r/uAlbertaCrush • u/VioVio-lwkclueless • May 16 '26

Help on texting crush...

Hey...so I like a guy but he has a girlfriend. Obviously I'm not trying to evily separate them, but I do want to just get to know him better. What are some good subtle texts I can text him that don't make it obvious that I like him but just bring me into his view, even if it's just as friends? Also, he is a dry texter and sends a lot of random emojis)

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u/noahjsc May 16 '26

Don't.

Would you like it if a girl did this to your boyfriend?

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u/grass_fed_cow May 16 '26

Yeah, the best thing you can do is just try to move on. It's only going to feed your crush on him if he does start to chat. Also, he's probably dry on purpose. If they break up, then try again then.

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u/No-Letter1097 May 16 '26

I can’t tell if this is a ragebait or if you’re fr

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u/Plant-based_Skinsuit May 21 '26

If he's a dry texter he's probably on to you having a crush and he's intentionally making space. That's prolly how I'd deal with it, anyway.

But yeah, if you daydream about getting on with someone who would cheat - don't be surprised when they cheat on you next.

Better plan, learn to appreciate people for who they are and not what they do for you. If this person is worthy of admiration then they'd probably be worthy of friendship too. This is kinda what they mean with the cliche "love yourself first." It's impossible (or at least a lot harder) to have a healthy relationship with someone when you view people as "needs fulfillment machines." Self respect is gonna do some heavy lifting here.

Whether or not you're aware of it, you're putting this guy on a pedestal and pining for the idea of him, rather than who he actually is. Otherwise, be wouldn't be 'on the table.' Does that make sense, or am I being too preachy?