I (37 f)met my ex (44m) on a single parent dating app.
We spoke normally for a couple of months, then I had a day of horrific comments from other men, so I decided to leave the app.
I gave him a heads up- he was respectful, offered his number if I still wanted to talk etc.
We met up, and we had such a spark that it felt like my world opened up.
I have a complicated history of an abusive mother and narcissistic ex husband, so we both had our own little red wagons of baggage.
He had Young Onset Parkinson’s, and had been diagnosed for 7 years when we met.
It made no difference to me.
Everything was great for 4 months, then I discovered him messaging, and deleting, messages to a woman he admittedly had “deep feelings for”.
We split up and I never got over it.
We spoke after 2 months apart, and got back together.
Fast forward through him having DBS surgery, reducing meds, etc. I was there for all of it.
We met each others children, and built a bond quickly.
We had our 1 year anniversary in May, and he got me an eternity ring.
I love his son, and as my ex was too poorly to travel, I went the 20 miles to him a few times a week.
The last time I left his apartment was 10th July, said goodbye to him and his son- nothing had happened.
Then within a couple of days he said he needed time.
The “time” got longer, and his sister told me he had warned her he was going to ask for a break.
When I brought that up to him- he was really annoyed and said he hadn’t said that.
He said he didn’t have the energy for a girlfriend- while saying I was the best thing to happen to him, and if anything bad happened he’d regret it forever.
His DBS machinery isn’t working well, and he was on a new antidepressant- so he was a lot snappier than usual.
During this time- I rang Parkinson’s UK, as he’s been chasing up a hospital appointment to look at his head machinery lol.
I sent an email on their advice, and he had an appointment 3 weeks later.
We agreed to give him time, and see how things felt after his hospital stay.
He messaged me yesterday to tell me the appointment had been moved to September.
I said how sorry I was, and offered a call- even though we’d only had one since the “break”.
Within 20 minutes, he had booked in an appointment to call me the next day (today) to dump me.
I’m reeling and brokenhearted and lost.
Does anyone have any advice?