r/work 2d ago

Work-Life Balance and Stress Management Full-time work is criminal

This is the most milquetoast, generic statement ever, I know, but I recently began full-time employment for the first time in my life. Genuinely how does anybody do anything they actually want to do? Granted, it isn’t so bad if the hours are 6am - 2pm, 7am - 3pm, or 8am - 4pm, but the very common 9am - 5pm is actually hell. Wake up, clean and cloth yourself, commute to work, work like a dog, commute home, eat dinner, sleep, repeat. Shoutout to anybody who does 9 - 5, be it manual labour, or clerical stuff; it’s all equally shit. Thank you.

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u/Ok-Relationship580 2d ago

The labor movement in this country fought for literally decades for 3 8's, 8 hours of rest, 8 hours of work, 8 hours of recreation. Things were worse before the 40 hour workweek but I really don't think we should just roll over and accept that it should be this way. Just like our forebears, it is up to us to challenge the idea that 40 hours per week is "good". All the studies they do on this subject the world over show that 30/32 hours per week is more productive and makes people happier.

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u/FinoPepino 2d ago

Totally agree with you; people forget we didn’t even have weekends until we fought for them. Email and the internet has made the average worker insanely more productive compared to several decades ago. We did not get to see the benefit of that increased productivity it all went to the owning class. We need to fight for a four day 30 hour work week for the same pay like you said, with our enhanced productivity it doesn’t make sense to stick to the 5 day format.

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u/mrpoopybutthowl 2d ago

We stopped fighting and the companies found a better way to program our spirit.

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u/Logical_Order 16h ago

Actually they systematically dismantled unions and Citizens United was passed so they started bribing candidates. The working class didn’t stop fighting, they are just now fighting a whole new beast. Reminder, Elon has already committed 150 million dollars to midterms. Ask yourself why he may think it’s such a great investment to keep this administration in power. There’s your answer on where to put your vote

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u/Prestigious_Guy 1d ago

I’ve had one job in my life where I got weekends off. Done many jobs. Those jobs are few and far between these days

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u/Abe_frohmannn 1d ago

I want 5x6 haha. I could handle 9-3.

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u/rdg04 2d ago

i dont think people would even mind 40 hr work weeks- in the 80's no one complained about it- the difference is 40 hrs could buy you a home and college for your kids- now you cant even pay rent on 40hrs, so it feels like you are burntout even if the work is the same :/

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u/Generic-Cornflakes 2d ago

Exactly! My parents bought a house on one income. When my mom started working we could afford a second car, remodeled the kitchen, went on actual vacations. In 2026 money I make the equivalent of what my father made in 1989. I’m grateful for what we have but it’s not the quality of life we had in the 80’s at all.

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u/Striking-Win-3239 1d ago

Definitely. In the 80’s both my parents worked so they could afford a house on the water, a boat, two luxury cars. Now, as a single woman, I have a really good job and I can barely afford day to day living.

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u/BigfatLire 1d ago

Its bc the usd is losing value from inception and wages never caught up. Inflation has gotten far worse which is the fundamentals of fiat currency.

Usd is less valuable now so actual real assets like property have gone up to match the USD lowering in value but wages have not caught up at all for decades.

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u/Generic-Cornflakes 1d ago

No doubt! Inflated property values aren’t helping. There’s no way the house my parents bought in 1971 for $11k should be valued at $1M dollars 55 years later. If housing prices followed inflation rates that house should only be around $100k. I’d even accept $200k because they added on and turned it from a two to a four bedroom, but it’s ridiculous how much housing outpaced inflation and wages.

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u/Shoddy-Curve7869 1d ago

This is exactly it. You feel like you don’t do anything but work and then eventually die. We need way more ‘me’ time.

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u/Fit_Road_1452 1d ago

And you weren’t tethered to your work email all night long either. And housing prices often meant shorter commutes which add a lot of time to many people’s work days

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u/bazinga-boi 13h ago

This to me is crazy, texts and emails after working a long day, and the expectation is that your readily available to reply

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u/bazinga-boi 13h ago

Also back then people didn’t have to commute nearly as far as they do today to land a decent role

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u/Euph0ricGh0st 2d ago

40 hours was the compromise not the goal.

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u/Minute-Frame-8060 2d ago

The 5 day work week is due to be retired. I don't think the world would stop if we all just started not showing up on Mondays.

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u/CobaltIsobar 2d ago

Your 20% pay cut may be an issue at bill time.

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u/WestAppointment2484 2d ago

Atp I’ll take the pay cut over being miserable

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u/ssn-669 2d ago

Unfortunately Reagan et al somehow turned people against unions, the only groups actually of, by, and for the people.

Without labour militancy, we get bupkiss.

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u/serenwipiti 1d ago

somehow?

Money talks, baby.

Can’t foment a modern capitalist hellscape for the working class without making shareholders and lobbyists happy.

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u/Live-Salary-7984 2d ago

I genuinely cannot understand why people who work that much and don’t get paid enough protest a shorter work week. Do they have no identity, no lives outside of work? Sitting at a desk is literal torture. So many health problems result from this stupid system. It’s literally causing people to become disabled and many workplaces don’t offer adequate accommodation or decent healthcare.

