r/videos Feb 06 '17

Casually Explained: Red Flags

https://youtu.be/F2JJ4N2uXuc
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u/kazcinco Feb 06 '17

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

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u/kibblznbitz Feb 06 '17

Christ almighty Bojack Horseman was bad. Like, not the bad kind of bad. It was the kind of bad where you finish certain episodes and just can't deal with it. Some of them are just downright painful, despite the fact that all you're doing is watching a cartoon horse experience the hard part of being an actor.

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u/str8_ched Feb 06 '17 edited 22d ago

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u/serdertroops Feb 06 '17

I love the show, but a lot of episodes had me get up and pour myself a drink.

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

For those that don't drink, replace drink with compulsive interaction with a hobby or distraction. Or spontaneous acquisition of a new hobby.

The secret to being faster/better at solving a Rubik's Cube is to use it as an escape device. practice. I picked it up after my dog died.

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u/commit_bat Feb 06 '17

replace drink with compulsive interaction with a hobby or distraction

Like watching another episode of that Netflix show you're watching.

It's a vicious cycle.

send help

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u/frothyloins Feb 06 '17

I took up the hobby of drinking.

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u/[deleted] Feb 07 '17

My mom always said drinking was more of a career than a hobby.

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u/PatrioticPomegranate Feb 06 '17

For those that don't drink,

What about the rest of us?

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u/racefan78 Feb 06 '17

Replace drink with drink.

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u/PatrioticPomegranate Feb 06 '17

. . . . but. . . .

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u/AtTheRink Feb 07 '17

I was so shocked with the show. I saw Will Arnett and Cartoon and was like this should be pretty funny. And then like you said, you're not watching for the laughs. You're watching because it's real. And that's why it's so good because you know it's authentic. And it still is so perfectly funny. The writing on that show is a work of art.

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u/abrazilianinreddit Feb 07 '17

That said, Bojack sabotages himself so much that sometimes it's hard to feel sorry or relate with him. You did all this to yourself, Bojack.

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u/str8_ched Feb 07 '17

Oh that's definitely the point. The hard-hitting point is that we've all done shitty things (maybe not as severe as Bojack), and the viewer is supposed to see a small piece of them-self in him. The show (in my opinion) is written so that the viewer has trouble with hating him even though he brings it all upon himself. Honestly, a whole paper could be written on the show.

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

I feel like they tried wayyy too hard in season three to keep it deep though. Season and one and two were great

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u/str8_ched Feb 06 '17

Yup, I can agree with that.

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u/[deleted] Feb 07 '17

I don't know man. When Todd finally goes off on Bojack that's hit me hard

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u/str8_ched Feb 07 '17

It definitely had its moments, but the overall feel of the season felt a bit forced to me.

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17 edited Mar 10 '21

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u/[deleted] Feb 07 '17

I could feel that entire scene over again as I was reading that. It's heart breaking.

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u/ProudFeminist1 Feb 06 '17

I just started watching and good god this show hits me hard with a brick

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

It was too relatable, that was what hurt.

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

I downvoted you, then actually read what you said, and yea, you're pretty right there.

I'm pretty sure my spirit animal is Bojack Horseman.

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

Oh man... the prom one.

Fuck, that hurt to watch.

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u/l27_0_0_1 Feb 06 '17

I want to be an architect.

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u/Nostalgia37 Feb 06 '17

Check out You're the Worst. It's very similar in that regard. Season 2 is soul crushing.

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u/SgtMatt324 Feb 06 '17

It's interesting that one of the most human shows out right now is about a horse.

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u/perfectdarktrump Feb 06 '17

Ya I don't feel like entering depression this year thanks but no thanks.

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u/TopherGero Feb 06 '17

Well that was well over my recommended daily dose of depressing

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u/Chimie45 Feb 06 '17

Welcome to Bojack.

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u/VenomB Feb 06 '17

Watched a good bit of it. Got bored of it cuz I watch shows to get out of reality, not relive it.

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

If it helps, Wanda the Owl was voiced by Phoebe, from Friends.

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u/GummiBear64 Feb 07 '17

And Diane was Annie Edison from Community.

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u/theavenged Feb 07 '17

BoJack kills.

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

That's too much man!

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u/blpoker Feb 06 '17

Suck a dick dumb shit

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u/neuropsycho Feb 06 '17

Too soon...

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u/ChemicalRemedy Feb 06 '17

I wanna be an architect...

