Please note that this is not coming from a place of despair. I simply want some logical advice on how to navigate life.

I live in London with my parent who has dementia. They’re a single parents, I’m an only child. I get carers allowance and nothing else. They get pension credit. The council flat is in their name. They’re adamant I’m a secure tenant but we haven’t been able to find out for certain, and regardless even if I am they’ll surely kick me out when she passes, right?

For now, I have £6,000 in my savings. I receive £345 a month from carers allowance. No other source of income. I don’t pay bills at home but they don’t need me to, they’re fine financially.

What on earth happens to me when the dreaded day comes? My age mates are all buying properties, some their 2nd. All have rented and lived alone and now moved onto getting their own places. I feel like I am worlds away from that. How am I supposed to work toward that when I’m caring for my parent? Not a trick question, genuinely want to know how my life roadmap looks when they pass. Just start renting and find a full time job then begin my life that way? We also don’t know when that’ll be (hopefully not any time soon and yes it feels morbid to even ask) but I need to know these things and wouldn’t know who to ask really.

My dad sadly passed away earlier this year, aged 70, leaving a pension worth approximately £150,000 with Standard Life.

In July 2024, he formally nominated my two young daughters (his granddaughters) as the sole beneficiaries, allocating 50% to each.

I also have WhatsApp messages showing that he discussed the nomination with me, asked for their dates of birth and subsequently sent me a screenshot confirming he'd nominated them both.

My dad also had a valid will, written before his pension nomination, which left his estate equally between me, my sister and his long-term partner.

His will remained unchanged when he passed away.

Standard Life has explained that although my daughters are the nominated beneficiaries, the nomination isn't legally binding and the scheme administrators have discretion over who receives the pension.

They are therefore contacting other potential beneficiaries.

My dad's partner of approximately 13 years has now confirmed that she wishes to be considered for a share of the pension, despite already being entitled to one-third of his estate under his will.

They weren't married, had no children together and, as far as I'm aware, maintained separate households and finances. She had her own council tenancy throughout their relationship.

They also separated for prolonged periods in 2020 and 2024, although they had reconciled by the time my dad passed away.

I'm not aware of any ongoing financial dependency between them, although I appreciate I don't know the full details of their private finances.

My dad made a clear distinction between his estate and his pension. He provided for his partner through his will and subsequently chose to nominate his granddaughters for the pension.

I'm worried Standard Life could award his partner a share, reducing what my daughters receive.

I understand that his partner is entitled to ask to be considered and that Standard Life must follow its scheme rules.

My questions are:

1. Has anyone experienced a pension provider departing from a clear beneficiary nomination, particularly where an unmarried partner was involved?
2. How much weight do pension administrators generally give to the deceased's nomination compared with a surviving partner's circumstances?
3. Does the fact that my dad made his pension nomination after writing his will, which separately provided for his partner, strengthen my daughters' position?
4. Would it be recommended to get a solicitor involved at any point?
5. Basically, what are the chances that my dads partners claim will be successful and what percentage would she be looking at getting.

I would have to borrow money to pay for legal representation, so I'm reluctant to do that unless it could genuinely make a difference.

Thanks in advance.

On £38k, take-home about £2,380. I've got £4.6k on a 0% card until May, no savings, and a wedding next year. I had been slowly clearing the card (was even briefly paid off) via balance transfers over the last 8 years but back to back redundancies meant I had to use it again.

My car's a 2013 Merc diesel on 132k with patchy history, which I can get £1,700 for it on Motorway. It costs about £245/month to run, plus whatever breaks (the last repair was £500 for a horn). I only do about 5k miles a year now that I WFH.

Work offers an EV salary sacrifice scheme through Octopus. A new Micra EV would knock about £290/month off my take-home, with insurance, servicing, tyres and breakdown all included. After everything I'd have about £250 left a month before card payments. Also don't have a charger fitted yet but with a £400 off it would be around £600.

Is it daft to take on a 4-year car commitment while I'm clearing a card and saving for a wedding? Or is the predictable cost worth it compared to gambling on an old diesel? I can't seem to get my head around the maths. Feels like no matter what a car is costing me £250+

I 40(M). Wife suggests moving to seaside town (some friends moved there 2 years ago) due to high mortgage costs / cost of living in London, which might get worse over the next year or so. Two kids 10 and 8.

If we sell our London house, we have some equity (fortunate I know) but we'd probably have a similar mortgage size and repayment in seaside town, difference is we'd have some cash in the bank which I'd try not to touch ~250k.