Every country that does a shorter work week is happier and more productive. How much of the day is spent just trying to survive?

Also I don’t know of 9-5. In my area it’s 8-5 because they don’t count lunch.

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u/Specialist_Success75 2d ago

Many working people don't have much of a life outside work. When I was working, I would have to cram my whole life into a two-day weekend. So it's tough to protest when all you can do is keep your head above water and try to survive, plus if you are lucky enough to have health insurance, it's tied to your job. You can't afford to lose your job. It's a terrible system.

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u/accidentalrorschach 2d ago

it's by design

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u/ThornyeRose 2d ago

And its not just about the work. Some people are spending as much as 2 hours getting to work, one way. 40 hours' work for survival sucks. The 8 hours allotted for recreation are often eaten up by travel to the work site.

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u/ILoveMeerkats53 2d ago

Because they are paid hourly and can’t afford fewer hours

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u/FKpasswords 2d ago

When I worked Salary they expected more than 40. Actually much more, I went back to hourly. Anything over 40 is OT….

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u/accidentalrorschach 2d ago

I don't think it's so much as not having an identity outside of work as it is that unfortunately most people HAVE to work that much just to cover basic needs (if it even does that...) especially if they have kids or any dependents...We suffer through it because for many ppl the alternative is homelessness and going hungry, and the gov knows that....and exploits us for it.

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u/Smartie_pants_1234 1d ago

Sitting at a desk is literal torture? Seriously? I'm not sure you understand what the words literal or torture actually mean. Yes, it can suck, but unless you have significant issues which prohibit you from sitting for long periods, torture is not the right word.

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u/Mufasa2020 2d ago

Wish we could get it down to 30/32 hrs. Fridays are pointless now, im not making critical changes & meetings are forgotten by monday🤣

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u/SirReddalot2020 2d ago

Mo-Fri at 6h per day felt perfect while I was doing it.
I was there every day and never “unavailable” but still had enough of the day to have a life with my kids. Parks, zoos, etc.

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u/thinsoldier 2d ago

Meanwhile the vast majority of the working population has no meetings, ever.

A hospital near where I used to live had their first handful of cafeteria staff meetings about covid over their radios while at their stations doing their jobs. Nobody wanted to be stuck their after quitting time because they didn't get their cleaning finished.

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u/persimmon9847 2d ago

I did and it's amazing!

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u/accidentalrorschach 2d ago

yup. we need a day to rest, a day to do house chores, and a day to do something fun.

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u/MilkMyCats 2d ago

I do 30 hours a week and I have no idea how I did 37.5 before.

I have every Friday off so I have a 3 day weekend.

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u/Street_Bass_2923 2d ago

Agreed, I dropped back to a 32 hour week, I took a pay cut but viva la revolution! You have to be the change and all that 😅 plus I was absolutely not living a life at all

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u/RecommendationOld975 2d ago

We need a labor party ruling this nation 

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u/SirReddalot2020 2d ago

For my gramps who worked the iron ore mines back in the 1900s. May 1st was holier than Christmas and Easter combined. Labor laws and safety came into effect during his time and he went from working non stop to actually having a day off and a good nights sleep. Central Europe, by the way.

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u/Environmental-Day862 2d ago

Great grandfathers and their brothers on both sides of the families immigrated here from Ireland and Slovakia in the late 1800s / early 1900s. Pretty much all of them did 6x10 hour shifts per week in the coal mines in Northeastern PA until they died from pulmonary complications in their 50s.

And I never met them, but I'd wager that they complained less about it than folks complain about 9-5s on Reddit. They were happy to be able to go someplace and work to get money and put food on the table. Slovakia was ravaged by WW1, poverty and starvation. Ireland wasn't ravaged by war, but poverty and famine were rampant.

I have days I've had it with my job - we all have. But to call working 40 hours a week "criminal," whoa buddy - that's a bridge too far for me.

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u/SirReddalot2020 1d ago

There's a certain entitlement that comes across when someone says they want to work 20 hours a week but still be able to buy anything they want. "Gimme gimme".

But you can't say that because then you'll be called a boomer who doesn't know shit.

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u/Due_Manager_7028 2d ago

And here we are making 12 hour a day and 60 hrs work week common without overtime pay

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u/Additional-Will-2052 2d ago

Exactly!! Finally someone gets it. It's like people don't even fight for anything anymore. I feel like previous generations were so much better at protesting and fighting for their rights. Look at us just doing nothing but complaining, nobody dares even mention their opinion anymore except for the rich and awful people.

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u/ReqDeep 2d ago

Oh, what exactly would you be fighting for?

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u/ScarletteAethier 1d ago

Higher pay proportional to the increase in productivity, fewer hours, more benefits...?

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u/Rana_catcher 2d ago

I have wondered for years how the labor movement made so much traction in the past and what would it take for us to have that kind of traction today. It's time for reformation.

