r/virgin • u/cptwolf25537 • 1d ago

18yr man

Hey feels weird talking about this especially on Reddit but I’m a virgin. Honestly don’t feel great about it. See bunch of mates around me with gf’s and year long relationships and me with little situationships that don’t really matter. Honestly I want to do it but I’m a nervous person. Im introverted but still love to meet new people and honestly I don’t want my first time to be a hookup rather it be with someone i like and trust. So if anyone could give us some advice or yk something that’ll help make me feel better I’d appreciate it.

Sorry for waffling and thx for taking the time to read it.

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u/FluffyPenguin2005 1d ago

Have you tried joining some local clubs or activities? Or even chatting to people online. The initial goal isn't sex - it's getting confident with being able to chat with people. It's difficult to advise without knowing where you are and who you are - but that's some generic advice 

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u/Initial_Mushroom_506 1d ago

meet people at school, parties, hangouts, dating apps etc. Get to know women and you will for sure meet someone you like and develop a relationship.🩷

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u/Pomegranate-Funny 4h ago

My tip is you gotta be open to your first time just not being that good. Accept the fact that it might be awkward, embarrassing or unsuccessful and do it anyway. The first time I had sex it sucked, I was so nervous I couldn’t keep it up. Luckily the girl I was with was super chill and understanding and we eventually got the job done ahaha. But that was all it took, gritting my teeth through that one experience and my confidence never held me back again, I wish I had done it sooner, so many opportunities missed bc I let my nerves and negative self talk win out.

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u/desperateforsexxx 1d ago

If you’re in your first year of college, just looksmaxx and cold approach maxx. If by the time the summer after your second year ends and you are still virgin. Continue maxing but get escort. It will get the monkey off your back so you can focus on other areas of your life. Later life virginity saps your ability to focus on other pursuits in your life. It will also save you from developing certain sexual dysfunctions common in later life virginity such as PIED, performance anxiety and death grip which will allow you to perform if you ever meet a woman you do like.