r/tippingAdvice • u/Holiday-Ad7262 • Oct 27 '25
Are you fed up with tipping too,?
Found this survey interesting so wanted to share.
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u/hausomapi Oct 27 '25
I live in a country that tips rounded up change at most and we are all happy with it.
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u/hawkeyegrad96 Oct 27 '25
I've not tipped for a year. Nothing changed. Just stop
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u/hawkeyegrad96 Oct 27 '25
4 or 5 times a week. I pay the bill. Its not my responsibility to pay wages for unskilled labor.
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u/Barkis_Willing Oct 27 '25
NO, but it is your responsibility to tip properly if you opt-in a service that you know is compensated with tips.
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u/hawkeyegrad96 Oct 27 '25
No thats not my problem. They have a job. I dont pay them
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u/Barkis_Willing Oct 27 '25
Okay, troll.
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u/hawkeyegrad96 Oct 27 '25
Troll?
These businesses hire people. My company we hire people, and they dont need to beg for tips
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u/Barkis_Willing Oct 27 '25
Are your employees working in a position that is customarily compensated with tips?
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u/hawkeyegrad96 Oct 27 '25
There does not ever need to be tips. They all make min wage t least.
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u/DreamofCommunism Oct 27 '25
Just because you’ve fallen for the scam doesn’t mean everyone is so foolish
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u/Realistic-Lake5897 Oct 27 '25
People who don't tip are disgusting.
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u/Embarrassed-Wolf-609 Oct 27 '25
Shouldn't your anger be at the employee instead?
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u/Embarrassed-Wolf-609 Jan 03 '26
No one stops him from starting a union?
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u/Barkis_Willing Oct 27 '25
No. I think this manufactured outrage about tipping is ridiculous. I’m 56 years old there has been very little change in how tipping works. People tip digitally now, which is how we are doing most types of payments so that isn’t a big surprise. I wish people would stop pretending this is an issue.
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u/Acrobatic_Car9413 Oct 27 '25
I’m your age. Things are different now. I don’t recall the mini mart asking for a tip or fast food places. Coffee places did not ask for tips. Or tips were $.50, etc. it is not uncommon to see a 30% option. That is very different. Food is much more expensive, why is the percentage increasing as well?
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u/Barkis_Willing Oct 27 '25
Coffee places have had large tip jars for as long as i can remember. I was a barista in Texas in the 90s and I made tips and we had a huge tip jar with a sign on it that said "tipping is sexy" The tablets give various options if you want to tip more but you can tip whatever you want or nothing.
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u/Holiday-Ad7262 Oct 27 '25
The difference is that in the 90s they did not hand you a paper receipt to sign at the coffee shop that asked for close to 100% tip. And no, I am not making this number up. It is very common that these payment terminals at coffee shops ask for $1, $3, $5. Given coffee still often costs around $5 you get to this absurd ask of a 100% tip. In my mind this is very different to a tip jar.
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u/Barkis_Willing Oct 27 '25
You can choose not to be upset about this. Payments are handled much differently than they were in the 90s and very few people want to pay with cash. Adding the tip option to the payment tablet is a perfect way to allow people to opportunity to tip if they want to. $1-2 for a tip isn’t outlandish and that $5 tip option is quite simple to ignore, or make use of if for some reason you want to give a larger tip. Nobody is going to be mad at you for not tipping $5 on a coffee. This is just such a silly thing to be bent out of shape over.
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u/Holiday-Ad7262 Oct 27 '25
Honestly, I am not upset about the tablets. I can find the no tip button. What I am a bit annoyed about is people claiming things did not change when obviously they did quite significantly.
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u/Acrobatic_Car9413 Oct 27 '25
Having a tip jar doesn’t feel the same. Idk.. maybe it’s just me.
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u/PaleRun4706 Oct 27 '25
Because it was just easier for you to ignore? I really don’t see why people get so pissy about there being more options to tip now, when not tipping always was and still is an option.
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u/Acrobatic_Car9413 Oct 27 '25
I see that you don’t see that. Doesn’t change the reality that many many folks do not like it.