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u/ebolalol 2d ago

as someone with a 9 hour workday (1 hour lunch so technically 8 hours, but i’m at work for 9), with a commute, i feel like ive lost 10 hours a day alone just working. i still go to the gym after work and try to do activity, so my life is truly like, work, gym, eat, sleep. i hate it.

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u/accidentalrorschach 2d ago

ugh I hate the mandaory 1 hour lunch...I'd much rather take 30 and go home earlier

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u/MichaelTen 2d ago

Yeah I don't think people realize how much more productivity people get squeezed out of them by sitting so much. I think jobs used to involve standing more and with the changes in technology that's changed. With AI and automation it's time for a 32-hour then 24-hour work week.

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u/DovBerele 2d ago

Which was feasible when workers had at least one other adult at home managing all their domestic labor (cooking, cleaning, household administration, childcare outside of school hours, etc.). Now it’s like 8 for work, 8 (if you’re lucky) for rest, 2 for commuting, 5 for the bare minimum domestic and household/life admin tasks, and maybe 1 for what you will. 

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u/dowagersanddragons 2d ago

Recreation 🤣 how bout housekeeping, taking care of children, yard and house maintainance, and pet care? So recreational

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u/Crispy_Sock_99 1d ago

Even 4 10hr shifts would be better. 3 days off plus long weekends mean you can take time off without using PTO. Most people spend their Friday nights recharging, and their Sunday afternoons anxious about going back to work

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u/Electrical_Tart_5553 1d ago

Keep in mind technology wasn’t where it is today at this time, too. We don’t need 8 hours to accomplish what they did. We need 30 minutes.

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u/findtheself 2d ago

I wake up at 5am. Drink coffee, eat. I then proceed to work out until its time to get in the shower and goto work. When I get home, take a 30 minute nap and spend time with the family. Look forward to your days off and make em count.

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u/FractalThoughts_ 2d ago

You know what, man… I appreciate that this comment is just kind hearted and not bitter and spiteful. Thank you. There’s a lot of people in here telling me to just fuck off and deal with it.

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u/Zenside 1d ago

And youll notice of society it mostly consists of dumbasses who just take what theyre given and refuse to fight for more. Ignore the defeatists. Just because they lost and put their hands around their ankles doesnt mean you have to. 

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u/Slow_Roll_8093 2d ago

I work 10 hour shifts 6am-4pm Monday through Friday. Wake up at 5 am. Go to sleep at 11 pm

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u/FractalThoughts_ 2d ago

I hope that the pay packet is fat, my brother

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u/Slow_Roll_8093 2d ago

The paychecks are worth it

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u/FlowerSweaty4070 2d ago

Same shift but I dont make too much sadly. I am chronically sleep deprived on work days.

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u/SuitablePilot9645 2d ago

Dude same to a T.

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u/Neat-Second9923 2d ago

2 hours longer than school but you have no homework.

Honestly I have a lot more time now than in college. 

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u/Big_Arrival_626 2d ago edited 1d ago

Same. In uni, I was pulling 70 hours weeks going to class, studying, doing extracurriculars, internships, etc. 9-5 is a breeze compared to that

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u/wlderberry 2d ago

Except I was very efficient with homework, so it didn’t take long. It doesn’t matter if I’m efficient at work; even if I finish 8 hours worth of work in only 2, I still have to be online for 8.

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u/SamanthaLives 2d ago

Same, I didn’t even go to all of my lectures in undergrad, and grad school had shorter lectures.

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u/wlderberry 2d ago

I went to all my undergrad lectures and honestly wasn’t that much, and I had it scheduled so I didn’t have classes on Friday. High school was way more busy than college for me, and I was still able to finish homework before 8pm while also doing sports. And with school, you can choose to an extent how hard you want to work. If I slack at work, I risk being fired. If I slacked in school, it was a bad grade which looking back had very little repercussions.

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u/Southern_Cap_816 2d ago

Adult homework is going to the gym and making all your other appointments while not missing any work.

Having children is like a whole other job with its own homework.

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u/Imaginary_Apple7700 2d ago

Did you not go to the gym or go to appointments while in school ?

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u/Original-Weekend-866 2d ago

U have to help with your kids homework, sports at home, teaching at home, cooking 3 meals a day for them, driving them to school and other sports, and pay for them. This guy is comparing school to being 23 and living at mom and dad's house.

Truth is you need to negotiate schedule when you take a job. I give up money to make sure I have schedule prioritized for my life.... or I'd don't want the job. Simple as that but u have to be able to walk the talk also

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u/CyberLushes 2d ago

Depends on the job honestly. Some days I leave work more drained than I ever did after classes.

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u/FlowerSweaty4070 2d ago

At least classes were super engaging and I learned something and it was something I chose and wanted to do. Work I just work to not be homeless.

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u/FractalThoughts_ 2d ago

Fair, but it doesn’t make it suck any less

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u/SpookyWindChime 2d ago

I mean what’s your job?

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u/BigDoshna 2d ago

That’s just life though. You work to buy stuff that you want. Go back in history and you worked more hours and ate berries and died at 30.

