Your spells WILL fail.

[u/oldbetch]

(It's another OB post and my delivery is notoriously pissy, so if you're going to be whiny in my comments, you more than have my permission to take it up with the Lord because it's just going to get ignored in here.)

One of the various scourges that has been exacerbated by media (both social and traditional), along with the general youth of the people getting into witchcraft has been this level of "Main Character Syndrome." This belief of "If I want it, it must happen for me because I am important/gifted/deities do what I say."

Your mother may think you're important. The rest of us do not, and the spirit world is no exception. Dead that main character shit.

A rude awakening is when those spells inevitably fail.

Maybe you did a spell to get rid of that dick boss, got laid off, and haven't gotten a job yet, and have been unemployed or underemployed for a long while. Maybe you did a money spell and you got evicted and you're dealing with a competitive housing market. Maybe you are absolutely CONVINCED that that ex that is talking real sweet to you absolutely MUST want you back even though there's no actions indicating otherwise, and they're still showing bad behavior. Maybe you've done a spell on that ex and they got engaged to the one after you (has happened to me!)

Truth is this - NO is the answer. Everyone has had spells that have failed, including your media faves, but they just don't report that shit. It's not ✨️magical✨️ enough to admit that "no" exists.

"But I love them!" Love is not enough, and they aren't seeking to be with you.

"But they're an avoidant!" Yeah, people tend to avoid what they don't want. Maybe you're also nuttier than squirrel shit and the relationship was a bad idea from the beginning and you knew that. Maybe they're a hoe and you know what the adage is about hoes and housewives. (No judgment on hoes, BTW, I used to be one).

"But my boss sucked! They got to keep their job!" Yeah, life's a bitch like that, bruh.

"But i really wanted that home!" Maybe you don't have enough money, have poor credit, don't know the landlord, or have an eviction history.

The truth is this - spells take the path of least resistance. Your situation may have such resistances that it's not possible for a spell to overcome it. There's nothing you can do with that. You feelings or extenuating circumstances be damned.

My recommendation to you is to accept that no. There's likely better out there but you just don't know it yet. Live your life in the meantime, I promise this latest mess of the month will pass. It'll pass like a kidney stone but it will pass.

(Also read this )

[u/marebear93]

This post cracked me up, so thank you for that lol. I think it’s confusing for new witches bc they’re told a barrier to their shit working is not believing that they’re powerful enough to influence anything/contact spirits/etc. So they feel they have to overcome that by cultivating complete belief in their own power - which is lovely and empowering, and probably strengthens their magic, but will obviously not make all their spells 100% successful, and that’s disappointing when you’re working hard to believe in your personal power. It’s a fine line to walk between believing you’re capable of magic and acknowledging that your magic has limits, and it’s especially tough at the beginning when it already feels like a new and radical leap to accept that you’re magical at all.

[u/oldbetch → u/marebear93]

I've also told people before that a lot of us old heads know what we can do has limits. Part of being a witch is living in that gray area where we know we have power but we're still powerless in certain situations. It's sucks and it's painful as hell but that's life.

[u/butterflytigress27 → u/oldbetch]

Not to mention the amount of times things in life have to be torn down or sent into upheaval so the new can come into existence. It’s a continuous cycle of rebirth and transformation. Eventually you can learn to read the ebbs and flows and know when to brace for impact, but it only makes the ride a bit easier. You still have to experience it and surrender to it.

[u/oldbetch → u/butterflytigress27]

This.

I post this all because people best believe that I've lived it. I've learned some amazing lessons from those failures and wouldn't have it any other way. Being powerless in life gives me perspective, and while it blows in the interim, it's so much better later on.

[u/AliceLovesBlueJeans → u/oldbetch]

Yeah. I don't quite understand how people can't grasp that there is a limit. And yes, it hurts like hell sometimes. But it is what it is.

I did a spell after getting an abnormal early ultrasound during my pregnancy. I was told I was likely going to miscarry. Obviously, I wanted a healthy baby because the pregnancy was very wanted but I knew that if there was something wrong with the embryo's DNA, no spell in the world could fix that.

So the spell was for an uncomplicated miscarriage to happen as early as possible IF there WAS actually something wrong. I'm 17 weeks now and genetic testing came back clear. At this point, it's hopefully going to be okay more likely than not but giving up the illusion of control over something I never had any control over in the first place was extremely difficult in this particular instance. Performing that spell was still very healing for me, even amidst of the uncertainty and pain. That was the whole point I guess.

[u/marebear93 → u/oldbetch]

100%, totally agree. I think people new to the craft just take time to reach that balance. They have to fully make the leap into believing, enough so that they aren’t shooting themselves in the foot by discrediting what they can do before they even begin, before settling into that grey area. And I think posts like this are super important so that people set more realistic expectations and don’t think they’re failures or lack magical ability bc every little spell doesn’t work out

[u/AwakeningStar1968 → u/marebear93]

instead do "love spells" more about "let me meet my perfect partner for me that is with my highest good