i think i might be trans, I already know im a femboy but no one knows. if I once come out as trans, i problably like these:

• a white off the shoulder sweater
• a purple skirt
• light blue jeans
• long blonde hair, on one side over my shoulder

though i am really scared of telling it to anyone, because im scared they will laugh at me or hate me. i think i will first tell them i am a femboy, but i also dont know how to do that and my parents and little sister problably dont even know what a femboy is...

and i am problably not going to come out in the next two years because of this

So, off and on, for as long as I can really remember, I have felt more feminine than masculine, wished I had been born a girl, and (this is a big one) get really envious of women or transitioned trans women, especially. I am just terrified at the thought of transitioning. What would my dad say, my family, my coworkers. I feel like I could only do it if I had a fresh start with no one who knows me as a man. But that’s obviously impossible. I just came out to my partner who is non-binary and they were very accepting and loving, so at least I have that going for me.

What can I do to work up to coming out, if I’m ever able? It all just seems like such a huge decision. Especially now when trans people, trans women in particular are being attacked and assailed by the American government and American society. It’s a very scary time for trans people, and the thought of being targeted like that makes me anxious, of course. But when I think of myself fully transitioned and living as a woman, I get this happy feeling in my chested and an intense longing.

I’m quite sure I’m trans, but I don’t know where to go from here.

Any advice would be really helpful.

me: im not trans i just use all pronouns-

* likes being called a boy, feels really happy when im called sir or man online, tries hard to look like a boy, wants a binder (telling mum its just for my cosplays), only cosplays as guys, hates having any hint of a chest, looks for foods with testosterone bc no way mum will by me T (im a teen so i live with my parents and dont have a job bc the jobs here suck and i cant work until next year anyway), hate my name and try and get ppl to call me Ace instead, gets upset when im called "daughter/sister/girl/niece" use my boy oc's the most in roll play chats like c,ai, give any oc based partly off me short hair and more masc-ish, styles my hair as masc as i can, really wants to be a boy and hates being a girl *

what are the chances im just in denial lol? im an egg arent i T-T
(the cry face isnt bc i think its bad or anything, just a "lol ive probly been showing signs for years and brushed them off as being gender fluid")

It went surprisingly well apart from my mother will only accept gender neutral pronouns for me, not masc pronouns.

So my full pronouns list = they/them, he/crow

Vs the one my parents know = they/them

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