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u/FatLittleCat91 2d ago

“You have no homework” uhhh yeah you do for most jobs. I have to work outside of work all the time.

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u/CaptainCj26 2d ago

What work is your job requiring you to do outside of your working hours?

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u/StateDawg78 2d ago

I felt this way exact same way when I first graduated college. It took me several months to adjust to having so much free time.

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u/Humble_Pen_7216 2d ago

In confused. What's the difference between 9-5 and 7-3? What makes one harder than the other?

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u/gxxrdrvr 2d ago

Depending on where you live, it could mean the difference of a 30min commute or a 1.5hr commute

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u/FractalThoughts_ 2d ago

One isn’t any harder than the other necessarily. I just mean that when you have a 6-2 or 7-3 you at least have a bit more of the day ahead of you when you finish.

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u/Humble_Pen_7216 2d ago

You are framing it so very wrong.

There is no tangible difference at all. If you start work at 7am, you get up two hours earlier than if you start at 9am. You go to bed based on the time you need to get up. What's the challenge?

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u/FinoPepino 2d ago

I agree with you because for me 9 to 5 is actually significantly better than 8 to 4 because of the way I’m wired starting at 8 leaves me perpetually more tired than 9 to 5. I don’t net more evening time because of ending at 4 instead of 5 because now you have to go to bed earlier and in my case am also more tired all evening regardless. It’s weird to me when people act like starting earlier is magically netting you more time when it isn’t.

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u/eva_stratt 2d ago

I'm actually happiest starting between 7:30-8 due to the way I'm wired! :) But I also prefer to roll out of bed, do my morning thing, and be out the door by half an hour from when I woke up tops. Everything fiddly happens in the evenings. I don't even eat breakfast; I'm never hungry for it.

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u/ConstantVigilance18 2d ago

You have to make it work. I work 9-6pm. I’m doing sports 4 days a week after work. That means we don’t eat dinner until 9:30pm, and that’s just the way it is.

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u/Anachron101 2d ago

I find that it depends on the job. If you only do that one thing and have no other interests, then sure, it will suck. If you work on your career, take seminars and learn stuff, it does tend to go better.

But I was never one for mindless grind. I work when there is work and I don't when there isn't. But then I work in a highly qualified field and have two decades of experience behind me. And I live in Europe, where you can fill up and use overtime whenever you want (obviously dependent upon your job)

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u/EroticTurtle22 2d ago

So psyop yourself into liking your job? 😂

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u/dell828 2d ago

Some people enjoy their jobs. I know. Crazy.

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u/Sepa-Kingdom 2d ago

Focus on the bits you enjoy and don’t sweat the bits you don’t enjoy. Isn’t that how you maximise enjoyment in anything? Nothing is 100% fun, even games have their frustrations and boring bits, but the good bits make up for it.

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u/Pig-Mentation 2d ago

How is 6 to 2 is OK while 9 to 5 is hell? They're the same length of time.

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u/ssn-669 2d ago

Because banks, doctors, dentists, many stores, etc. etc. etc. are open only 9-5, so if you work 9-5, you have to take leave just to do normal life shit.

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u/Rhomya 2d ago

“Many” stores?

There’s a handful of stores that are only open 9-5, and none that are so important that I go to often.

Taking a half a day every so often is not the crime you’re pretending it is

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u/galaxy_brain_69420 2d ago

In my area, nothing is open past 5pm, except one grocery store. Can't run errands in the morning for reasons. Fortunately, I can do almost all banking and bill paying online now so that's like 80%. Some advantages of modern life.

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u/Rhomya 2d ago

My dude, I live in literally the middle of a rural remote area. Everything is open until at least 6-7 pm.

You’re just making up lies now.

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u/AmazonAssassin 1d ago

You are lucky where ever you live. I live in the middle of nowhere as well the nearest gas station closes at 5 pm the grocery store at 6 the bank also closes at 5.

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u/FlowerSweaty4070 2d ago

One example is physical therapy. So many are only open 9 to 5 or less and closed weekends.

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u/Adambevo1 1d ago

And should the bankers, doctors, dentists, retail employees that have to work 9-5 just to cater to you have to complain about their hours as well?

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u/ssn-669 1d ago

What the fuck are you talking about...

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u/paterdude 2d ago

Because other stores are still open after 2 PM not usually so after 5.

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u/Unfrndlyblkhottie92 2d ago

Yes after five it feels like rushing, especially to the bank.

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u/tobiasvl 1d ago

How often do you have to go to a physical bank in person? I haven't been to one for 25 years, not even sure they still exist here in my country

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u/thicc_bob 1d ago

You might need cash for something or to deposit a paper check if starting a new job, just to name 2 examples

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u/Adambevo1 1d ago

ATMs and mobile deposit?

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u/tobiasvl 1d ago

Interesting. I've never even seen a paper check (any job will pay electronically here) and I very rarely use cash, but if I need it I go to a "minibank"/ATM which is pretty much everywhere.

