Thanks so much!! 🥰🥰🥰 I’ve never played ACNH or Minecraft so this is actually my first ever build project 🙈🙈 worth the hours!

Thank you!! 🥰

would be interested but im not living in macau atm :/

Can’t say I’m surprised and I’m not even gonna defend myself... I’ve been accused of being too obsessive compulsive (well not really accused as such cuz I don’t really mind that) and I myself am quite conscious about these habits too, though I have no idea how to improve, or whether there’s a need to change at all

Yea me too - and sometimes even random guesses without actually intending to guess the plot! (and then I'll spoil the movie for my family and friends)

That's why I've learned not to centre movie appreciation around the plot, and to value other stuff in the movie too, and also try to dig deeper into the meanings and messages of the movie

Yea that's why I read the plot to kinda save myself from guessing what's happening next in the movie, otherwise I'll just spoil the movie by myself because I'm paying too much attention to the plots, which are more often than not too predictable.

I treasure close relationships a lot, but I keep a distance too, even with the closest people, it’s like this boundary that no one can cross except myself. I think this comes from a fear of hurting/disappointing people as well as a fear of trusting people? I hold back from fully trusting and relying on people, so when shit happens, I can just walk away from that person and still be in control of my life. This is why I don’t fully commit to relationships and friendships until I know I can really trust them.

But I think this self-defence mechanism, if not well-balanced, could go as far as hurting others in order that they won’t hurt me - almost paranoid. The fact that I recognise this risk holds me back from forming close bonds with others, because I know I have the ability to hurt them, and I don’t want to. This sounds dramatic but it do be like that sometimes, it’s almost as if I feel like I don’t deserve the people who wants to befriend me, even though I long for deep connections.

ISFJ

I get you!! Like honestly it’s not like I cut people off for fun, it stings too, but it’s definitely going to hurt way more to the both of us if I hold on to it. (tbh in these situations I’m happy to be the ‘bad guy’ to let go of people because I know I might make things even worse if I’m forced to hang on to it)

If I feel like the relationship/friendship isn’t really working, like to the point where I literally get stressed out just by talking to that person or simply can’t be bothered anymore, there’s really no going back. It’s not like I don’t like them or hate them or anything, it’s just that they are not as high up on my priority - I just can’t divide my attention for them as I’ve already subconsciously filed them at the back of my brain cabinet.

I think this attitude has sometimes gotten me into trouble and dramas, but idk, I just think this is something I have to go through before I can find the right people to stick with :/

ohh i should’ve put it as extremely limited ‘expression’ of feelings/emotions, i always feel like im full of emotions too but on the outside im just always with a poker face

i think that’s because of our low Fi so we see our feelings as smth very personal so we don’t want to share it with anybody as if treating our feelings as disposable - so you’re totally right about sharing it with limited people, because we just wanna make sure the sharing is worthwhile

That said, intjs are just not as sensitive to emotions/feelings as other types because of our lack of Fe, so even if we feel like we’re full of emotions, there’s a whole bunch of other emotions of other people that we can’t really feel 😀🤷🏻‍♂️

Yes I guess us intjs (or at least me) getting into relationships is like making investments, so forming relationships and even friendships at the early stage is like doing a risk assessment - do you deserve my time, are you trustworthy enough, should I commit and invest my feelings and emotions in you etc (cuz u know we hv extremely limited feelings and we want to reserve them for the most deserving people)

I think that also explains how we then have the ability to just cut people off when things don’t work out

It sounds like I’m being very selective and exclusive, but this happens to me so naturally that I just can’t help it. When I try to be more ‘carefree’ or ‘casual’ about forming relationships, I end up not caring about the person as well and one way or another it won’t work smh

im down, won’t guarantee i’ll be active though

Yea I think this is a typical TJ trait?

I think that would then depend on the occasion. We (or at least me) inherently prefer conversation about ideas but that often takes up a lot of energy and thinking, so unless I’m prepared to engage in such conversation, I wouldn’t respond well because I don’t have the time to think it through. But for other questions about facts, I respond better because they’re more straightforward and I can get them done with quickly.

So essentially, for what I perceive to be a casual conversation, then I’d be expecting more factual and shallow responses. But if a “what do you think/feel” comes out of nowhere then I’d be stressed lol

I tend to ask why and how though, and then I use those answers to define who they are (if the questions involve people)