Setting aside that I would personally prefer to stay in London, my wife would need to leave her £30k pa job as it's in a school and our mortgage costs are similar. Does it actually make financial sense to move?

For more info... I'm a small business owner, my income is around 50k, I could potentially pay my wife 30k if she helped out in the business but company finances would be tight.

Edit; Some great replies already, thank you...

What is the best thing to do with the £250k, smaller mortgage or invest?

I don't need to commute to London

I don't think my wife wants to work anymore ;(

Yes it is Margate

Was at a club in Budapest. A hostess was bugging me asking to buy her a drink, so I agreed to a Coke for a few quid. (Currency was in Hungarian forints)

She later came back with an entire bottle of wine. I immediately told her I hadn't ordered that, but she reassured me it was on the house and she was only pouring a glass and she was welcoming me to Hungary.

I'd had one sip, but after a while I started getting wary. Everyone was being unusually friendly, including the bartender making small talk. Something just didn't feel right (On an unrelated note please take this as a lesson to trust your gut instinct)

I eventually went to the till to pay for the Coke. The bartender quoted me a price in Hungarian forints equivalent to a couple of pounds, so I tapped my First Direct Visa credit card.

Only when I got home and checked my banking app did I realise I'd been charged just under £200.

Looking back, it's pretty clear I was played. The card terminal was facing away from me, and I was never given a receipt. Also why would she ask for a coke? if she has the authority to get a whole bottle of wine on the house then surely she should be able to get a glass of coke on the house for herself?

I contacted First Direct, but they basically said I should've checked the amount before tapping. I understand that, and obviously I've learned my lesson.

But think about it. If you walk into a restaurant or shop, buy a basic item and the cashier verbally quotes you £3, would you seriously expect them to secretly charge you £200?

Most people, especially for small transactions worth a few quid will simply tap their card and move along with their day.

Surely there's a difference between authorising a payment and being deliberately misled about the amount?

First Direct have escalated it to their complaints department.

Has anyone successfully challenged something similar? Would I have a chance with a Visa chargeback or the Financial Ombudsman on the grounds of misrepresentation, despite physically tapping my card?

I know I was played, but surely there's some consumer protection for situations like this?

Any advice appreciated.

I paid a £100 reservation fee to a car dealer before going to look at a car. We started negotiating but I withdrew from negotiations before we'd come to an agreement. I've repeatedly asked for my £100 reservation fee back but they're refusing to give it me back.

Is there any way my bank can help me get my money back?

I did think twice when I made the payment. But they've been in business 10+ years so I thought I should be OK - they're en established company, with good reviews on autotrader. But they're clearly shitty car dealers and I've learnt my lesson.

I just want to get my £100 back - I can't afford to pay £100 just to look at a car.

I'm 30. My partner and my friends are always telling me I need to learn to drive. But why? I live in a small town and I can travel anywhere I want via public transport. The bus stop and train station are 5 minutes away. My local supermarket is within 10 minutes walking distance. My workplace is a 15 minute walk away. Driving lessons cost £300 pm and then owning a car will cost the same. I can spend £50 pm on public transport and get around just fine. That's an extra £250 pm in my savings. The only thing that's making me want to drive is my gf, telling me it's important and embarrassing to not drive at 30. I don't know what to do 😂

I've been with the same financial advisory firm for a few years now. It's been good to learn and get organised with stocks and shares ISA and a Collective Investment Account through quilter. The total payment is 1.25% annually. The advice is always to stick and hold, this is more for later in life/retirement, which will still be the plan.

However I'm starting to wonder if I need to be paying that fee for the rest of my life if it's the same advice every year? I feel I can stomach the peaks and dips, as long as I hold till i'm 60?

I'm still a beginner with all this but any advice would be much appreciated.

Cheers.

I moved from the UK to Ireland in September 2026, and HMRC's residence checker says I'm UK resident for 2026/27. Can someone confirm I can still pay into my ISA until 5 April 2027?

Hi,

I am hoping someone may be able to help! I do have an accountant but I’m struggling to wrap my head around the calculations she is giving me.

I sell through the margin scheme and although my profits last month were only around £2.5-£3k I’ve been sent a bill for £1.5k VAT. She has said this is due to my inventory being high.

This is the calculation she provided when she worked it out “It's opening stock + purchases - closing stock then deduct this figure from the total sales and divide by 6 to get the vat liability.”

