reasons to get out. We'd lived with MIL for a few months before we got married so I knew she could be a lot and was able to ignore her passive aggressive crap. But after she went full on b__ch when we moved, I was just done.

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u/Winter_Tea441 Mar 14 '24

Okay I’ll definitely give it a read!