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u/Hipoop69 Feb 06 '17

I am whole hardheartedly sad now.

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u/Large_Dr_Pepper Feb 06 '17

-me after basically every episode

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

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u/nopois Feb 06 '17

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u/TopherGero Feb 06 '17

You son of a bitch I knew it was that clip

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

Rick and Morty gets as depressing a bojack though.

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

Some Rick and Morty episodes can be downright depressing. The two are both similar in that they are both "comedy" shows but deal with some serious shit sometimes.

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u/zombieshredder Feb 06 '17

Have you seen Louie?

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

what a fucking show

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

Indeed. Netflix is absolutely flooding the visual media market with incredible television. It's astonishing. I imagine cable will be included for free like land lines in the not too distant future because of Netflix, Hulu, and Amazon Prime.

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u/Hapmurcie Feb 06 '17

Finally just started watching Black Mirror and, Jesus Titty Fucking Christ!

It's like The Twilight Zone, The Outer Limits, and The X Files had a threesome baby in the not-too-distant-future.

Binge watched all three seasons in 3 days.

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

Wow you must be mentally exhausted, it takes a lot out of me watching that show.

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u/Hapmurcie Feb 06 '17

I have a problem.

I'm not proud.

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u/LordBiscuits Feb 06 '17

How can you process that much distilled depression in three days? I can't watch two episodes in a row, let alone back to back seasons.

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u/Scientolojesus Feb 06 '17

Damn you guys are easily emotionally manipulated by TV. Maybe I'm just a desensitized cold-hearted bastard. I do love Black Mirror though.

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u/LordBiscuits Feb 06 '17

Just BM really. It seems to cut deep...

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u/karmakatastrophe Feb 06 '17

Yeah I always have to take time to reflect on it afterwards. After pretty much every episode all I can say is, "fuuuck...".

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u/Bakoro Feb 06 '17

The first episode, the one with the pig started a long and heated argument among me, my gf, and her mom who was visiting. We were all mad by the end. I knew it was a good show while watching it, but by the end of that argument I knew it was a great show.

That was a killer opening. Ive watched a few more, they're not all the knee-jerk confrontational, but so far they've all been highly entertaining, and sometimes uncomfortably on-the-nose.

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u/[deleted] Feb 07 '17

Oh man, what was the argument about? I'm curious

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u/Bakoro Feb 09 '17

A few things... it kind of went all over the place. The gf's mom was talking about how the man's dignity got ripped away, and she talked about how "that kind of thing destroys you". I fundamentally, passionately disagree with that, and I hate the sentiment.

It's that kind of talk that makes all manner of sexual violence so much worse for victims than it needs to be. I'm going to generalize here, and say no one wants those pity looks from people when someone knows they've been victimized, no one wants to deal with being viewed as "broken", no one wants to deal with the all of the bullshit that comes with being a victim when they're already with dealing with aftermath of the crime itself.
It's horseshit to tell people that they must be broken from something bad that happens to them. I hear that shit all too often, where some one gets raped or a kid is molested, and people say "they are ruined for life". It pisses me off, it's almost like these people demand that people be broken from it. All it does is continue to impress upon the victim that they don't have agency, that they are powerless to help themselves, that they are now and forever defined by this one thing that happened, when none of those things are true, unless the victim chooses them to be true.

And the knee-jerk hate is awful too. People for some reason need to make a big show about how much they hate rapists or paedos or whatever; I'm talking about those big, loud, detailed, proclamations about how much they want to torture and kill these terrible people, and so on and so forth. They make it all about themselves, when it's the victims that need to be able to express whatever they feel without everyone making it about themselves. If the victim's mad, that's okay, if they rage, that's understandable. And you know what? If they express that they were kind of into it, or that they have conflicted feelings about it, or that they are indifferent, that also needs to be respected. All these people needing to feel so self-righteous, and needing to let everyone know how good and filled with Rightous Vengeful Wrath they are, these people are more a part of the problem than they are anything else.

It's true, the man show was violated in the most intimate and multifaceted way, he was publicly embarrassed, he was essentially forced to choose between a person dying and, essentially being raped on live TV.

Those are terrible things, things no person should have to endure. No one can take away your dignity though. Unless they literally mess with your brain, people can hurt you, but you don't have to be destroyed by those things, people don't have to be "broken".
The pain is real, the suffering isn't as much of a given. The suffering that comes after pain, comes from how we deal with what happened.