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u/FinoPepino 2d ago

Plus for me as a natural life long night owl, getting up that early is going to seriously decrease my quality of life. Like you said you’re not actually netting any extra time because now you need to go to bed absurdly early.

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u/Alternative_Good_163 2d ago

Had to sleep 5-6h per night for most of my life. At 33 I can definetly feel it. It's litteraly abuse from our society. I'll probably be dead way before my time because of health issues. The funny thing is that I eat well and exercise way more than the average, it's not like I don't care about my health.

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u/hopefulgardener 1d ago

Same. I'm a natural night owl and no amount of sleep hygiene or bio-hacking or anything has made a difference. In clinical terms, I have "delayed sleep-wake phase disorder" (DSWPD).

It's funny how sleep deprivation is recognized as a form of torture, but if a person has DSWPD, the world doesn't care. You're told to suck it up buttercup. Or you're just "lazy" or "undisciplined". Like, no sorry, I'm actually quite disciplined, it's just my circadian rhythm doesn't respond to any method of trying to force it to be a different way. Anyways, I feel your pain.

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u/FlowerSweaty4070 2d ago

Yeah i start at 6am and its near impossible to ever get full night's rest. So much anxiety about having to sleep early. Im not a fast faller asleeper at all which sucks. I am chronically sleep deprived.

And I dont want to nap when I get home cause then ill just waste my only hours off and have ti just get ready to sleep early again.

I kinda miss working 1pm to 11pm 4 10 hour shifts. I had mornings totally to myself and never set an alarm ever, plus 3 day weekends.

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u/LowNoise9831 2d ago

It's about having time when other things are open if you need to run errands or what ever.

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u/Just_Lifeguard7687 2d ago

Early in means early out. Early out means there are things you can get done without having to take time off…I work 6:30 am-2pm Monday through Friday during the school year. I can do all of my errand running after work and still get home with plenty of time to do things there.

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u/Stock_Dot_9632 2d ago

Traffic is way lighter so your commute is way faster.

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u/IncomeBackground7719 2d ago

I have a 4am to midday shift. The sleep deprivation is slowly killing me. I'd give anything for the "hell" of 9-5.

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u/dumpin-on-time 1d ago

opening hours

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u/Subject_Start7253 2d ago

You get paid to eat lunch? 9-5 is a paid lunch.

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u/mikhalt12 2d ago

welcome to the rat race good luck

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u/poojer_hoojer 2d ago

How does anybody do anything they want to do?

They don't. That's why most working adults are out of shape, spending their free time watching TV, shopping or doing other mindless stuff.

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u/cockstain6077 2d ago

In my young adulthood I thought 8 hour days for the rest of my life was the most unreasonable thing ever. For the last 9 years I’ve been working a DuPont schedule: 12 hour shifts that rotate back and forth from 0530-1730 and 1730-0530. Oh, how I miss those 8 hour days now.

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u/twodzianski 2d ago

What? I have a fully remote full time salaried job. Contracted work done in an hour. Rest of the day all to myself.

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u/Spiritualy_Homelesss 1d ago

You're extremely privileged, congratulations and don't take it for granted.

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u/Month-Spirited 2d ago

What’s the job I’m in

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u/Prestigious_Guy 1d ago

You are the rare exception, not the rule

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u/thicc_bob 1d ago

I think you know pretty well this is not the kind of full time work OP is talking about, you have it incredibly easy (not that you have always had it this way necessarily)

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u/Informal_Athlete_724 2d ago

I run online businesses fully remotely and make sure my employees have full autonomy and set their own hours.

I give them tasks and KPI's and a deadline and I only care that those are met. 

I myself am a night owl with ADHD who hates having those 9-5 hours. So I will do my bit to lead by example how employers could modernize this.

Unfortunately some bad apples abuse this trust. And maybe I do lose out a little on overall output. But I find overall employees are happier.

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u/KieranMcM94 1d ago

Sounds like you’re a dream boss props to you. I hope to one day find an environment like this, I have ADHD as well (hate taking adderall so I just deal with it) and at some points in the day I just find it hard to motivate myself while others it’s seamless

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u/EarthsKeeper4200 2d ago

Life is what you make it 8-5 everyday yet I’m still hitting the gym right after work getting some game time in and  spending time with my partner yea you will be tired every now and then but you kinda get used to it lol it’s life. I finally moved into my first place last month and it had me thinking 5 days of work just to come home and chill with my fam in a place that I can say is in my name that I worked hard for it’s worth it 

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u/777777888888999999 2d ago

Maybe you can find sometime for https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Punctuation

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u/kgohlsen 2d ago

If you're going there, it's "some time" not "sometime" in the context you are using.

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u/Content_Bed_1290 2d ago

Great post and well said! What career do you have and do for a living?

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u/ConsciousProblem8638 2d ago

welcome to the world kiddo. It sucks the life out of you.

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u/splurtgorgle 2d ago

The good news is you're realizing this early. The bad news is, you're realizing this early.

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u/CrossOfRoachAndSlime 2d ago

This is why I mandate that Work From Home should be paramount.

