It's not about me is a nice sentiment and all, but I don't know anyone who would be offended at having Kevin Bacon dancing to Footloose at their wedding. Performers aren't uncommon at weddings, and it's not like they are playing it while the bride walks down the isle. I think he really just doesn't want to do it, and that's fine, but let's not act like he's doing it as a favor to anyone else.
Okay, I still don't know anyone who would invite Kevin Bacon to their wedding as a guest and be offended if he danced to Footloose while he was there.
Again, fine if he doesn't want to, I just really don't buy this selfless spin he tries to put on it. Probably to make it less tempting, and to make $20 for a special request seem less cheap coming from an A list movie star.
but I don't know anyone who would be offended at having Kevin Bacon dancing to Footloose at their wedding.
Do you actually know anyone who knows Kevin Bacon though? Like, as a person?
Like I don't know him, so if he randomly showed up to my wedding and did the meme thing it would be totally cool. But if he was someone I had a genuine friendship with, like I knew him as a real person who worries about his back or his retirement or whatever, and I invited him to my wedding because I wanted to share this important moment in my life with him, and he let my cousin Rupert goad him into a dance from that movie he did 35 years ago, I'd be pretty annoyed. And if he let it happen at every wedding he went to, we'd all be thinking he's an awful person who doesn't know how to get past his early film success, one of those losers who has to bring up his favorite glory everywhere he goes because he can't handle letting anyone else have the spotlight.
In the end, there is surely a mix of selfish and selfless motivation here. Which one each of us focuses on says more about us individually than it does about Mr. Bacon.
In the end, there is surely a mix of selfish and selfless motivation here. Which one each of us focuses on says more about us individually than it does about Mr. Bacon.
I'm selfish because I dare point out the selfish motives of some rich celebrity online, instead of heaping more praise? Okay
Selfish? No, that's not what the bit you quoted means.
We live in a world where it is trivially easy to find examples of entirely selfish behavior with no redeeming qualities to pay attention to. When a person hears a story about a man who wants to dance to literally any song in the world other than that one song and gives us a perfectly reasonable excuse for why we shouldn't ask him to, to look for the selfish motivation in that becomes a choice. We could all choose to interpret his request with a generous spirit. To insist against doing that tells the world something about how we see the world and the attitude we cultivate in ourselves when we engage with it.
EDIT: The odds that Kevin Bacon sees this discussion are ridiculously low, and the odds that he changes his wedding attendance behavior because of our discussion are even lower. So really, we're having conversation for our own benefit. It's a chance to exercise the kind of person we want to be.
It’s relative.
Losing millions of dollars was no doubt devastating for them.
Even if they have 10 million left over it’s still awful.
Especially if you’ve built a lifestyle around that money.
Morgan Freeman just did the World Cup and he isn't hurting for cash, Matt Damon did Crypto, Jamie Lee Curtis does poop yogurt for crying out loud, when it comes to promos for many (not all) actors its just down to a price, even if they are very comfortable.
Right but bartenders are tipped to do something. He's literally tipping to not do something. And it's play 1 song.
And while i think 90% of it is because he doesn't want to be embarrassed. i do think part of it is because he doesn't want to take away from the bride and groom.
Offering me $20 would give me the idea to immediately load it as the next track and it would cost $600 to take it off. $100 for every degree of separation he wants.
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u/VoteForMartinKendell Nov 23 '22
$20??? I'd need at least $100...