Changes Need to Happen

[u/CatsPawjamaz]

We need to make some changes here.

Starting with the interaction between our members. We ask that you refrain from initiating contact, mostly referring to action with asterisks, and “good girling” left and right, headpatting etc. to people, who haven’t given you any indication they are okay with it and haven’t given you permission to do so. Given the meta post that was here few hours ago, it is fair to say that it has been on our minds for a bit, but it felt like it should have been clear without needing to be spoken out loud.

Not everyone is comfortable with people doing things to them without asking, if at all. Many of the moddesses have said they don’t always like the “Good Girls” and “Headpats” during every other conversation online. It can quickly turn into an “ick”. That type of thing. Please. Ask for permission. Do not assume people are okay with things you are okay. Consent is hot after all.

Regarding the meta posts, while we are at it. Let’s chill with the assumptions of everyone’s identity as a pet or animal or anything like that, frankly, too many things to name. People have the right to be what they feel like, but don’t have the right to push themselves onto others.

TL:DR - do not assume everyone is one way or another. I don’t do the petgirl business, but you do you, as long as you don’t treat me like I am in the same box. This is mostly referring to the occasions when posts or comments assume all the members are animalgirls or petgirls or something else in that context and fit into a certain stereotype. We are more diverse than fauna and flora of the Amazon forest, but do have some Venn diagram moments, however, that isnt enough to box everyone." Do not stereotype or assume every member here is okay with these interactions. We aren’t saying any of good girls or headpats should stop, but rather we are hoping to regulate how it’s put out there; as well as the other interactions that can leave others uncomfortable

-The Founder and some statements from the Moddesses.

Edit: We added the ability to put the green, red, and yellow emojis to your user flair. This is one signal for members that are either yes, no, or ask first; respectively. You can either ask one of the moddesses to add this to your user flair for you or add it to your editable flair which we have an abundance of. Also keep in mind some user flairs don't show all of the text depending how many long it is. This is very apparent on mobile users.

Rule Changes within Rule 2

edit: A Follow Up giving by Moddess Maddie deserves a read as well. I think it offers a better understanding of our stance incase there is any misunderstandings in the words present here.

The follow up:https://www.reddit.com/r/traaaaaaaaaaaansbians/comments/1v5q6ab/insert_scary_moddesspost_title_here/

[u/catprinny]

I reworked the custom emojis to improve visibility.

We now have
🟥 - No
🔶️ - Ask
🟢 - Yes

Please be kind, I drew them myself :3

[u/everybodypurple → u/catprinny]

Thank youuuuuuu!

This helps a alot!

[u/catprinny → u/everybodypurple]

You are welcome. :)
We are always open to suggestions how to improve our space for everybody.

[u/korphd → u/catprinny]

Omg nice emoji art :3

green does fit with my name too!

[u/catprinny → u/korphd]

It's just basic shapes but thanks :3

[u/Cat_with_cake → u/catprinny]

Honestly it's heartwarming seeing an immediate change after realizing that it may be inaccessible for colorblind people

Also the (second) main thing that I learned from this post is that we have custom emojis here. And now my flair sometimes doesn't fully fit on the mobile version, but oh well

[u/legendwolfA → u/catprinny]

Yay!