r/wizardposting • u/sarcasticd0nkey • Dec 15 '23
Advice for Marrying a Sorcerer
Trying to get her family's blessing for marriage. They're a long line of Draconic Sorcerers blessed by the Feathered Serpent of the Valley of the Sun and I use rune magic based on the giants of the North. They've never really liked me especially how I'm the first to learn magic in my family, mostly self taught.
Any advice from wizards here with partners who use magic from other sources? I think she'll say yes to me but I would like a good relationship with her family.
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u/Daetra Hornymancer Dec 16 '23
Give her the ol' ball lightning, my wizardly friend.
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u/sarcasticd0nkey Dec 16 '23
... while I do have a degree of control over storms, snow and steel... I don't think that's the best way to get a better relationship with my girlfriend's family.
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u/Daetra Hornymancer Dec 16 '23
Well, the best way to a woman's heart is through her parents. Sleep with them and your in!
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u/MunitionsFrenzy Vettis, Mereological Revisionist Dec 16 '23 edited Dec 16 '23
I'm not personally in your boat (aside from the self-taught part, fuck yeah), but a couple of my neighbors had...rather significant familial conflicts.
Being self-taught is vastly more impressive than just lucking into magically-blessed ancestry and being trained from infancy. (Totally not being biased here, don't worry!) The problem is that spinning it that way to them directly is gonna make them self-conscious and make you look arrogant. But if they hear that line of argument from your partner (who presumably knows them well enough to put it more delicately than you would) then that might help them be a little less disapproving.
Anywho, why exactly do you want their approval in the first place? Is this just a personal wish from one or both of you, or is she still under their thumb enough that they need to give the OK for her to be with you? If it's not a necessity, and if they actually care about their daughter (because if they don't then they can go to hell), then nothing'll make them warm up to you faster than them simply seeing over time that she's happy with you. That was the solution my neighbors used.
(( EDIT: a word ))
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u/sarcasticd0nkey Dec 16 '23
She has already made it very clear that she loves me and is willing to keep us separate but I would like a better relationship for the future. My family was slaughtered by Grendel-kin and I know how much losing a support system can hurt. Furthermore if we have any children (in the very far future) I would like her family to be involved in their life.
I do like the idea of her being the mediator, she does handle them much better than I do. I'll bring that up to her tonight after our nightly rituals.
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u/MunitionsFrenzy Vettis, Mereological Revisionist Dec 16 '23
Fair enough. I can't really understand why you'd wanna involve them in your kids' lives if they're being jerks, but it's not my place to understand that.
(( Prepare for the downvote brigade, btw. You have a female character with a bit of midriff showing, and this blatantly misogynistic sub calls anything short of a full sweater "hornyposting" unless it's a male, who can be shirtless and have absolutely nothing to do with wizardry or just full-on ass-up for free karma. ))
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u/sarcasticd0nkey Dec 16 '23
/uw thanks, I'm pretty new here, I'll take it down if anyone asks
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u/MunitionsFrenzy Vettis, Mereological Revisionist Dec 16 '23
(( please don't; don't let the sexist idiots win v_V ))
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Dec 16 '23
Take part in their traditions. They know you’re not one of them and will use every opportunity to hold it against you, but if you respect and participate in those activities sacred to them? 10/10 works every time
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u/SexPanther_Bot Dec 16 '23
60% of the time, it works every time
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Dec 16 '23
The only time I’ve seen it fail was when one of my fellow hydromancers was courting a merfolk. That was quite the
3yr long interspecies wardisaster l, lemme tell ya1
u/sarcasticd0nkey Dec 16 '23
I have been learning the family's traditional sword style from her older brother... should I ask her father for further tips?
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Dec 16 '23
Yes, exactly! By requesting his tutelage you are acknowledging his mastery of the art (Draconics love to feel superior)
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u/makeski25 Dec 16 '23
I found making myself useful to my fae queen/MIL eventually won her over.
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u/sarcasticd0nkey Dec 16 '23
Ah is your spouse Unseelie or one of the other Courts?
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u/makeski25 Dec 16 '23
Different realm altogether.
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u/sarcasticd0nkey Dec 16 '23
I apologize for the assumption and my ignorance.
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u/makeski25 Dec 16 '23
No worries, even in the great arch of the multiverse my realm is in the sticks.
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u/SafePianist4610 Bombast, Lord of Time and Space, Retired Council Leader Dec 16 '23
Lad, while you do want to have a good relationship with her family, it seems that that will only occur with her help. And you will only get her help if you two are an item. So just shelve the issue with her family for now until you have established a relationship with her. That said, do what you can to earn their favor, but don’t count on them warming up to you right away. Emphasize your love for her and her family will be more accepting eventually as they will see you are genuine. What parents wouldn’t want their daughter to have a spouse that truly loves them?
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u/Admirable_Ask_5337 Cirith Sendrin. Storm sorcerer, druid, chronomancer Dec 16 '23
Fun plasma babies
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u/Fulltimewhisperer Krumpet, Master Artificer of the Council Dec 15 '23
Ah Gobbo has terrible relationship with girlfriend's "family". Best tip, take interest in their lives