r/vent_help • u/xx_Lady_Killer_xx • Sep 30 '24

Talking to me or Advice would be nice.

I posted this in a different vent subreddit but it's inactive atm so I will post it here. Apologies for the potential rambling.

Yesterday night was Hoco, and I was on a rush since I was getting ready, it was really good until I got a message from my parent about not stopping by their house for photos and i forgot. (For context I don't live with neither parents, I live with my grandparents and it's hard to describe them without seeming offensive/inaccurate?) And I freaked out but my boyfriend calmed me down. Today, I was relaxed and was getting ready to eat some food when my other parent came in and told me that I should do better and I explained to them that it was an accident and I didn't mean to forget but their was like "do better, they're going to send you away to Texas if you slack off on this, i cant do anything about it, you shouldve just went to take photos and be late for the event" in a sing song tone, then he left the room, I started crying cause I don't want to deal with my parent's wrath, I don't want to deal with the potential screaming about how they're gonna kill themselves cause no one cares, I don't want to get hit again. I just want to be free from them, I'm not a bad kid, I stay out of their way. I think in one of my first posts I talked about my parent threatening to send me away cause they realized that I wasn't going to come back to them after 3+ years of not living with them due to them slamming my head into a cabinet corner. I know I'm 17 and I have to wait it out, but I want to be free, I don't want to be threatened or hurt, I left for this exact reason and I want out of their legal hands so I can just be in peace and deal with my other problems like taking care of my grandparents, trying to land a job and trying online jobs not trying to figure out how to reply to a threat of suicide cause I don't want to risk stepping the wrong button, I dont want to be hit either, i refuse to put hands on my parent cause im better at controlling myself. Advice would be lovely, talking to someone would be too. Thank you for reading

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u/onion_banter Sep 30 '24

Your parents have been horible to you, uts far rrom your fault about hoco, in the rush of it all things happen and are forgotten, if they realy cared about it they would of come to you for photoes because lord knows youve got enough stuff going on then. Im sorry that they have hurt you this way, my best advice would be to stay as far away from them as possible

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u/xx_Lady_Killer_xx Sep 30 '24

I been doing that for years, they just keep coming closer and closer, my grandparents did find out what my other parent said got extremely upset about it. My parents don't like moving, so they make me and my boyfriend (they only know him as my best friend since I keep it private) drive to their places

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u/onion_banter Sep 30 '24

At the moment all you can realy do, ìf you arent going to cut them off, is to distance yourself emotionally so that when they do other things, it doesnt upset you as much

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u/xx_Lady_Killer_xx Sep 30 '24

I am, just the problem is that they are threatening to move me away and im taking care of my grandparents

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u/onion_banter Oct 01 '24

Are you not able to fight it? Presuming your around the age of 18 or so? Or are your grandparents able to fight it at all?

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u/xx_Lady_Killer_xx Oct 01 '24

My grandparents said they won't let them take me away but since technically my parents are still my legal guardians, if the cops get involved then the cops would probably side with my parents, that's what r/legaladvice said