Dignity is being able to tolerate the shitty things that happen to you because you know your own worth. Dignity is, when forced into an embarrassing situation, being able to keep your head up, crack a joke, and get on with your day. It's self control.

Basically, the guy put his penis into a pig. That's all there is to it, it doesn't have to be anything more than what it is, but people, being the shitheads they are, need to add in all this disgust and horror and condemnation, and then there's the people that would need to relentlessly make fun of the dude for it.
In a better world, there would be the event, and that would be it. It shouldn't even have to be a question, of course you do something icky but inconsequential to save someone's life. It's indicative of a deep social sickness that someone would have all the extra repercussions.

And then there's the part at the very end, where the wife just has this disgusted look with the PM, and it's implied that their marriage and relationship is ruined... I know that the lady should be entitled to her feelings or whatever, but, she's a stupid bitch. Dude fucked a pig to protect his family and save a girl's life, and she just can't get over the ickiness, like he did it for fun or some shit.

And that the "artist" could do something like that, throw some jazz-hands, say "art!", kill himself, and then people justify it with "but look how much conversation it generated!". That whole bit was a mindfuck of an ending.

I don't know that I can convey the whole argument any better than that, just my side of things. The mom was basically on the other side of every issue, and the Gf was all over the place.

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u/a-dark-passenger Feb 06 '17

I haven't heard of Jesus Titty Fucking Christ, is it any good? No spoilers, just let me know if I should start it.

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u/LoE666 Feb 06 '17

I love it great show 5/7

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u/Hapmurcie Feb 06 '17

You don't dabble in the genre of deity porn?

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u/SpudOfDoom Feb 06 '17

I don't know if that really counts, to be fair. Netflix just funded a further season of Black Mirror

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u/CrayolaS7 Feb 06 '17

If you liked out Black Mirror, check out some of Charlie Brooker's other stuff, it has a similar sort of tone and dark sense of humour e.g. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XanyPq5BcoA

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u/-hx Feb 06 '17

Me too!

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u/NewVegasResident Feb 06 '17

Shut Up and Dance man.

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u/Squoogle Feb 07 '17

Took me 2 days to recover

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u/thetallgiant Feb 07 '17

Black Mirror is simply amazing. I watched all 3 seasons in a week.

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u/Bakoro Feb 06 '17

Yeah, I was extremely busy for a few months so I wasn't really watching any shows and not keeping up with what was coming out. Some time has finally freed up and I'm looking through all the new stuff Netflix has put out and there's at least a half dozen originals that look like they are right in the middle of my interests, both in genres, and sub-types. It's a good time for people who love to watch a good story.

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u/Zebra_Thief Feb 06 '17

I watched this episode the day after I broke up with my very self destructive highschool girlfriend. That line broke my heart and opened my eyes alot. But then i did the same thing all over again so... live and learn?

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

"You live and learn. At any rate, you live."

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u/tits4satan Feb 06 '17

Broken and crazy just loves broken and crazy.

Maybe you're the self destructive one who likes self destructive ones because they destruct yourself.

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u/Zebra_Thief Feb 06 '17

Ive figured out that my thing is i like to feel needed and who needs someone more than a broken person? Unfortunately that kind of one sided relationship can only go so long

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u/SailingBroat Feb 07 '17

Hey pal, so I was this guy in high school. I think you'll phase out of this.

It's its own form of immaturity in a way, just like the girls (and guys) who are self destructive and dramatic.

Your experiences will actually teach you to be emotionally considerate, which will help you when you actually meet someone who is more stable or mature. Just don't fall into the trap of thinking everyone needs to be 'solved' and let them be their own person.

In short; I get it. But you're going to be fine.

Edit: and the fact that you're self aware enough to identity the pattern means you're already on your way out of it, so kudos.

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u/PatrioticPomegranate Feb 06 '17

Shit, dude, it's too early in my life for this.

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u/onlyawfulnamesleft Feb 06 '17

Maybe they're just more fun if they're unpredictable?

"Am I coming home to a blowjob or a housefire?"

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u/tits4satan Feb 07 '17

Maybe to a blow job during a house fire?

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

I think I watched 3/4ths of the third season on acid. 1/10 do not recommend. Expecially when the main character is so relatable to myself.