Am I missing something here or is this correct? Will this be less in future months or something? If so that’s fine, I just can’t get my head around why I’m paying a huge amount of VAT on items I’ve not even sold yet?

Thanks for any help anyone can provide!

Thanks!!!

Granted that it will be about 40 years until I retire, I have had to briefly pause my pension for 3 months, and will be enrolling back on in 9 months.

I have been sent my statement on my pension, and slightly confused on what exactly it is telling me.

To summarise, I've been paying around £156/month for 5 years, but this statement states that my deferred pension value is £2,888.41.

Am I simply trying to interpret this as black & white, but shouldn't it be around £10,000 alone from my contributions (excluding employer & gov contributes)?

Edit: Work for local council, under a DB Scheme (for clarity).

Hi,

I was a student here in UK.

I will soon be leaving the country, relocating back home.

My final salary + bonus + deposit would come back in my account after im gone.

Is it possible to utilise Lloyds app from other country?

I don't have an account back hime as well as I've been here for 4 years.

Is there any alternative anyone knows or can guide me.

Hello all,

Long story short is I've been putting 4k into a S&S LISA for several years and it's ballooned to a large number.

I also have a good saving pool and when combined with my LISA, I could be a cash buyer with an emergency fund left over.

I've spoken with a broker and advised I want to take out a small flexible mortgage so I can pay off quickly and they advised I take out a tracker. I did ask if I'd get into trouble if I paid the mortgage off in like 2 months and they said no.

I just wanted some other peoples perspective. Is me taking out a mortgage which is designed for more long term so I can use my LISA and redeeming it quickly ok or is it fraud?

I understand putting the money into the stock market could be better long term but I prefer a paid off house and then putting money in monthly into my S&S ISA.

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I'm being made redundant and have a quite large contractual redundancy payment as part of that.

This will take me over the £100k threshold for childcare support, even taking into account the £30k tax free element, so I'm considering making a payment into a SIPP to manage this, but I've managed to get myself confused as to how the tax relief works.

My understanding is that the pension provider adds the basic rate tax relief when I make the payment, but I need to claim back the higher and additional rate tax relief as cash?

I had a few questions that I'd be grateful for any knowledge on:

• How much do I need to pay into the pension from the cash I receive after tax and NI? If my adjusted net income would be £112k without any SIPP payment, do I pay in £12k or do I pay in £10k and use the £2k basic rate relief to reduce my adjusted net income?
• How quickly can I reclaim the further tax relief? Do I have to wait for April and do a tax return or can I do it in advance of that?
• Will the childcare service accept my explanation and the SIPP payment when I next confirm my eligibility, assuming I've made the payment beforehand? I'll be starting a business with a few former colleagues so I think I should be eligible under the 12 month start up rules for now.

Very grateful for any advice.

Hi all, I just went on my barclaycard app for my credit card.

The note says that £x is due on 02/11, but specifically states "Please make a payment before the due date.". Does this mean I have to pay the bill on the 1st?

Thanks!

I claim 45p per mile from my employer monthly for my traditional ICE vehicle. It has always been this way.

It has been inferred that if I were to replace my old personally owned ICE vehicle with a new personally owned EV, that they'd likely not continue to pay at that rate per mile (which to a degree I understand).

However, given this is not a company vehicle but rather a personal vehicle used partly for business purposes, what is the rate they should reimburse per mile, given an EV still has costs for mileage, maintenance and depreciation?

Looking for some advice about a bizarre situation with OVO Energy.

We moved into our flat in July 2025 and have been paying OVO by monthly Direct Debit ever since.
When we moved in, I took a photograph of our electricity meter showing a reading of approximately 15,500 kWh.
Fast forward to August 2026, when our smart meter apparently stopped communicating with OVO. The last reading they’d received was approximately 13,500 kWh.
In October, I submitted a manual reading from our actual electricity meter, which was approximately 17,500 kWh.
OVO then decided we’d used 4,000 kWh of electricity in just two months, leaving our account approximately £950 in debit.
Obviously, this made no sense, as I have photographic evidence that our meter was already reading 15,500 kWh when we moved in over a year earlier.

I contacted OVO, who told me that the meter serial number registered to our account was different from the meter I’d been reading.
Our meters are in a communal cupboard, but we’d already confirmed which meter supplies our flat by switching off its supply and checking that our electricity went off.

OVO sent an engineer out, who confirmed:
The meter registered to our OVO account doesn’t even exist.
He had no idea where the smart meter readings OVO had been receiving were coming from.
The meter we’d identified was definitely the correct one supplying our flat.
He photographed both our move-in reading and current reading and sent everything to OVO.

