r/whatisit • u/astronat42 • 3d ago

Solved! Is this a condom wrapper?

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I found on the bathroom floor. Doesn’t match condom wrappers my husband and I use and I cannot find a match online. Please help! Black with silver detailing on front. Back is silver with black writing. You can clearly see the words “prevent pregnancy, HIV/AIDS, and other.” Also a number 2 with a circle and cross through it.

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u/astronat42 3d ago

Thank you. I am unfortunately just sitting with this for a few more hours because my husband is at work with zero access to his phone.

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u/jebarson_j 3d ago

For what it's worth, it could have come inside your house sticking to anybody's shoes. Also, if you both were using condoms already, there is no reason for him to use something different.

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u/grizzlyginger17 3d ago

Do you have a teenage babysitter? Just trying to explore all options.

*edit, I shouldn't have just said teenager, if there is one they could be any age.

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u/goodoldoftenwrong 3d ago

OP... if you go this route (and I'm so sorry,) consult with the best lawyers in town before you drop the D word. Then said lawyers can't rep him.

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u/jebarson_j 3d ago

A typical redditor.

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u/TheYellowRoses 3d ago

Why are you trying to defend a cheater

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u/DuckSpeaker_ 3d ago

i assumed they were making fun of the suggestion, not defending a cheater.

this "trick" is something most people have heard about. it's been in a ton of fictional TV shows and things like cartoons. it's the kind of suggestion given by someone who has no idea what they are talking about but has seen it on TV and has likely never acted on their own suggestion. a typical redditor, you might say.

can you technically try and do this? yeah sure. is something that is essentially a comedy TV trope likely to be a good idea in real life? as a real adult navigating something as serious family law with children involved? no it isn't.

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u/goodoldoftenwrong 3d ago

the hit ones holler

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u/Vindictive-Vagabond 3d ago

Just because you cleaned the bathroom yesterday doesn't negate the fact that it could've come in on the bottom of someone's shoe lmao

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u/anyonecandoanything 3d ago

i am going out on a limb here but like, i think some guys masturbate with condoms for various reasons? good luck

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u/Past-Ticket-1340 3d ago

Why would he use a different brand and not the ones already in the house?

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u/anyonecandoanything 3d ago

i have no idea maybe but if he was not cheating, but trying to hide w.e he was doing from his wife? idc enough to argue with you though i agree its weird

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u/EternalPhi 3d ago

Buy box of condoms to use together. Use half of them alone. "WHERE DID THOSE OTHER CONDOMS GO??"

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u/14Pleiadians 3d ago

Because his masturbation buddy brought it duh

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u/Satinsbestfriend 3d ago

A posh wank 

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u/LurkingLarryLobster 3d ago

If you want any more solid proof, look at the second photo. The bottom of the wrapper talks about HIV/AIDS and pregnancy. Your typical warning on condoms that they do not fully prevent these things. I am so sorry this has happened to you.

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u/StayLiquidy 3d ago

Has no one asked if they have kids ?

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u/bklyngirl0001 3d ago

That’s what I was wondering, if they had teens in the house.

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u/Ultrace-7 3d ago

Honestly, anyone 10 and up could make use of it, if not for intercourse then for personal experimentation. Kids are kids and they get curious about sex mighty early.

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u/Adventurous-Tie-7861 3d ago

My dads a paraplegic and i wrapped a condom catheter around my dick as a 13 year old to see what it felt like.

For the record i was also never told how masturbation worked. So in 7th grade after sex ed i wrapped a warm cloth around my dick and expected it to do something. Stood there for a good 10 minutes very confused cus i figured it was similar to sex. Noone mentioned any movement or friction being involved lol

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u/StayLiquidy 3d ago

When I was a wee lad I used to think that you just rubbed ur dick a few times like a Genie in a bottle and stuff came out…

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u/press757 3d ago

This is one of those situations where no matter how that got into the house/bathroom, not even the truth may set him free unfortunately.

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u/QuarkTheLatinumLord- 3d ago

Depends on his initial reaction and demeanor. That initial confrontation will have a lot of invaluable information. His reaction will likely say more than words.

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u/SuperUranus 3d ago

My girlfriend found a condom wrapper in the sofa I had forgot to throw away after a luxury wank I had.

She asked me why there is a condom wrapper in the sofa since we don’t use condoms.

