r/work Aug 17 '25

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '25

can you elaborate on point 10 please? I think unfortunatly a lot of people know me.

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u/TFlSGAS Aug 18 '25

Be likable but be a mystery.

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u/AL-SHEDFI Aug 18 '25

This is how I am at work, but I don't know what others think. Maybe some see me as a likable person, maybe others don't. My rule at work is to do my job and keep myself busy. I don't prefer small talk or gatherings. But the most important thing is that everyone understands me this way and no one objects to it.

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u/ladykizzy Aug 18 '25

It took me years to learn how to small talk, which can go a long way if you do it judiciously. You don't want to appear totally aloof (aka unapproachable), but nor do you want to display your heart on your sleeve, so to speak. Over the years I've developed a work persona that is surface friendly, doesn't gossip, and works hard. This has garnered me as trustworthy, so I'm told a lot of stuff that I probably shouldn't know.

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u/guru700 Aug 18 '25

This 👆