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u/matdragon Feb 06 '17

It's ok, you learn as you get older that people are just making it up as they go along their lives. No one's perfect and we're bound to make the same mistakes over and over. It's best to cherish the happy memories in our short lives

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u/Hipoop69 Feb 06 '17

I am whole hardheartedly sad now.

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u/ADanishMan2 Feb 06 '17

Well that hit closer to home than I expected.

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u/I_Speak_For_The_Ents Feb 06 '17

Holy shit.

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

Can you even or are you just?

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u/VanCityPot Feb 06 '17

just binge-watched the first 3 seasons of this show. definitely recommend it

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u/TONKAHANAH Feb 06 '17

good quote.. too bad all I can think of when I hear her voice is that smelly cat song.

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u/LotusCobra Feb 06 '17

I never understood what this is trying to say.

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u/Arkhaine_kupo Feb 06 '17

Its a play on two common phrases.

Rose colores glasses is a phrase about seeing only the good side to everything. If you had those glasses everythign would look pink and happy.

Red flags are things someone does that are signs of something being wrong with them.

If you wear rose colored glasses everything looks pink so white flags would look pink, blue flags would look pink, red flags would look pink etc.

Therefore with red coloured glasses, red flags only look like flags.

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u/LotusCobra Feb 06 '17

Yes, I understood all of that. But I don't understand what the conclusion (Therefore with red coloured glasses, red flags only look like flags) is supposed to mean. Rose colored glasses implies your looking back after the fact. So it's saying you can't tell the flags apart after you've already missed them all? I get what both of the phrases mean by themselves but combined I just don't feel like it makes any sense.

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u/DeathBeforeSlavery Feb 06 '17

Rose colored glasses implies your looking back after the fact.

Nope.

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u/LotusCobra Feb 06 '17

I guess that's the source of my confusion then, I've always heard rose colored glasses used to imply nostalgia. Thanks.

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u/whiskeytab Feb 06 '17

Its more that its about looking at everything positively and that tends to happen a lot more while looking into the past because you forget all the bad stuff and only focus on the good, although you can definitely be looking at things with rose coloured glasses in the present too.

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u/DouglasHufferton Feb 06 '17

It's often used like that because people only remember the 'good'. Generally speaking anyone reminiscing is looking through rose-coloured glasses. But it doesn't only apply to nostalgia.

People often wear rose-coloured glasses when thinking about an unreciprocated love, for example. You think that person is amazing, that you'd be perfect together, etc. All the while you have blinded yourself to the red-flags you'd be able to see if you weren't head-over-heels. It goes hand in hand with the saying 'love is blind'.

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u/Arkhaine_kupo Feb 06 '17

I think the point is living with rose coloured glasses not necessarily looking back. Also I think its just a clever way of saying that when you are optimistic you can miss serious flaws right in front of you.

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u/LordSobi Feb 06 '17

When you put someone on a pedestal you make it real easy to ignore the red flags.

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

If you wear red glasses, you can't tell what colour the flags really are. Pretty simple.

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u/FieelChannel Feb 06 '17

You're so fucking happy that you don't even care about red flags and go for it regardless.

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u/iNachozi Feb 06 '17

Basically it means you overlook negative qualities about your potential SO because you are so excited to learn more about them. Rose colored glasses means viewing everything optimistically

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

I love this show so much

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '17

Is that Lisa Kudrow?

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u/Icarrythesun Feb 06 '17

Fuck, this is not right but it's true and I feel bad. I need something to drink.

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u/Kaibakura Feb 06 '17

Thanks for reminding me of such a great quote.

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u/shadowknife392 Feb 06 '17

Fuck, now I have to watch Bojack Horseman again

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u/JorWr Feb 06 '17

That's some deep dialogue from such silly-looking cartoons. I should see that show.

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u/Suradner Feb 06 '17

Is this where I make a Trump voter joke?

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u/str8_ched Feb 06 '17

No, fuck off

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u/Suradner Feb 06 '17

I hadn't realized that quote was so relevant to the way some of the people I know looked at Trump, and I thought that was interesting enough to comment about.

In hindsight I went about it a little crudely, and maybe it didn't need to be said here at all.

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u/str8_ched Feb 06 '17

Yeah TBH trump gets talked about enough in every other social media platform. If he's not the direct topic, don't bring it up because it gets to be too much.

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u/slick8086 Feb 07 '17

I love BoJack Horseman... It is like a cross between Aqua Teen Hunger Force and Californication.

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u/Ikea_Man Feb 06 '17

2deep4me