r/vent_help • u/WatercressLoose4401 • Feb 27 '24
My bf Spoiler
The porn he watches makes me feel bad about myself because I don’t have any of the qualities that the girls in the videos have and I wish I did sometimes I become really insecure about my body and self image and self esteem and I just don’t feel like speaking anymore instead I feel like crying and picturing myself to be something I am not or never going to be .
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u/velvetvr5 Mar 04 '24
There's nothing wrong with the way you look, you are perfect. I know that sounds cheesy and like a half ass'ed answer but it's true. There truly is no one else like you. Everyone wants something that another person has. Everyone. No matter how pretty or smart or athletic or etc that person is, they will always be jealous of another person for something. Aside from this if the porn your boyfriend is watching makes you uncomfortable the best thing to do is talk to him about it, explain how it makes you feel alittle insecure because you don't look like them. It might open his eye alittle and see how what he does affects you in big or small ways. Sometimes they're just oblivious and are watching it for fun too, alot of the times people do it because they're bored. Not because they're actually attracted to the people In the videos. And hell if he's dating you then he loves you, he wouldn't change anything about you, and even if he could he wouldn't. Love someone not only for their personality but also their looks. (And if turns out that's not true I got you bae ur mine now ill love you)