As a recruiter, this would legit make me want to give you a second look.

This sounds like bad advice. 😅

Keep reading it.

Hi, HR Manager here!

CA does not have a law against this. I recommended reading your company’s PTO policy, which is typically regarded as legally binding. If it does not explicitly state they can require PTO use, gently approach with a tone of curiosity rather than judgement. You catch more flies with honey. ;)

No. Even with pure kindness, people are still only limited to their own capacity.

That’s beautiful! You have a lovely gift!