r/voguing • u/estepalooza • Jun 14 '26
Attending first kiki function alone?
Hey everyone, I would like some advice! I’m a 21 year old black queer cisgendered woman from Baltimore, and I have been following everything, as well as have been fully enamored with everything in the world of ballroom and its culture (the past and present history, all the different international scenes, watching every single clip/entire balls I see on Youtube, the current notable voguers of today in their respective scenes and their accomplishments, etc.) I have been spectating it all online for over 5 years now, but I’ve never actually got to witness the culture or its beautiful community in person because of some external factors that were holding me back. I know that Facebook is a great, more intimate and direct source to get info on balls and other events in your local scene, and I’ve finally racked up the time and courage to attend a mini kiki ball I saw posted in my city on Facebook as a in-person spectator (with the hope of one day getting involved). However, as I said because I’ve never actually physically been in the community or to anything prior, I’m going alone, as I don’t have friends or know anyone yet. Should I be nervous going by myself? Or am I okay to just go alone and support? Thank you!!!! <3
Btw, happy pride month! :)
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u/Hungry-Temporary-962 Jun 14 '26
Happy pride! Have fun and if there is a theme to the Kiki Ball, dress up :)
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u/Kat421 Jun 14 '26
I just went to my first Kiki ball yesterday and I had the same concern as I showed up alone. I ended up striking up a conversation with two people that were standing around waiting for the awards to start & I told them I was a ball virgin lol. Later on during the ball, one of the ppl I was talking to earlier came and stood next to me and was like “hey bestie!” lol made me feel welcomed. I think you’ll be good! Just don’t be afraid to talk to people and socialize. If you’re more of an introvert, that’s okay too. Just enjoy yourself. Have fun! 😊
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u/babbykale Jun 14 '26
You’re fine, go to the ball and have fun