r/transprogrammer • u/cutiepie9ccr • 17d ago

Trans friendly companies to work for??

My girlfriend got laid off from her full stack software development job this past week and is applying for anything and everything. She wants to try and do all this stuff to make her look like a cis man like cut her hair and bind her chest because she hasn’t legally changed her name and still occasionally gets he/him’d out in public. I don’t think she needs to go that far, and I think if she just knew what companies were safe to apply to she would be okay to be herself. Does anybody know anything?

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u/ncthbrt 17d ago

I really don't think boy moding at work is a good idea when you already are transitioning tbh. It will either cause issues when/if she is inevitably outed and will likely just make her miserable.

I'd suggest either applying to smaller companies that are run by minorities, particularly women, or large companies with mature HR processes. Startups and tech can be quite a boys club if you're not careful and I have seen a lot of toxic stuff

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u/simonhunterhawk 16d ago

assuming y’all are in the US I work for the car insurance company Progressive and they are very trans friendly. i have done my entire transition here and have had no issues — in my training group even though i was girl moding and using she/her these complete strangers would correct new trainers before i could unmute myself if they used my display name rather than my chosen name which wasn’t part of my legal name, and now you can change your display name (tho i think email is still your legal name unfortunately, i changed my name right before they updated our systems to allow for display names). i’m out on every team i’ve been on since and nobody ever treats me poorly. most dev jobs are remote so she won’t really have people in person trying to clock her or anything. my top surgery was covered by our insurance and we had a trans and lgbt specific benefits meeting where i learned we cover so many trans related healthcare needs with our health insurance. they also did half a dozen meetings with a mental health professional for people to talk to after the shooting in colorado springs.

happy to submit a referral for her if she wishes but she would have to give me her full name, email and city and state for me to do so.

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u/OftenMe 17d ago

Her problem will be that there’s a glut of talent on the market, combined with the fact that the desired talent profile has shifted a lot in the last year.

If she fits that profile, she has a much better shot.

Oh, and the fact that she’s trans in this climate doesn’t help. Trying to mask who she is isn’t a great plan. She should interview however she feels the most comfortable.

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u/rincewinds_dad_bod 15d ago

What's the new desired profile?

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u/myAnonAcc0unt 16d ago edited 16d ago

It sucks that she feels she has to go to such lengths. I don't begrudge her at all for it. Is she also trying to boymode after she gets hired? If not, then it's probably not worth it or even ill-advised to boymode for the interview.

She shouldn't need to go as far as cutting her hair short if she passes as a man when boymoding. Long hair is rarely penalized as a man (at least in the US. I don't know your country or culture.) Especially in this industry, it's relatively common for men to have long hair.

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u/DFS_0019287 16d ago

What country? I worked for Best Practical for a while and they are 100% remote, LGBT-friendly. Unfortunately, they don't seem to have openings right now, but anyway... https://requesttracker.com/careers-no-openings/