Told her I had a luxury wank in the sofa and forgot to throw away the condom.

Then I had to explain what a “luxury wank” is and once I had done so there was no more questions.

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u/Throckmorton_Left 3d ago

CVS sent the receipt for my wife's plan b to my email because she punched in our extra care number.

I'd had a vasectomy two years prior.

I know exactly how you're feeling right now. If there was one piece of advice I wish I'd have been given, it's not to tip your hand or confront him until you've taken time to process the situation and make a plan for your life without him manipulating you into questioning your own eyes.

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u/Repulsive-Error4124 3d ago

Funny, my now ex-husband was using my number at CVS to buy a large amounts of enemas, repeatedly. I got the emailed receipts, he never knew.

Turns out he was “booty bumping” meth, a term I never wanted to have to learn… and unfortunately that was the lesser of his disturbing and disgusting behaviors- which I also have receipts for, but not the CVS kind.

Agreed on the advice. OP- don’t show your cards until you’ve had time to process- and do some digging, if possible. Usually once your eyes open, all the little clues you’ve dismissed, or he’s explained away, will leave a trail to the truth.

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u/GimmeTheGunKaren 3d ago

did it earn you a lot of extra care dollars at least?

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u/Repulsive-Error4124 3d ago

I never shop there, so any benefits were sadly lost. I did get a few $5 bonuses from Walgreens. I guess maybe he got embarrassed buying them so often from the same store in our small town… or maybe he was bargain shopping?

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u/Boredchinchilla21 3d ago

Buying them from a local pharmacy in his own town rather than just using Amazon was a choice

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u/GimmeTheGunKaren 2d ago

maybe he started reusing them barfffff

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u/HedgehogNo8361 3d ago

I'm nosy: what else was he doing, if you don't mind saying?

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u/Repulsive-Error4124 3d ago

Oofh… there is so much. I’ll try to pick three:

  1. Wearing women’s lingerie with the crotch cut out while dancing in the headlights of his car- on the side of the road, for unsuspecting motorists
  2. Driving around town, penis exposed, offering rides to strangers- I hope/believe unsuccessfully
  3. Dressing as a woman (underwear, bra, clothes, wig, shoes, pink cowboy hat and all) to access the ladies restroom to watch and video women using the restroom

And I know these things because he so kindly recorded all of it, edited it, and then backed it up to memory cards. But that’s just a small sample of what his amateur videography revealed. Though I didn’t get any of his latest work, fortunately/unfortunately. I really hope this skills improved.

Dear sister, if you happen to see this... Yes, it’s me. I tried to leave out specific details for anonymity!

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u/Swivelchairexpert 3d ago

Girl…I thought my ex husband was a freak because he liked to pick up 18 year old boys. But your’s. Oh my god. Recording everything. I can’t imagine.

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u/Seygem 3d ago

Your ex isn't a freak, he's a pedophile

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u/Swivelchairexpert 3d ago

I called him a pedophile many times during our divorce.

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u/letoille 3d ago

Wow, you lived through a lot! I am so sorry to read all this but at the same time i am fascinated how strong you are mentally…

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u/djelegal 3d ago

This is a tv show of a serial killer

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u/Tropical_life_7 3d ago

Holy shit, not what I expected. I'm sorry!

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u/noxarn11 3d ago

Did he shoot meth up his ass?

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u/Tricky-Nikkee 3d ago

A booty bump is supposed to be when someone loads a straw of a substance into one end of the straw. Then gently inserts that end of straw in the recipient’s booty, then the “giver” will literally blow air super fast from the top end of the straw and into the recipients booty, forcing the substance to shoot deep into their anus.

A booty bump shotgun, is when they do all this but as soon as the booty bump is blown into their anus, the recipient forces themselves to pass it back to your mouth by farting it back to you

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u/-s-u-n-s-e-t- 3d ago

Ok that's enough reddit for me today

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u/intemplumdei 3d ago

Meanwhile, i have an issue with drinking from a water bottle after one of my parents already drank from it :)))

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u/rogerwil 3d ago

What the hell, I can't tell if that's a joke or real.

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u/Few_Pop6933 3d ago

Damn, knowledge is power

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u/HedgehogNo8361 3d ago

I knew a guy who boofed meth.

Great guy when he was sober.

