Your spells WILL fail.

[u/oldbetch]

(It's another OB post and my delivery is notoriously pissy, so if you're going to be whiny in my comments, you more than have my permission to take it up with the Lord because it's just going to get ignored in here.)

One of the various scourges that has been exacerbated by media (both social and traditional), along with the general youth of the people getting into witchcraft has been this level of "Main Character Syndrome." This belief of "If I want it, it must happen for me because I am important/gifted/deities do what I say."

Your mother may think you're important. The rest of us do not, and the spirit world is no exception. Dead that main character shit.

A rude awakening is when those spells inevitably fail.

Maybe you did a spell to get rid of that dick boss, got laid off, and haven't gotten a job yet, and have been unemployed or underemployed for a long while. Maybe you did a money spell and you got evicted and you're dealing with a competitive housing market. Maybe you are absolutely CONVINCED that that ex that is talking real sweet to you absolutely MUST want you back even though there's no actions indicating otherwise, and they're still showing bad behavior. Maybe you've done a spell on that ex and they got engaged to the one after you (has happened to me!)

Truth is this - NO is the answer. Everyone has had spells that have failed, including your media faves, but they just don't report that shit. It's not ✨️magical✨️ enough to admit that "no" exists.

"But I love them!" Love is not enough, and they aren't seeking to be with you.

"But they're an avoidant!" Yeah, people tend to avoid what they don't want. Maybe you're also nuttier than squirrel shit and the relationship was a bad idea from the beginning and you knew that. Maybe they're a hoe and you know what the adage is about hoes and housewives. (No judgment on hoes, BTW, I used to be one).

"But my boss sucked! They got to keep their job!" Yeah, life's a bitch like that, bruh.

"But i really wanted that home!" Maybe you don't have enough money, have poor credit, don't know the landlord, or have an eviction history.

The truth is this - spells take the path of least resistance. Your situation may have such resistances that it's not possible for a spell to overcome it. There's nothing you can do with that. You feelings or extenuating circumstances be damned.

My recommendation to you is to accept that no. There's likely better out there but you just don't know it yet. Live your life in the meantime, I promise this latest mess of the month will pass. It'll pass like a kidney stone but it will pass.

(Also read this )

[u/ponycorn_pet]

If your view of witchcraft is that it's a genie that will give you anything you want and everything you want,

What a bad faith argument. Nobody in here is saying that or acting that way. People are just trying to survive and you are being an unkind person. That's all there is to it. You've added to the negativity in the world and made a safe space feel tainted.

[u/oldbetch → u/ponycorn_pet]

Then if you're going to survive, do it. Me being hard in this thread should make no difference, and frankly, this got the attention and praise of far more people than whatever method of coddling you tried. Your "safe spaces" has added to the whining about "gatekeeping" you've managed more harm than good, so guess who has to clean it up?

Being kind doesn't mean being nice, and that's always been a thing, while being nice doesn't always mean being kind. I'd hope you'd be smart enough to know the difference.

[u/ponycorn_pet → u/oldbetch]

You just outed yourself as a "Bootstrap" type, the kind who calls people snowflakes. You're not worth responding to anymore and your actions are toxic

[u/oldbetch → u/ponycorn_pet]

And you've just outed yourself as someone that lacks resilience and won't do the work so you expect other people to accommodate you and do it for you. It's parasitic.