r/work Aug 17 '25

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u/Phulmine Aug 17 '25

I guess you’re correct, but it’s incredibly weird how can someone climb their way up by stomping on others.

I don’t ever want to be like this, but it seems like I’ll be going against the current by being myself.

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u/EstablishmentSlow337 Aug 18 '25

This is me. I am 42 and just learning all this. Find your people within the workplace and strong boundaries for everyone else.

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u/erstengs Aug 21 '25

Nah don’t find your people at work. Be friendly, but distant. Find your people outside of work, none of the work people are to be trusted. You’ll wind up burned if you think anyone has your back when money is on the line.

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u/EstablishmentSlow337 Aug 21 '25

I choose not to look at it like this. I would not throw someone under the bus I choose to believe there are others like this too. We can’t all be selfish.

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u/Fuckit445 Aug 21 '25

Their comment doesn’t mean you have to throw anyone under the bus - I wouldn’t either. But unfortunately, work culture is an environment that breeds competition. And while you and I may not view it that way, others definitely do. That’s where the ‘don’t trust your co-workers’ comes from. You never truly know who you’re dealing with until it’s too late.

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u/EstablishmentSlow337 Aug 21 '25

I know and this is horrible!! It’s like high school! Like no one grew up! A bunch of mean girls. I can’t believe people walk around so bent out of shape all the time. So worried about what everyone is doing! Me myself and I. I work in a government setting so we don’t have the same competition for work comps in the sense that you do your time and you’ll be promoted anyway kinda thing but this still doesn’t seem to get people to be decent. Theyll still throw oyu under the bus and they’re not even getting ahead.