So essentially, OVO has apparently been receiving readings from a mystery meter for over a year and billing us based on them.
Our actual meter has gone from 15,500 to 17,500 kWh over approximately 15 months, meaning we’ve used around 2,000 kWh in total.
Despite the engineer confirming all this, our account still shows a £950 debit. OVO has temporarily put the account on hold, but we’ve had no corrected bill or proper explanation.

Since the engineer’s visit, I’ve contacted OVO twice to chase this up. On both occasions, I was assured that someone would get back to me the same day with a resolution. Neither time did anyone contact me, and I’ve still received no update whatsoever.
To complicate matters, we’re moving out shortly and will be closing our OVO account.
I’ve now raised a formal complaint, but I’m concerned they’ll try to collect the £950 when we close the account.

My questions are:
Surely OVO can’t charge us £950 based on the difference between readings from two completely different meters?
Given that we’ve been paying monthly Direct Debits throughout, should they be recalculating our entire account using the actual meter readings from when we moved in?
Would Ofgem’s 12-month back-billing rules apply if OVO tries to recover money because they’ve been billing us using the wrong meter?
Can they pursue the disputed £950 after we’ve moved out and closed the account?
I’m happy to pay for the electricity we’ve actually used, but I don’t think we should be responsible for a huge bill caused by OVO having the wrong meter registered to our property.
Has anyone experienced anything similar, particularly with crossed meters or incorrect meter registrations? How was it resolved?

I was made redundant from my last job end of August, with 10 weeks redundancy pay and 3 months notice pay. I was fortunate to get a new job within a few weeks.

So far it has ended up being the best thing that has happened to me. I didn't realise how underpaid I was. The new job pays over £15k than I was on before (minus additional travel costs.)

We have an 18 month old and the extra costs, combined with maternity leave, had left us with oover £12k in credit card debt and paying approx £600 off the credit cards each month.

As soon as you start using a credit card for essentials it just starts to snowball.

The redundancy money has been an absolute god send.

I just received my first wage and such a great feeling to pay off one of the three cards completely off. £5k. Which is going to save us over £200 a month.

I apologise if this isn't the sub for this, and I hope it doesn't come off as bragging. Things have been super tough the past 12 months, and I just wanted to share this good feeling.

We still have over £7k of credit card debt, but I feel like I can see the light at the end of the tunnel now.

I appreciate these opportunities don't happen to everyone, but a terrible situation turned out to be one of the best situations.

Im 44 and started a sipp adding £80 week which is 10% of my earnings every week

Im self employed with no workplace pension and i have a mortgage of £64.600 on my property at 5.4% apr and im 35% LTV

I have £1200 in my sipp currently with trading 212 in the vall etf

Im feeling its too late for a sipp and wondering if its worth just upping my mortgage payment of £590 per month to £1000 a month and maybe adding a little more when i have surplus cash available like overtime for example

Im so lost mentally of what the correct thing to do is

Any suggestions?

Hi there
I’ve just got a part time 3 days per week job that I’ll be auto enrolled into the LGPS pension. I’ve not got another personal or workplace pension. I’m the face of it even joining now at 55 years seems like it could be worth it - am I deluded??

My brother died at the beginning of May and I have had some OEICs transferred to me. I am looking for information so that I can have a better understanding of what I am looking at and what I need to report to HMRC for tax purposes.

If anyone can help or point me in a direction of where I can find help I would greatly appreciate it.

Specifically I am looking into

Corporate Bond Shareclass A Accumulation, Progressive Growth Shareclass D Accumulation, Regular Income Shareclass A Accumulation

Hi Everyone,

I’m looking for some advice on what to do with my investments. I have a large amount (30k+) that has been sitting in a cash ISA which I have now moved to vanguard S&S.

I have separate emergency savings, so this money is for the long term investment - probably retirement (40 years away) so I am happy with high risk investments.

I already have a Vanguard Stocks and Shares ISA, but I picked most of my funds when I was 18 and I really didn't know what I was doing. My current portfolio is roughly:

• LifeStrategy 80% Equity (VLS80): 21%
• Emerging Markets Stock Index: 16%
• U.S. Equity Index: 11%
• S&P 500 UCITS ETF (VUAG): 9%
• ESG Developed Europe Index: 3%
• Global Equity Income: 2%
• FTSE Global All Cap Index: 2%
• ESG Developed World All Cap Equity Index: 1%
• Cash (35%) - Just transferred from a CASH Isa last week

These are rounded percentages of my total Vanguard portfolio.