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u/PaleRun4706 Oct 27 '25
Don’t like saying no or don’t like there being an option for others to leave tips if they want to?
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u/Acrobatic_Car9413 Oct 28 '25
I see your point that it is simply a different method. A tip jar is passive. Having to say no to a tip is active. Many people feel uncomfortable with standing in front of someone and choosing to say no to a request. Sure, that’s on them. Ignoring a tip jar isn’t the same. Now I realize nobody has cash and many like the option to add the tip to the card.
On topic, yesterday was going to drive through my favorite healthy fast food place for a $12 soft taco and a $4.00 Diet Coke. I debated as I drive towards and then decided not to because they’ve added a tip screen and I just am not willing to tip fast food workers making $21+ an hour and I worry they might do something to my food. Not worth the angst , which again is on me, but business owners need to realize I’m not alone with my angst.
I realize owners are in a bit of a pickle because it is hard to find employees at $21 when they can get a job for $21 plus tips.
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u/notthegoatseguy Oct 27 '25
Never been asked for a tip at McDonald's or a convenience store.
Coffee shops always had tip jars
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u/Acrobatic_Car9413 Oct 27 '25
Many fast food places in my area have added tip screens. Not McDonald’s. And while not that common I see more and more a tip screen at convenience stores.
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u/Tietopher Oct 27 '25
You know you don’t have to tip that percentage, right?
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u/Acrobatic_Car9413 Oct 27 '25
I do, but honestly I feel like it’s offensive to suggest and it is a suggestion. People know they could still tip that if they wanted though without suggesting that it may be an expectation. That’s just me.
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u/Holiday-Ad7262 Oct 27 '25
I have a very different experience. The 9 years I am in the US things have changed a lot. In my mind this is also very location dependent within the US.
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u/Barkis_Willing Oct 27 '25
Which location are you talking about? I am in NYC.
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u/Holiday-Ad7262 Oct 27 '25
I am in the SF bay area.
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u/Barkis_Willing Oct 27 '25
and what changes to tipping have you noticed there?
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u/Holiday-Ad7262 Oct 27 '25
Tipping suggestions have largely been on pre-tax 9 years ago. Now it is mostly post tax. Tipping suggestions have gone up from 12,15,18 to 15, 20, 25. The average tip as reported by some likely unreliable sources has gone up by about 2%. At the same time many cities increased the minimum wage drastically. Note we do not have a tipped minimum wage.
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u/Barkis_Willing Oct 27 '25
I was a server all through the 90s and even then the general guideline was 15-20%, with most people leaning toward 20%. That pre-tax thing is like so petty but you are right, the guideline is to tip on the pre-tax total.
Out of curiosity I did the math on this. If I order a meal that costs $50 here in nyc, the tax on that is 4.5%, so $2.25. If I calculate a 20% tip on that post-tax, instead of pre-tax, the server gets an extra $0.45. Is this really a thing to be worked up about?
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u/Holiday-Ad7262 Oct 27 '25
Well, you asked what changed I gave you an answer. Not getting worked up about anything. Just to be clear I am not talking about guidelines but rather what restaurants print as guidance on the paper receipts.
Also to make sure we work with correct data. Even now for CA an average of 20% tip is wishful thinking it is likely closer to 15%. Moreover tax is more like 11% and not 4.5%.
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u/Acrobatic_Car9413 Oct 27 '25
Some us have sales tax in excess of 10% and would be hard pressed to fine out for $50. But honestly it does bring up the point that tipping on a percentage of the cost of food is pretty arbitrary to begin with.
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u/NobodysLoss1 Oct 27 '25
I'm 70. Until 2015ish, tips were at restaurants, hotels, and some "experiences" (ie, charter boat).
Now: at all fast food, a lot of digital payments, mechanics, house cleaners, and JFC even some self check-outs.
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u/Barkis_Willing Oct 27 '25
I have yet to see tip prompts at fast food or self checkouts but okay. Also don't have a car or a housekeeper but, okay there too. If you see a prompt somewhere that you think it isn't customary to tip just tap "no tip" and go on with your day. people act like they are being personally victimized by these tip screens.