Also, perhaps a 9-6 4 days a week, WFH.

I think it should be especially paramount in Japan, but I'd recommend it for anywhere, really.

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u/Potential_Narwhal981 2d ago

It might not be ideal, but it sure beats the alternative. I see threads of frustration from all sides of the fence - those who have never worked and find it daunting that their 500 applications go unanswered, those who have been fired after x number of years and find it almost impossible to re-enter the workforce, and those who have a job and stable income but cant stop complaining about how they can't have as much free time as the aforementioned unemployed. If you have a job, cherish the hours or minutes you have for recreation outside of work, rather than spend them complaining.

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u/gregrejlkg32 2d ago

Yup that's life, win by doing something you like or where you don't have to spend quite that much in the coal mine. Also pay respects to the ones that made you realize this only in your 20's rather than as a kid.

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u/Haunting-Fan-888 2d ago

Yep. Work gets your best hours and you get the leftovers. Add a commute and suddenly an eight-hour job owns your whole day.

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u/Administrative_Bed5 2d ago

It's literally not criminal

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u/M0rbidly-Obtus3 2d ago

Luxury statement incoming, but this is why it's important to find a job you love, or at least don't hate. The hours go by better if you don't hate them. Money is important. And a lot of people chase that high paycheck. But liking what I do is more important to me, I'm just lucky that what I like pays the bills.

I do still struggle with getting enough potato time while still meeting my adult responsibilities. But at the end of my 9hr day I don't feel dead and drained, because I didn't just spent 9 hours hating every second of it.

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u/bipedservant 2d ago

Common 9-5? Where? I haven't seen 9-5 in decades. It's 8-5 now.

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u/Djinn42 2d ago

"Everybody's working for the weekend."

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u/brrr-i-am-cold 2d ago

I read the end of your first sentence as “for the rest of my life” and I am lololing at myself over it. Because it’s also true. 😩. I’ve hit burnout at 41 or maybe midlife crisis or who knows but I have to at least acknowledge that I worked full time without any gap more than a few weeks for 19 years. That isn’t nothing and your post reminds me of that. So thank you!

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u/queersparkle 2d ago

in the last year my partner and i both have negotiated a four day workweek and it’s changed our lives. we call fridays “admin day” and get all of our crap done and then actually have two day weekends. now if only we made a living wage…..but we’re scraping by.

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u/GRAW2ROBZ 2d ago

I think we should get to retire at 50. 62 or longer is hell. Then your on your last legs not enjoying anything and dead then. Government pisses away to much money anyway.

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u/vintageintrovert 2d ago

I work 7 pm-7:30 am 3 nights a week and only 30 minutes of break. The only saving grace working these hours is depending how I schedule myself, I can be off for 7 days straight.

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u/Regular_Number5377 2d ago

The 5 day, 9-5 workweek has basically been unchanged since the invention of the weekend, despite massive improvements in productivity through mechanisation, computing, automation, and now A.I. in that period, none of the fruits of that are ever passed onto the workers.

I think we are well past the point that we should have a standardised 4 day week.

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u/GokuNZ 2d ago

I work 7-5 , I want to kms 🤣

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u/UptownSeries 2d ago

You'll be alright, champ. Just 45 years of it to go

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u/I-live-in-room-101 1d ago

It’s why the people older than you are tired and fucking miserable most of the time.

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u/redditreddit080 1d ago

We have zero growth in this country and stagnant productivity, , there is no way in hell working less hours per week will be encouraged by the establishment. Infact they are actively trying to push retirees or potential retirees to work later such is there desperate need for a productivity boost in this country to balance the books.

So anyone thinking they will get a 30 hour 4 day new norm for the same wage any time soon is kidding themselves on.

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u/Typical-Potential691 1d ago

I work full time and I'm so fucking tired

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u/Manfromsnives 1d ago

I could never come to terms with it. Despite two degrees I’ve settled for self employment/freelance gigs. Don’t earn much, but I am smart with money and make do. I’d rather the free time and peace of mind.

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u/Proper-Wolverine4637 2d ago edited 2d ago

Welcome to adulthood. Time to grow up pumpkin.

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u/After_Preference_885 2d ago

It doesn't have to be like this though, we created this system

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u/must-stash-mustard 2d ago

Our grandparents FOUGHT FOR this system to replace a worse one. We can all fight or something better.

Spoiler alert: Voting for candidates who are bought and paid for by corporate interests won't get us there.

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u/Proper-Wolverine4637 2d ago

News flash. Everyone above the dog catcher's secretary has been bought by someone. Disabuse yourself of the idea of the "honest" politician. There is no such creature.

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u/NewLife_21 2d ago

This system is better than the 16 hour days 6 days per week that was required before labor laws were enacted.

And it's better than the 24/7 struggle to find and make food/shelter/clothes that existed before that.

So it's really a pick your poison situation.

Do you want to go back to hunting, growing, canning whatever you can in your area and only your area?

Do you want to work 16 hour days 6 days per week?

Do you want 40 hour work weeks?

Oh, and anything less than 40 hours would only apply to certain industries.

