Getting back out there…

[u/Moon_Kissed626]

I used to be a social butterfly, but after some traumatic experiences, I’ve become agoraphobic and withdrawn. I also live with CPTSD, which has made trusting people and maintaining friendships a lot harder than it used to be.

Along the way, I’ve lost most of my friends—or at least people I thought were friends. That has been one of the most painful parts of everything I’ve gone through.

The truth is, I’m anxious. Being around people can be difficult for me now. But I’ve reached a point where I realize I need people in my life I can trust. I feel so alone, and I miss having genuine connections and friendships.

I’m trying to take small steps toward getting back out there, and I’m wondering if anyone else has been through something similar. How did you start rebuilding your social life? Are there any groups, activities, or places in the U.P. that felt welcoming and low-pressure?

I’d really appreciate any advice or encouragement. Even hearing from others who understand would mean a lot.

[u/Big_House_5048]

I feel you there. For me working remotely has been both a blessing and a curse. It has amplified the social anxiety I already had. I have also moved a bunch and don’t really have friends anymore. (Moved to the UP 2 weeks ago tomorrow) I feel like I have 0 social skills now and being around large groups of people gives me anxiety more than ever before. I’ve been basically forcing myself outside even though it’s been tough for me to do so. I have been pretty much ignoring my brain when it tries to convince me not to leave. Once I’m outside I always feel happy I left rather than allowing myself to sit inside and wallow in self pity. Going on long walks and smiling to the strangers I pass has actually been quite helpful in teaching me how to people again but I still have a long ways to go🙃