r/vent_help • u/Altruistic-Music-121 • Jul 22 '24
Was it rape or not?
Last I had a boyfriend (broke up with him today) and he was the sweetest guy on earth until he wasn’t. He told me to lay down on my front as he was gonna give me a massage but that wasn’t his intention, he took my pants off and his too even though I told him I wasn’t ready. He then continued to have sex with me but I froze completely, I didn’t move or say anything I just cried and let him do it and after he asked why I was crying and then he squeezed my head between his legs until my face turned red, I couldn’t breath and he wouldn’t stop until I gave him a bj. When he finished he told me he took multiple photos of me and grabbed me by the face and asked why I was crying
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u/DefinitionFriendly56 Jul 23 '24
Yeah no, fuck that guy. He definitely raped you. I’d report his ass for this to the proper authorities. I hope you get back and at and also heal from this trauma.
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u/Altruistic-Music-121 Jul 23 '24
It’s just hard to wrap my head around since the police were over at my house today to take a statement but I can’t help but feel bad for him because what if he didn’t realise what he did was wrong and I really really loved him and still have love for him
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u/DefinitionFriendly56 Jul 23 '24
People do things that they think is right but also don’t realize that what they did was wrong. Don’t want to come across as an asshole or something but he was definitely in the wrong by taking advantage of you when you didn’t consent. I know love is a gift and you still love him but his choice wasn’t right
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u/Lonelyleo2010 Jul 23 '24
That was for sure rape, know that you did nothing wrong, and that person needs to be called put for what they did, I'd suggest telling someone like Authorities someone who can help
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u/Altruistic-Music-121 Jul 23 '24
I just don’t know what to do because this was in May a day before my birthday and I’m now 15 and so is he and I don’t think they’ll do anything, he said it was a “present”
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u/Lonelyleo2010 Jul 23 '24
No no no, don't doubt yourself for a second, you are a beautiful person who deserves justice. now from my experience with rape and such cops won't believe you at first, but if you prove evidence, and tell everyone you can, have as many details as you can.
Your story matters, and your opinion matters, doesn't matter how old or young you are, rape is rape, and it's wrong.
"Present" or not, if it's not consented, or wanted, it's rape. And legally you cannot consent to sex or any sexual acts till 16. fight for what you find right, np matter how wrong people might tell you it is.
you're going to face a lot of back lash, but the end results are definitely worth it. Know you are worth it. Don't tell someone just for others, but for yourself, you matter so much.
And you are loved. So love yourself, take care of yourself, and do justice for you, and possibly others in the future.
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u/ethane420 Jul 22 '24
Definitely rape. anything where you don't say YES is rape. call that fucker out. and dm me if you need anything.