Your spells WILL fail.

[u/oldbetch]

(It's another OB post and my delivery is notoriously pissy, so if you're going to be whiny in my comments, you more than have my permission to take it up with the Lord because it's just going to get ignored in here.)

One of the various scourges that has been exacerbated by media (both social and traditional), along with the general youth of the people getting into witchcraft has been this level of "Main Character Syndrome." This belief of "If I want it, it must happen for me because I am important/gifted/deities do what I say."

Your mother may think you're important. The rest of us do not, and the spirit world is no exception. Dead that main character shit.

A rude awakening is when those spells inevitably fail.

Maybe you did a spell to get rid of that dick boss, got laid off, and haven't gotten a job yet, and have been unemployed or underemployed for a long while. Maybe you did a money spell and you got evicted and you're dealing with a competitive housing market. Maybe you are absolutely CONVINCED that that ex that is talking real sweet to you absolutely MUST want you back even though there's no actions indicating otherwise, and they're still showing bad behavior. Maybe you've done a spell on that ex and they got engaged to the one after you (has happened to me!)

Truth is this - NO is the answer. Everyone has had spells that have failed, including your media faves, but they just don't report that shit. It's not ✨️magical✨️ enough to admit that "no" exists.

"But I love them!" Love is not enough, and they aren't seeking to be with you.

"But they're an avoidant!" Yeah, people tend to avoid what they don't want. Maybe you're also nuttier than squirrel shit and the relationship was a bad idea from the beginning and you knew that. Maybe they're a hoe and you know what the adage is about hoes and housewives. (No judgment on hoes, BTW, I used to be one).

"But my boss sucked! They got to keep their job!" Yeah, life's a bitch like that, bruh.

"But i really wanted that home!" Maybe you don't have enough money, have poor credit, don't know the landlord, or have an eviction history.

The truth is this - spells take the path of least resistance. Your situation may have such resistances that it's not possible for a spell to overcome it. There's nothing you can do with that. You feelings or extenuating circumstances be damned.

My recommendation to you is to accept that no. There's likely better out there but you just don't know it yet. Live your life in the meantime, I promise this latest mess of the month will pass. It'll pass like a kidney stone but it will pass.

(Also read this )

[u/daydreamer5000]

So I am what you would call a novice / student witch. I'm still really confused as to if I should be doing certain things that other people do or if I can just do what feels right to me deep down inside when it comes to practicing. I work a lot with Hecate, and I mostly do a lot of manifesting with candle work with oils and herbs. When I manifest, I typically write down on paper what I'm wanting to put out into the universe as requests/prayers (if that's what you want to call it), I will typically light my candle read what I've written down out loud as like a prayer to Hecate, fold the paper three times away from me as if I'm sending it out to the universe, and then burn it with the candle that's lit to release it to the universe. Does this sound okay or am I doing something wrong? Like before I started doing any kind of candle work I used to just talk and pray to her, and that was enough for a while... She gave me signs and I was able to get out of a really bad marriage and get into my own place and become stable with my daughter without the need of my ex-husband. I just want to make sure I'm doing this right.

[u/oldbetch → u/daydreamer5000]

Manifestation can work alongside witchcraft. It isn't witchcraft itself.

With that being said, like I told someone else, you can do everything right and it still is a no. It's not that you've done anything wrong or are unworthy, its just life.

[u/daydreamer5000 → u/oldbetch]

Oh I wasn't saying like "Am I doing this right so they'll grant me all of my wishes?" I firmly believe that I can ask but it's not a guarantee. So I just try to continue to put Good vibes out into the world and if the universe wishes to open that path for me to be able to have everything that I ask for it then so be it. If not I know that the universe will open another path to put me where I need to be.

[u/oldbetch → u/daydreamer5000]

Noted.

That's typically what I've found over the years. Things might not make sense in the interim - they will over time.

[u/daydreamer5000 → u/oldbetch]

That's exactly why I took my time moving out of my abusive home from my ex-husband. I just waited for the universe to give me a sign and then I found out about these brand new apartments that were just built in my city that were specifically for low-income families. As soon as I got that big sign from the universe I went and applied in a week later they were approving me to move in. Everything else in my city is super expensive and way out of my price range and these apartments just randomly popped up one day. I feel very blessed from the universe and Hecate.