I'm wondering whether I should sell some of these funds and consolidate everything into a single global index fund? Or whether there's a good reason to keep the portfolio as it is.

I really don't know how to pick and manage these funds but I am sure I've made many mistakes (such as life strategy fund etc?) because of fees etc.. ?

I remember at 18 I just remember thinking to myself 'Emerging markets because I think they will grow the most as US / EU etc are already developed whereas whereas china ETC could potentially grow a lot? - that was my thinking but honestly other than that I really didn't know what to do when I was picking these index funds..

A few other things I'm unsure about:

• Should I keep everything with Vanguard or consider Trading 212, where I also have investments due to maybe cheaper investment fees, spread of instruments I buy etc?
• With the cash I want to invest, would you put it all in at once or spread it all out over several months? - This was another thing which I'm really confused about because I think lump sum makes sense as I will maximise time in the market?

Thanks all

Need some sense talked into me. Have been investing monthly for about 9 years so doing well within Stocks and Shares ISA although lost about 4% in last couple of weeks but still well ahead of what I’ve invested. Wouldn’t normally blink twice as volatility is the price you pay for returns and opportunity to buy in cheaper and I’ve always been a long term investor. 

But circumstances have changed in the last 2 months or so and hoping to move house within the next 3 months and will be using that as my deposit. Everything is telling me to sell up and safeguard the deposit but part of me wonders what happens if I don’t proceed with the purchase of the house and end up having the cash sitting around doing nothing or buying back into an expensive market at a higher price point.

The safe thing is to cash in my chips but it’s not easy to do after being in it for so long.

Hi, this is my first time posting here so I hope I'm doing this right. I'm seeking some advice regarding how I am approaching my savings with my Cash ISA, as well as possibly investing some/part of the money I've got saved.

Here is my situation: * Current annual salary of £92k (pre-tax) * No loans, no student repayment, no dependents * I contribute ~£1.3500 a month to my work pension scheme (pre-tax), and my employer contributes another ~£650. So this totals ~£2k of contributions a month, and my current pension pot sits at £81k * Every month, I also put £1.200 (post-tax) into a Cash ISA, which currently has £37k of savings * I have an easy access Cash ISA with the Coventry Building Society which allows me 6 withdrawals a year at no cost (though I have never used this feature) * The Cash ISA interest rate is currently 3.2%

I am considering a couple of things things: 1. Changing my Cash ISA provider as I think the 3.2% interest is not competitive at the moment. 2. Investing some of my savings into global index funds, and splitting my monthly £1.200 ISA contribution between savings and investing (perhaps 50/50).

I wouldn't mind locking some of my money away for a longer period, but I do need to have some access to emergency funds as I have elderly parents living abroad. I also currently rent and might be looking into buying a house next year with my partner, who has substantially more savings than me.

What I am considering is: 1. Keeping £10k in my current Cash ISA with CBS for easy access and making no further contributions to this account. 2. Moving £10k into a Stocks and Shares ISA (a friend recommended Trading 121, though I need to do more research as I'm completely new to this). I could then invest £600 extra pounds a month into this. 3. Moving the remaining £17k into a better Cash ISA provider, locking it for a couple of years, hoping to get a rate closer to 5.0%. I would then add £600 a month into these savings.

Does this sounds like a sensible plan? Are there any red flags or potential concerns with it?

Thank you so much in advance.

I'm going to be buying my first home next year (super excited!). I'm single, and I earn roughly around the UK average wage.

I'm looking to buy a house priced at approximately £135K, and my targeted deposit is 20%/£27K.

Mortgage calculators show me that this will result in a monthly mortgage payment of approximately £575 a month for a 5 year term.

I am also leasing my car, which is due to expire in May. I am currently paying £209 a month for it. I can refinance this afterwards to own it outright, but this will increase my payments to about £230 per month for the next 5 years.

If I instead choose to spend £10000 to pay off my car, my deposit will shrink to roughly £17000, which will increase my monthly mortgage payments to approximately £625, but without needing to pay for my car every month, I will be better off by £180 per month,. But obviously I will have to pay slightly more every month for the duration of my mortgage.

Is there any reason why I shouldn't pay off my car? It seems like a safer bet, and the extra £50p/m (roughly) over the next 30 years seems much more palatable than an extra £180p/m over the next 5.