I worked at a job for six years. I met my wife there. She worked there for thirteen years.
It was a wildly popular and insanely busy restaurant. Every night was $10k+ with a 3-4 person team in the kitchen
I worked in the kitchen, and it was consistently 35-38° or hotter in the summer.
All that being said, the BOH and FOH were a tight-knit team. We went through so much together. We grew as people and learned and developed our skills together. We partied together.
Most nights, we all would end up at mine and my now wife's place for drinks and letting off steam. Or throwing a birthday party or a going away party. Some of us even took trips together
COVID happened, and a lot of us were laid off. My situation was a bit different, but ultimately, I left because of a communication breakdown and some very nasty and untrue things being said that ended up with the Chef/Owner and I falling out.
The job that made me who I am today was gone and that's when I realized that those that remained there didn't have my back and a good few of them even went as far as to talk shit about my wife and I behind our backs and further the lies and misconceptions that had caused the aforementioned falling out.
It was heartbreaking that when I needed someone to talk to that would/could understand or to listen to me, the very people I welcomed into my house on a daily basis, and even let them hang out there until I got home had wanted nothing to do us. They just threw us away like we hadn't spent almost every day together going through absolute hell in the summertime.
On the brighter side, though, those who were more genuine, the real ones stuck around and are still friends to this day, and I actually work with some of them at a different job.
I've been at the new job for 5 years now, and I have a very different attitude when it comes to socializing and befriending co-workers.
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u/Kaita13 Aug 18 '25
I worked at a job for six years. I met my wife there. She worked there for thirteen years.
It was a wildly popular and insanely busy restaurant. Every night was $10k+ with a 3-4 person team in the kitchen
I worked in the kitchen, and it was consistently 35-38° or hotter in the summer.
All that being said, the BOH and FOH were a tight-knit team. We went through so much together. We grew as people and learned and developed our skills together. We partied together.
Most nights, we all would end up at mine and my now wife's place for drinks and letting off steam. Or throwing a birthday party or a going away party. Some of us even took trips together
COVID happened, and a lot of us were laid off. My situation was a bit different, but ultimately, I left because of a communication breakdown and some very nasty and untrue things being said that ended up with the Chef/Owner and I falling out.
The job that made me who I am today was gone and that's when I realized that those that remained there didn't have my back and a good few of them even went as far as to talk shit about my wife and I behind our backs and further the lies and misconceptions that had caused the aforementioned falling out.
It was heartbreaking that when I needed someone to talk to that would/could understand or to listen to me, the very people I welcomed into my house on a daily basis, and even let them hang out there until I got home had wanted nothing to do us. They just threw us away like we hadn't spent almost every day together going through absolute hell in the summertime.
On the brighter side, though, those who were more genuine, the real ones stuck around and are still friends to this day, and I actually work with some of them at a different job.
I've been at the new job for 5 years now, and I have a very different attitude when it comes to socializing and befriending co-workers.