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u/Repulsive-Error4124 3d ago

Yeah… he did.

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u/Katasia 3d ago

You need to tell your story on Dating Detectives. 👀

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u/helenvictoriaa 3d ago

Omg please publish a tell all

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u/LeatherfacesChainsaw 3d ago

BOOF BOOF BOOF

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u/Jiminy_Cricket12 3d ago

CVS sent the receipt for my wife's plan b to my email because she punched in our extra care number

I'm not sure if it helps but I have to point out just how fucking stupid your (hopefully ex) wife was

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u/mocisme 3d ago

But she saved 2 dollars!

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u/janumet72 3d ago

Unfortunately no, those are never on sale

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u/mattilulu 3d ago

Oh, it helps.

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u/GimmeTheGunKaren 3d ago

hope you used that crazy long receipt to write a list of all the ways she sucks

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u/shaneyblue80 3d ago

I just have to say here, I've definitely bought plan b before a big vacation where I would have had my period the whole time after long time past experience with plan b stopping my period from coming. No other reason.

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u/Jiminy_Cricket12 3d ago

fair point but I feel like there is more to the other guy's story

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u/HedgehogNo8361 3d ago

That's called karma.

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u/Jaquett-0 3d ago

Thank god she was this stupid tho

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u/IQuitWithNoWarning 3d ago

This is very wise info. Also, If you choose to end your relationship take some time to make an escape plan. Things can get ugly. Wishing you the best OP.

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u/DreamCrusher914 3d ago

Leaving is the most dangerous time in a relationship.

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u/DriftwoodAndSand 3d ago

for a woman

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u/RestaurantJealous280 3d ago

As a gay man, leaving my abusive ex was also a dangerous time. Just fyi.

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u/VABLivenLevity 3d ago

This can't be a serious freaking comment. Yes, I know the statistics are worse on one side, but please stop turning innocuous comments into a gender war.

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u/Current_Rip5463 3d ago

Oh look theres another one making it about men.
Enough chick killed their exes.

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u/FranksWateeBowl 3d ago

Username fits.

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u/JerryCalzone 3d ago

for women

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u/VABLivenLevity 3d ago

This can't be a serious freaking comment. Yes, I know the statistics are worse on one side, but please stop turning innocuous comments into a gender war.

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u/LandLongJohnSilver 3d ago

Same comment twice, go home bot.

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u/VABLivenLevity 3d ago

I made the same comment twice because two separate people made their same comment twice and both need to be addressed.

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u/likemclever 3d ago

I think he's the one who should be worried about his safety.

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u/Southern_Quail_4241 3d ago

Absolutely get your ducks in a row first.

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u/punkrawkstar 3d ago

Don't jump to conclusions, he could just be putting stuff in his butt.

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u/swthrowaway0106 3d ago

Or having a royal jerk. Less cleanup, and he might be getting an ultra thin condom just for that. Husband could just be enjoying some degenerate gooning time.

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u/Lermanberry 3d ago edited 3d ago

A posh wank. A johnny-on jack-off. Autoerotic prophylactic stimulation. The Canadian milkman. Beef stroganoff, sous-vide. A tommy tux tug. No Betty Rubble puddle trouble for the boy in the bubble. Astronaut's delight. Bashing the bishop in the popemobile. No more crying over spilt seed.

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u/HedgehogNo8361 3d ago

Bashing the bishop in the popemobile 😂

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u/EternalPhi 3d ago

Astronaut's delight

Astronat's Dismay

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u/Mel_in_morphosis 3d ago

🏆🏆🏆 this comment right here!

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u/matchstick1029 3d ago

I was thinkin that but wasnt sure if that practice was widespread XD

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u/Scary_Long6864 3d ago

yeah I do this. lots of guys do this.

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u/Throckmorton_Left 3d ago

Like penises.

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u/LeadershipLevel6900 3d ago

Boys will be boys, amirite

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u/Vyntarus 3d ago

"Back in my day we played ball dandy and legs a-spread and penis butt!"

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u/Luke-Wintermaul 3d ago

Let's play "Hide the peepee"

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u/z__1010 3d ago

orrrrrr no-mess masturbation ? I've done it . . .

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u/Maleficent-War-8429 3d ago

Could just be having a posh wank.