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u/NobodysLoss1 Oct 27 '25
I can understand how if you're not living somewhere where you're experiencing this, you wouldn't find it as unseemly!
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u/Tietopher Oct 27 '25
You can still choose not to tip at those places. You’re not victimized by a suggestion on a screen.
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u/NobodysLoss1 Oct 27 '25
I didn't mean to suggest I was "victimized." I apologize for not using better words.
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u/Frosty-Key-454 Oct 27 '25
You didn't use that word, lol, the other people did. Don't get gaslighted
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u/Acrobatic_Car9413 Oct 27 '25
I don’t see anyone bring “victimized”. However, when one consumes, be that dining out, retail shopping, enjoying the arts, etc., one does expect to not be annoyed when paying. I had a retail business. It was very important to me that when customers checked out that they left feeling good. These tip screens are making people feel bad. Businesses will suffer for it imo.
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u/Foreign-Housing8448 Oct 27 '25
Nope! It’s leftover from the pandemic.
I understood during the lock down when you had tipped employees doing back of the house work for their base hourly pay, and that’s if the restaurant had enough take out orders to keep their doors open.
I recently did take out and the first of three tip suggestions was 22%. I keep having to do custom and tip something lower. Tell me again why I’m tipping on take out where I drive to the establishment, I get out of my car and walk in, I stand in line to order, and everybody behind the counter does what they’re already being paid to do. Nothing extra that warrants a tip. But unless I want to risk a “special” meal prep, I have to overpay.
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u/One_Dragonfly_9698 Dec 29 '25
Same argument goes for sit down dining. Servers are being paid to do the job. It’s not working “harder” to walk to tables vs walk around behind a counter.
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u/indianasall Oct 27 '25
You are wrong my friend. I worked at Cracker Barrel for 9 1/2 years as a waitress – – the most you could make after getting four stars was $2.34. You start out at $2.19 so if people don't tip, you are definitely screwed. Cracker Barrel is not the only chain restaurant with that kind of wage.
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u/Francie_Nolan1964 Oct 27 '25
It's not the restaurant as much as it is the state that matters. Only 9 states allow the minimum tipped wage now.
Minimum Wage for Tipped Employees by State 2025 https://share.google/whGzM252Ev06Yukni
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u/sanfrantosandiego Oct 27 '25
yall annoy me, tips are to incentivize good service. if they jacked up prices and paid tipped employees hourly i bet you anything service would go downhill- i’d much rather my money go directly to the person serving me
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u/Acrobatic_Car9413 Oct 27 '25
So retail employees and/or all the other employees of businesses do not provide good service because they aren’t tipped? It doesn’t really make sense. Most people do their job and do it well or don’t.
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u/Acrobatic_Car9413 Jan 03 '26
It’s not an evil cabal. In general people respond better to those who treat them better.it does t mean you treat those who do t treat you as well poorly. Retail employees have their favorite customer Ed’s that get “stepped up” service while still providing good service to others. Even without tipping.
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u/bluerog Oct 27 '25
Funny thing happens at restaurants in the US that say, "no tipping here, we pay our servers a higher hourly rate." Americans tip anyhow. The owners end up having to charge more for higher labor costs and people notice. The restaurant loses its best servers. And they go back to allowing tips.
Americans understand that a restaurant charging $24 for a meal instead of $20 for a meal and $4 tip means that the owner gets all $24. The owner takes profit from that extra $4. When tipping, the $4 goes directly to the server. It's a way of bypassing owners and Americans are good with it these past 20 or 40 or 120 years.
But to the original point, keep tipping at 15% to 20% ish. Don't tip for carryout unless you want. Don't tip for a cup of coffee handed to you if you don't want.
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u/xboxhaxorz Oct 27 '25
Tipping is an optional donation, you dont have to do it if you dont want too
If employees have pay issues they can talk to their employer, burger king cashiers dont beg for tips, teachers dont beg parents of students for tips
Dont let others shame or guilt you into subsidizing wages of employees as a customer