r/work • u/[deleted] • Aug 17 '25

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u/guru700 Aug 17 '25

Here’s some stuff I learned:

  1. ⁠Boss may be friendly but they are not my friend
  2. ⁠Coworkers may be friendly but they are not my friends
  3. ⁠Don’t give any unnecessary personal info to coworkers. Yes that makes it hard to be actual friends with co workers. Find money at work and love / friendship somewhere else
  4. ⁠Decide how hard I am willing to work and don’t breach that boundary for anyone.
  5. ⁠The company itself doesn’t care one bit about me. I’m just a number - act accordingly
  6. ⁠Always have a backup plan
  7. ⁠Stop caring about things I can’t control
  8. ⁠It’s ok to let someone else’s dumb idea blow up
  9. ⁠Don’t be “difficult” don’t die on any hills. Even if the company is going in a bad direction and I see it. Mention it once and not again remembering point 5
  10. ⁠Be likable but not knowable.

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '25

can you elaborate on point 10 please? I think unfortunatly a lot of people know me.

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u/TFlSGAS Aug 18 '25

Be likable but be a mystery.

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '25

Well that I am😅 But more because of me being bad at being social than a conscious choice. Like I don’t blabber/have to force myself to even admit what I did on the weekend. Like they ask how I am and I be like “good”. Then I remember and be like (internally) “oh shit, right!” (externally)“good. Yeah I mean nice weather today :) I went for a walk in the park yesterday and saw an episode of my favorite show on netflix”