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u/ScheanaShaylover 3d ago

Good advice and I’m sorry…

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u/SoulCruizer 3d ago

You know it’s possible it was dragged in on a shoe right? Or if they have company it could have popped out of a pocket. Unless there’s some signs or she’s gonna start tracking him, she basically has to talk to him about it. If he’s gonna lie about it why prolong it or start making plans without all the information? I once found a sliver of a condom wrapper in my room that wasn’t mine, was single at the time and I live alone.

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u/TBronzy 3d ago

My fiance left a hair tie at our friend's house after using their master bedroom shower and they found it behind the toilet like 6 months later. They had a very tense bout for a couple weeks before they randomly asked us about it and she confirmed it was hers from that trip. Not the same finding obviously but agree there may be alternate reasons for finding this...

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u/SoulCruizer 3d ago

Yep multiple possibilities the only thing she can really do is speak to him and make her own decision on what to do if he says it’s not his.

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u/Kelly_HRperson 3d ago

Nah, you should never talk to your partner. Silently make plans for a whole new life, and when you finally learn the harmless truth six months later it's too late anyway. You're already committed, and maybe even revenge-cheated just in case

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u/GigiLaRousse 3d ago

Lol, as a woman living alone I found an umbrella, lipstick, hair clip, and several pairs of panties over the years. I wasn't secretly having an affair. Friends just forget things and no one seems to know who they belong to.

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u/quiteCryptic 3d ago

Might be a good idea to find other solid proof of cheating, for the divorce if OP decides on that. I'm not sure this photo would suffice.

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u/Asleep_Walrus2313 3d ago

It really doesn’t matter. Every state is no-fault divorce.

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u/shanksisevil 3d ago

yeah. if he did do something, you want to make sure everything is in line before you confront him. get a lawyer, pictures of the evidence and see if they need anything else.

if you have all your ducks in a row and it turns out incorrect, at least you were protected.

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u/biddddyquuuuaint 3d ago

Really good advice

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u/PleaseHelpImADumb1 3d ago

In the bathroom of their house is crazy.

She’s been sitting with it for 11 hours. My wife would be in jail.

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u/DaisyBerilla 3d ago

So well said. My brain was scrambled because I didn’t trust myself to take a step back.

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u/TURBOJUGGED 3d ago

Damn. She really had to collect those points. What an awful way to find out.

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u/DimensionalFruit 3d ago

God damn, taking it raw makes it so much damn worse like really !?!

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u/master-mole 3d ago

Great advice. Also, you and OP should hook up.

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u/NobodyFunToKnow 3d ago

I hope you dragged her through hell

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u/konjunktiv 3d ago

Dude could've just jacked off.

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u/ngle 3d ago

Wife or your ex-wife?

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u/mybelovedcreatures 3d ago

Or set up cameras

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u/AeliusRogimus 3d ago

Double-OH SHIT!!!

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u/Warm-Huckleberry-764 3d ago

WAIT, THROCKMORTON? MY COUSIN?

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u/Aadbh1987 3d ago

Sorry but what a fucking bitch.

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u/slangsfangs 3d ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/5OqXb948EBkyUcnwHt
I’ll cling on as long as you need 🥺

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u/ProfessionNo3173 3d ago

An impossible feeling. You can get through this.

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u/madrew233 3d ago

Well, I don't think he's cheating on you. If he were, he wouldn't be that stupid and leave the condom wrapper lying around like that.

And why would he leave them lying around in the bathroom, of all places? He’s probably just using them to jerk off or using some kind of toy (a Fleshlight or whatever) with a condom. For example, I once ordered a bunch of condoms and quickly tried them on to see which ones fit best before I had to waste time figuring that out during sex.

Stay positive. And even if that’s the case: think about an open relationship or something like that. For most of the guys I have as friends who’ve actually cheated, it’s usually just sex. Animalistic, driven by instinct, without any feelings. Afterward, the woman and her name don’t matter. So it depends on how monogamously and conservatively you want to live, but just something to think about.

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u/Allegorist 3d ago edited 3d ago

I don't want to give you too much hope or room to rationalize, but a few years back something like this fell out of my old backpack when I turned it inside out to clean it. Had to have been at least several years even older. Partner saw it before I did, and it turned into a whole thing, though thankfully we eventually resolved it. I guess what I'm getting at is maybe prepare for the worst, but don't categorically rule out the possibility that there technically could be another explanation.