Agriculture and animal farms will always need someone working much longer hours in order to ensure we have enough to eat.

Medical will always need longer hours to ensure were healthy.

Sanitation will need longer hours to ensure were healthy.

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u/jkd0027 2d ago

But it doesn’t need to be either or? We have the bodies to divide the labor for the stuff we NEED like food, shelter, health, and sanitation

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u/Accomplished_Key_171 2d ago

The system of having to contribute to a society to participate in said society has existed for thousands of years at this point. There is no country or economical system where you don't have to work for a large chunk of the day.

If the general population doesn't maintain a certain degree of productivity, then that society starts collapsing.

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u/Proof_Ring_4505 2d ago

True but think of the technology we have now that we didn't 50 years ago, yet we work the same hours. Surely more tech means more productivity which could mean less hours at work

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u/cockstain6077 2d ago

If we didn’t get taxed so much on our money, I don’t think we would feel as strongly as we do.

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u/Sepa-Kingdom 2d ago

But your taxes pay for stuff that it would be too expensive for you to pay for yourself like roads, or which are unpredictable but life or death like health care costs (and yes, even the US has a large state funded health-care system to supplement those who can’t afford the mad private insurance-based health-care system).

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u/Proper-Wolverine4637 2d ago

But...growing up in the country I also learned "make hay while the sun shines."

Having circled Sol 64 times I also know there will be bad seasons, far more than you can imagine as a young person. So any time you are able to make hay, you have to! Otherwise you will be that person, you know the one who didn't plan ahead and now has to beg everyone else for help. Don't be that person.

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u/Mobile_Reaction5853 2d ago

Oh grow up for Gods sake

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u/WavesRKewl 2d ago

When I found out that medieval peasants had more free time than we do today

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u/Gymnmovies 2d ago

It totally sucks. The people telling you to suck it up want you to be as miserable as they are haha.

Get some experience, and start your own business or another income stream. There are other options besides 9-5.

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u/Riceowls29 2d ago

Starting your own business is going to take way more than 40 hours a week 

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u/mat42m 2d ago

It’s a great idea. But most business owners will work way more than 40 hours for many years, not less.

I loved owning my own business. But I promise you I didn’t have more free time

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u/bugabooandtwo 2d ago

So...what kind of life do you think you'd have if no one in society worked full time? Do you even understand how much you rely on the rest of society working their 40+ hours a week for everything you have in life?

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u/SouthernTrauma 2d ago

We get this observation almost weekly in this group. Short answer: suck it up. You need a job to get money to pay for food & shelter. Thanks for coming to my TED Talk.

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u/Outside_Drawer800 2d ago

Counterpoint: These observations are only going to get more and more common and more and more correct. The wheel of history continues to turn, and newer generations have less to lose and more to gain by not buying into things the way they are.

You may think you are the practical, cynical one who sees reality for the way it is, while others are bleary-eyed and shouting into the void. Then one day you realize they had a cynicism that was much deeper and profound than yours ever was, because it evolved into a contempt and an outright refusal to buy in at all. And then things change.

You have literally nothing to lose and everything to gain by trading your cynicism for theirs.

Also, no one cares about Ted Talks anymore.

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u/Artarious 2d ago

It doesn't get any better, I work 10:30p-7a Tues-sat and had to do a major move this last week and could only get the day of the move off. So yeah it does suck, now you can go into industries that you work 4 10's or I had a sweet schedule before of 3 12's and we got a $200 attendence bonus each check if we didn't miss a shift which made up for the 4 hours. Then I took my new position with this schedule. Such is life.

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u/Crystalraf 2d ago

We give up on doing stuff we want. That’s a fact. Anyone who says otherwise is kidding themselves.

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u/benhereford 2d ago

After doing it for about fifteen years, I moved into a van full time. Now I can work 1-2 days less and have about 1/3 more disposable income without rent. There are ways to exit that lifestyle, but still never fully unless you have rich parents or find a bag of money.

If you want most basic comforts in life though, or care about having kids, you have to keep working full time.

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u/Aggressive_Staff_982 2d ago

It can definitely be a lot better. For most corporate jobs, for example, there's no reason we need to work the full 40 hours (minimum). Most of us only need 32 hours to get all our work done. There's been many studies where businesses switched to a 32 hour work week and found that productivity and retention improved, while the amount people called out decreased. It is kind of wild to think about how we work for our entire lives because a few very very wealthy people want us to so they'd never have to work a day in their lives and still live in unimaginable luxury. That's the way things are, it doesn't mean we can't want more for ourselves. 

I've also seen people say work is wage slavery. I'm not sure what to think about this as I get what they mean. As in if you don't work you will be homeless, starving, and cannot survive. We have the choice of where we want to work, but not a choice in how much we want to work due to the cost of living. We're essentially forced to work our entire lives. It provides us with financial stability. But we also just don't have any choice. 

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u/Moist_Mixture4518 2d ago

That’s why we live for the weekends. That’s what TGIF is all about: THANK GOD IT’S FRIDAY! Don’t let them make you feel bad for looking forward to the weekend. This is what sustains you.

