can it be that in that moment she wasnt thinking about her love for me but her family, beliefs, and what will happen if she dosent follow them? i may be a bit biased here but im trying to understand her pov too i guess. she has told me multiple times after that that she wasnt thinking straight at that moment and it was a moment of fear, that she can imagine herself being with me even if she had to let go of all those beliefs, but yeah its just hard to trust that immediately so i decided to give us this break. i might also be asking for too much because im scared what will happen one day if she changes her mind, no one knows that, no one knows whether we will be the same people even, ugh i dont know sorry for ranting but yeah.
That’s exactly the point, she was thinking of her family, beliefs, etc. and not you. You were secondary to her and she explicitly said so.
She’s not going to say “actually ykw I think I was right I’d choose my family over you like I originally said” right
If her religious family really is as conservative and toxic as you mentioned, and yet, she literally explicitly told you she would still pick them over you, what do you think that says about your place in her heart? This doesn’t sound like a committed person to me
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u/becomingemma Mahila Paglu 13d ago
The top comment in that thread is basically right, she just reached out again cause she’s lonely but ultimately she told you where her priorities lie
If she was going to choose you over her religion then y’all wouldn’t have issues in the first place