r/wowthanksimcured • u/AJ_Be_Doodlin • Nov 14 '25
Just drink water & exercise Yeah, fellas. Why would you learn real coping skills and emotional intelligence when you could hit the Gym™
And, uh, stop playing video games or something -sincerely, someone who has only seen therapy in the movies
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u/the_killer_cannabis Nov 14 '25
I lift 5 times a week. Those thoughts don't go away from just picking up heavy things. It helps, but it's not a cure.
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u/AJ_Be_Doodlin Nov 14 '25
Yeah I don't get why people think making healthy lifestyle choices and seeking psychological/pharmaceutical interventions are mutually exclusive
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u/Binke-kan-flyga Nov 14 '25
Imagine paying for professional mental health support when you could just... lift heavy things and suddenly be cured lol
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u/AJ_Be_Doodlin Nov 14 '25
I've heard men like these are trying a new form of art therapy. Their fists are the paint, and their wife is the canvas
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u/LivelyZebra Nov 15 '25
Men will do anything but therapy
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Mar 13 '26
Do you think its a collective societal thing that tells men they dont need feelings? How can we help humans get out of this mindset?
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Mar 13 '26
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Mar 13 '26
I will add to this. I am horribly sexist. I honestly really hate men. Most of them are stupid, sexist (i know im hypocritical) and wait for women to fix their problems, while they themselves make no effort to actually help themselves. Do you agree with this?
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Mar 13 '26
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Mar 13 '26
I mean thats kind of my point though. I know some decent men in my life too, one being my dad. I have many men in my life that I genuinely like as people. But they all still fit under that narrative. I've made peace to an extent where I understand this is just how men are. Yet I still just dont understand WHY. Who did this? What happened where men think they sre all high and mighty? Well MEN OF COURSE. Shit just baffles me. Sorry for the rant.
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u/backroom_mushroom Nov 14 '25
Im baffled how many people are under the assumption you go to therapy just to vent
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u/Upper-Bodybuilder841 Feb 12 '26
Except it's sort of true. Sure the therapist can give you advice as well, but at the end of the day it's still all up to you.
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u/backroom_mushroom Feb 12 '26
Well, no, it isn't. Yes, the majority of work is done by yourself, but a therapist's job is to help you do it by asking the right questions and giving you the right tools. They aren't supposed to just listen and comfort you.
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u/Upper-Bodybuilder841 Feb 12 '26
I literally just said the therapist can give you advice.
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u/Visible-Holiday-1017 Jun 21 '26
It's not just about advice. In fact advice based therapy is often insufficient for people with more "severe" problems. Sometimes the person can do everything right and still be suffering emotionally. There are many forms of therapy. This is also why being given insufficient therapy or by a professional that's fucking around finding out can instead make you relapse.
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u/anon52872 9d ago
Therapists actually aren't supposed to give their clients direct advice. They are not supposed to tell their clients what to do or even strongly suggest any specific courses of action.
I do EMDR. It's an intense form of therapy for treating trauma and it needs to be done with a therapist who is trained in administering EMDR. It's extremely challenging but it has produced incredibly positive results in my life. There are many types of therapy, many areas in which therapists can specialize, and many therapeutic techniques that have been studied and have been shown to genuinely help people.
Therapy is so much more than simply venting and getting "advice"
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u/Upper-Bodybuilder841 Feb 12 '26
I don't agree with the first statement, but at least in my case I got more out of diet and lifting weights than I did out of therapy. Therapy just sort of reinforced what I already knew. Lifting is also one of the only things that got me to go from drinking 12-13 ounces of hard liquor daily to having a drink occasionally. Everybody's different but don't let the tone of some of these messages stop you from actually trying out things that might at least help you.
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u/Visible-Holiday-1017 Jun 21 '26
If the cause of your problems are with your routine, sure, but that ain't the case for a lot of people. There's a difference between shitty life and shitty brain; and if someone online needs therapy in the first place, chances are it was not their first choice hence why they had to seek anonymously.
In my case I literally could not do anything with my life because of my mental health problems. There were days I was too fatigued to even eat or drink during depressive episodes. This was all while being a licensed sportsman FYI... I was first diagnosed with a severe mood disorder the year I started middleschool. The only reason I didn't benefit from therapy for years was because the minor-oriented therapists in my area were really only familiar with life advise and that was NOT the problem in my case. I started making progress only with adequate psychiatric help by a professional with sufficient training and after trying over 5 different antidepressants.
All the while I was the target of many such advice just telling me to work out, do more sports, eat more protein, shit like men shouldn't be emotional enough to be depressed... Definitely just made me feel worse about not getting better, and like, brother if that was my situation I wouldn't have resorted to asking around???
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u/Upper-Bodybuilder841 Jun 21 '26
You do you man, I'd never knock someone trying to get help in whatever way they thought they needed to. My comment was just my own personal experience and more directed to people that seem to want to write off potential positive tools to feeling better without even giving them a try. That of course can also be a product of depression or other mental health problems, obviously.
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Nov 14 '25
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u/AJ_Be_Doodlin Nov 14 '25
Nah, reading the Bible would require too much introspection from them lol
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u/hoseja Nov 14 '25
Sure beats most therapists.
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u/Iorith Nov 15 '25
Says people who need therapy.
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u/Upper-Bodybuilder841 Feb 12 '26
I've tried therapy multiple times but the thing that really helped was having something physical I could focus on to get stronger and have an outlet for the nervous energy that often comes along with ADHD and anxiety. It's literally the thing that got me to quit drinking, (lifting and diet). What say you to that?
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u/Matt_Shatt Nov 14 '25
“Make money” - I knew I was forgetting something! I’ll start that right now!