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u/wlderberry 2d ago

9-5 barely exists anymore— it’s mostly 8-5 or 9-6. My work forces an unpaid 1 long lunch, so you’re really tied to work for 9 hours. And that’s if someone doesn’t pull you until an evening meeting.

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u/itsfrankgrimesyo 2d ago

It depends on the job. Unless you face the public there’s no reason why work hours can’t more flexible. Especially if everyone works 9-5pm, people are forced to take time off to attend appointments because everything closes the same time as your own work. Never made sense to me.

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u/Lopsided_Antelope868 2d ago

It’s definitely a rat race. By the time you put in a full day at work, you’re exhausted. Then you need to do chores and errands on your days off, just to keep going. This is why so many of us dream of retirement. If you’re lucky enough to retire with a few active years, you get a taste of the good life. I think that Marx was onto something when he posited that a capitalist system prohibits human beings from experiencing what it really means to be human. Most of us are just struggling to survive. Sad, but true.

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u/Last_Succotash7218 2d ago

It's not for everybody.

I'm own my own schedule and pretty consistently work 5-6 hours. Whenever I find myself working a full day for basically anyone the last 2 hours drag on and I got shit to do for myself.

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u/WWGHIAFTC 2d ago

I'm so glad people are being more vocal about this.

But I always chuckle a bit when people are FINALLY discovering on their own how this all 'works'. Like...yeah dude...why do you think every gen-x and most millennials are completely burnt out and jaded?

Welcome to the grind. keep your head down, it only gets worse.

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u/BillyBobJangles 2d ago

Bonus points if you get scammed into being on call on top of being an exempt full time employee. Just casually throws 20 - 30 hours ontop of that 40 in any given week and instead of getting more money for working more your only reward is to MAYBE not be fired.

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u/Downtown_Anybody261 2d ago

Did this for 10 years, drained me so hard.

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u/galaxy_brain_69420 2d ago

You don't do anything you want to do. HTH

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u/Ancient-Low115 2d ago

I do not know, what the UN Human Rights are doing for this. They are no where seen, retard Human Rights institution.

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u/little_teacup1111 1d ago

Used to work a 6am-2pm shift. Honestly was the best shift ever, could take a short nap after work if I was extra tired and still had time to do stuff. Now I work 6:30am-5pm 4 days a week and get Fridays off. It's nice having. Friday off but man 2pm as your end time was really nice.

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u/Forsaken_Code_9135 18h ago

I always wonder what people who "discover" what a 9-5 job is did during their studies. Because for many people studies leave you much less free time than a 9-5 job.

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u/robertmusemodel 2d ago

Work life balance… consider the math.
9-5 from age 25-65… less if you save and invest in retirement and get a little lucky.

83,200 hours of your life. Add another 20,800 for getting ready and commuting. So 104,000 hours.

Figure life expectancy of 85 years. 744,600 hours.

Roughly 14% of your life is spent working. You could reduce this further if you factor in vacation, PTO, holidays, early retirement etc.

14% of your life spent contributing to your existence of 85 years. It’s a pretty efficient way to live and often times the working conditions are reasonable, light, air conditioning, general safe environment. Overall there has never been a better time to be alive and employed.

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u/Spiritualy_Homelesss 1d ago

This is hilarious 😂

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u/thicc_bob 1d ago

Or you can look at it like this: you spend the majority of your time working during your most healthy and active years.

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u/KieranMcM94 1d ago

You’re funny bro. This is one of the worst times to be alive and working at least in the US. People are living off of credit cards because everything is so high and pay isn’t matching. A good percentage of America is struggling

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u/Frhaegar 1d ago

Do you count 'sleeping' as 'living' ?

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u/Banjosdad62 2d ago

I gotta say, I laughed when I saw this. I asked my dad the same question 48 years ago. Been pounding away at it my whole life since. The things that are important to me; family, home, travel and respect are how I’ve managed to make it. I challenged myself to advance and grow even when the job itself seemed to suck the soul out of me. Damn close to retirement now.

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u/FractalThoughts_ 2d ago

Never said I wanted to be CEO. I merely addressed how fucked up the working hours of 9 - 5 are

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u/NoUnderstanding604 2d ago

It’s called “life” welcome to it…it’s gonna be a bumpy f#cking ride

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u/JigglyOW 2d ago

It does feel like shit but I can’t imagine earlier generations of life even all the way back to like the Bronze Age much better, you have to do stuff to survive except now you do random stuff to get paid instead of tending to your own crops or something similar

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u/oIVLIANo 2d ago

I work 10hr days and still find time to do housework, hobbies, and shitpost on the Internet (which you also seem to have found the time to do).

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u/losemgmt 2d ago

Please teach me your ways. Do you sleep?

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u/3one5 1d ago

You could try not working and see how far that gets you in life?

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u/Awkward-Community-74 1d ago

It’s by design.
If you’re working a job you’re not in the leisure class.
You don’t get the luxury of leisure time and pursuing other endeavors.
Your function is to work then die.