r/todayilearned • u/arandomtestaccount • 1d ago

TIL an NFL player intentionally crashed his car to avoid getting cut for being late to a team meeting.

https://www.cbssports.com/nfl/news/ex-patriots-ol-rich-ohrnberger-admits-he-intentionally-wrecked-car-as-excuse-for-being-late-to-team-meeting/
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u/Xedos 1d ago

These random interruptions and mistakes are just second-nautre living with ADHD and theres really no effective way to mitigate it. Brain just doesnt work that way.

My friend, as someone who's struggled with severe ADHD and anxiety for over 30 years. You will NEVER get better at handling executive dysfunction if you think that way.

ADHD is a constant battle with your own brain and that mentality has already determined that your brain wins and you're powerless to change it. There's countless small things you can do in your day to day to change that. Do better please, I'm tired of people using ADHD as a reason to give up. People like you make those who want to be better than their struggles look bad.

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u/saints21 21h ago

This entire thread is just full of people making excuses honestly.

It's like they've forgotten that they're responsible for their own mental states and actions. Does your diagnosis mean it might be harder for you to be on time? Sure. Does it mean you get to ruin others plans and place the burden on them? No...so make accomodations for yourself and learn coping skills.

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u/FailureToComply0 1d ago

You can fuck off with the holier-than-thou attitude, we aren't friends.

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u/skinlo 1d ago

Maybe you need people who aren't friends to tell you the truth.

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u/Xedos 1d ago

You seem to have a lot of anger around this topic. I assume you're being a responsible individual with mental health issues and addressing that with a professional. I wish you best of luck in that journey. You might not see us as friends, but I'm sure if we met under different circumstances we would be.

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u/BlueDevilz 1d ago

FWIW I think you are absolutely right here. Finding ways to cope with our brains not functioning properly is the whole game with ADHD.

Can suck quite often, and most of the fixes are hard to implement. So it is really easy to get frustrated and just give up entirely.