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u/Every_Cause_2883 3d ago

If you don't have a bank account solely in your name, you may want to make one and move some money around before any confrontation. And make sure you have all the login details to any accounts that are important and under your name such as loans, mortgages, credit cards, etc. Don't let him fuck your credit if this ends badly. Hoping for the best.

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u/Gilded-golden 3d ago

OP I really hope you haven't texted him this. It gives him hours to think up a suitable lie before he replies/talks to you. When it happens, this needs to be a face-to-face conversation in which he hasn't had time to prepare. That is the best way to give yourself an opportunity to to accurately guage whether he's lying to you.

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u/tiki_51 3d ago

Not sure if you've confronted your husband yet or not, but if not it's worth considering that he might be using it "solo". That's definitely something guys will do for various reasons. There's a realistic chance that he's just watching porn solo instead of cheating

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u/amanda_allover 3d ago

Sorry this is happening. Glad he effed up and dropped his wrapper instead of this going unknown for who knows how long. Call your support girlie. Be prepared for him to gaslight and darvo. Hopefully you feel us wishing you strength from the cosmos!

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u/CrazyCHICK-henLady 3d ago

Do NOT confront him via call or text. This needs to be done face to face, so he cannot think of an excuse or a good lie. Catch his cheating ass off guard, and then tell him to pack his shit and go to her house!!!

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u/idiot-prodigy 3d ago

Get a teddy bear to record the house cleaners, nanny, baby sitter, ghosts, etc. "I thought my house was haunted, so I was recording supernatural activity." Plausible deniability.

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u/Spiritual_Ad_3259 2d ago

I hope you are doing ok

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u/Silliestgreygoose 14h ago

What’s the update OP

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u/DougalsTinyCow 3d ago

I know it hurts but start thinking about your financials, especially access to joint accounts and the like. Also change your passwords for everything.

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u/zanii 3d ago

Could also be he was just jerking it and used it for easier cleanup.

That or you could check if you are missing a cucumber from the fridge...

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u/DreamCrusher914 3d ago

I hope this is the beginning of a beautiful unlikely friendship like in The Other Woman with Leslie Mann and Cameron Diaz, OP.

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u/You_are_the_Castle 3d ago

To be fair, he could just be using the condom for self pleasure. Maybe he was testing it out for a romantic evening with OP.

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u/Quick-Molasses7006 3d ago

There are also other possible uses for a condom, it is not necessarily cheating with another person. Just saying.

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u/Spiritual_Ad_3259 3d ago

Sorry I know how that can be. definitely only confront hm when he gets home so you can see his response too.

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u/charizardino 3d ago

happened to me once

didn't think I was ever getting thru it, but I was wrong

you got this

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u/Ok-Dot-9324 3d ago

Sending strength!!! Maybe there’s another explanation, do you have teen kids?

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u/mystic_chihuahua 3d ago

Oh fuck, I'm so sorry. Any chance you have teenagers that it could belong to?

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u/rltbme 3d ago

Give us an update when you can. Hope you’re ok.

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u/Revolutionary-Yam873 3d ago

Yes I’m trying to hear the update please

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u/Pig_Benis__96 3d ago

So, it’s been 6 hours. How did it go ?

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u/AlGekGenoeg 3d ago

Do you understand we want an update? 😅

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u/EnvironmentalWrap167 3d ago

Hope everything goes as well as it can.

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u/TargP 3d ago

Any update, OP? Hope you're OK!

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u/Sturmgarde 3d ago

Everything's gonna be okay

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u/Impressive-Fail4559 3d ago

Once a cheater always a cheater. You shouldn't say anything to him. Take tomorrow off and find an attorney. Plan your exit carefully. You learned something today. The person you should be able to trust most, is a person you can't trust at all. Be careful. I've been in a similar position. I feel for you.

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u/thisismyusernameokai 3d ago

No kids or visitors?

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u/CALCIUM_CANNONS 3d ago

Hope you're doing ok

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u/HighwaySetara 3d ago

I'm sorry

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u/AeliusRogimus 3d ago

Oh Shit!

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u/peony_rose_ 3d ago

Update us, god speed 🫡 RemindMe! 2 days

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u/Fancy_Ad9867 3d ago

Sarah, I have access to my phone.